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10 Apr 2012, 6:20 pm

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i don't think it's men's fault. but it isn't women's fault either. i think it's better to work at changing society than assigning blame to blameless individuals.


If (some)women choose to wear those kinds of clothing(heels, pantyhose, etc), then technically that is their "fault". But even so it's certainly not a crime for them to dress that way, nor should it ever be.

cultural conditioning can't be solely blamed on an individual.



Does that mean there's no such thing as free will?

Attributing everything to culture conditioning creates a whole nother chicken-&-egg problem, though.

i said "solely". it is a mixture of factors. but really, you can't raise people in a certain society then expect that they will behave different to the "norm". changes do happen, but the groundbreakers tend to be denigerated (like.... feminists, for example).


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10 Apr 2012, 6:23 pm

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Since feminists are ostensibly in favour of gender equality, are feminists ready to relinquish special privileges afforded to women? Including hiring quotas and anti-discrimination laws that give special protections to women?

actually, i think that we should do the reverse and start hiring quotas for men in industries where they are under-represented, such as nursing, child care, retail, and primary teaching.

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A lot of women spend a lot more on fashions, cosmetics, shoes, and clothing than a lot of men. Shall we strive to equal-out these differences?

well, we'd have to start by changing society so that women are no longer expected to wear makeup or fancy shoes or hair adornments (and so on). then make the available clothing and cosmetics as cheap for women as they are for men. these 2 things would significantly level the costs.

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In fact, being a woman in this country has become an increasingly expensive proposition. It's not just dry cleaning and haircuts where women get socked: We pay more for home mortgages, health insurance, and cars and car repairs (even when we mind our credit, eat right and exercise, and do our homework), not to mention everyday items like deodorant and disposable razors. California, which in 1996 became the first state to ban gender pricing, found that women paid about $1,351 annually in extra costs and fees.

http://www.marieclaire.com/world-report ... n-pay-more


http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/artic ... rmone.html

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10 Apr 2012, 6:44 pm

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Ragtime, two points:
first, most of us don't give a damn about your love life, and we've already had TMI from you.
second, one couple is an anecdote. Your experience with your wife is an anecdote.
It''s not data, any more than if an individual woman was posting here about how her husband really liked her to be a dominatrix. Some people are really into that stuff, and some dress it up as religion, but it doesn't have relevance to the general population and frankly I don't want to hear about it any more than I want to hear about how my parents like to have sex. Please show the same amount of decency as everyone else on this thread and stop telling us about your sex life, ok?


I'm not talking about our sex life. :?

And everything you feel is an anecdote, too.

You were, and you continue to talk about how happy your wife is as a sub.
Yes, everything I feel is an anecdote; however, my logic and reasoning are not anecdotes, nor is the evidence that I frequently post.



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10 Apr 2012, 6:47 pm

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Hyperlexian: Most wool suits(business or evening)are custom made for each person. Many women's dresses are made in a range of sizes. If you're talking about wedding dresses, than yes, they are a LOT more expensive than men's suits. But you'd be hard pressed to find a decent, new custom made wool suit for under $200. Whereas there are plenty of women's dresses that cost even less than that. Especially if you shop online. Designer dresses are a whole nother kettle of fish though. Especially if they're custom fit.

Many men's suits are also made in a range of sizes, and even women's dresses off the rack are often several hundred dollars if they're well made. If I were shopping for a new women's business suit, I would expect to pay $300 or more off the rack for decent quality, and at least a hundred more if I had it custom fitted.



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10 Apr 2012, 6:54 pm

HereComesTheRain wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
ArrantPariah wrote:
Since feminists are ostensibly in favour of gender equality, are feminists ready to relinquish special privileges afforded to women? Including hiring quotas and anti-discrimination laws that give special protections to women?

actually, i think that we should do the reverse and start hiring quotas for men in industries where they are under-represented, such as nursing, child care, retail, and primary teaching.

ArrantPariah wrote:
A lot of women spend a lot more on fashions, cosmetics, shoes, and clothing than a lot of men. Shall we strive to equal-out these differences?

well, we'd have to start by changing society so that women are no longer expected to wear makeup or fancy shoes or hair adornments (and so on). then make the available clothing and cosmetics as cheap for women as they are for men. these 2 things would significantly level the costs.

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In fact, being a woman in this country has become an increasingly expensive proposition. It's not just dry cleaning and haircuts where women get socked: We pay more for home mortgages, health insurance, and cars and car repairs (even when we mind our credit, eat right and exercise, and do our homework), not to mention everyday items like deodorant and disposable razors. California, which in 1996 became the first state to ban gender pricing, found that women paid about $1,351 annually in extra costs and fees.

http://www.marieclaire.com/world-report ... n-pay-more


http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/artic ... rmone.html

Next.

the study was on rats, and the article did not include a link to the original paper. Articles in the popular press are often wretched at presenting actual science.



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10 Apr 2012, 7:49 pm

HereComesTheRain wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
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Since feminists are ostensibly in favour of gender equality, are feminists ready to relinquish special privileges afforded to women? Including hiring quotas and anti-discrimination laws that give special protections to women?

actually, i think that we should do the reverse and start hiring quotas for men in industries where they are under-represented, such as nursing, child care, retail, and primary teaching.

ArrantPariah wrote:
A lot of women spend a lot more on fashions, cosmetics, shoes, and clothing than a lot of men. Shall we strive to equal-out these differences?

well, we'd have to start by changing society so that women are no longer expected to wear makeup or fancy shoes or hair adornments (and so on). then make the available clothing and cosmetics as cheap for women as they are for men. these 2 things would significantly level the costs.

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In fact, being a woman in this country has become an increasingly expensive proposition. It's not just dry cleaning and haircuts where women get socked: We pay more for home mortgages, health insurance, and cars and car repairs (even when we mind our credit, eat right and exercise, and do our homework), not to mention everyday items like deodorant and disposable razors. California, which in 1996 became the first state to ban gender pricing, found that women paid about $1,351 annually in extra costs and fees.

http://www.marieclaire.com/world-report ... n-pay-more


http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/artic ... rmone.html

Next.

what does this study have to do with gender-based pricing on deodorant?

EDIT: nahhhhh not gonna play that game.


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10 Apr 2012, 9:03 pm

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but really, you can't raise people in a certain society then expect that they will behave different to the "norm".


I behave differently from the "norm." Am I to be celebrated?



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10 Apr 2012, 9:05 pm

Black feminism argues that sexism, class oppression, and racism are inextricably bound together. And I happen to agree with that.



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10 Apr 2012, 9:15 pm

hyperlexian wrote:
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Why blame "society?" Maybe women are just easier to manipulate, because they wish to conform to what they regard as the demands of "society", when, in fact, it is just a handful of moguls who are calling "society's" shots. The moguls decide what styles are going to be fashionable, and the ladies knock themselves out with conforming.


I really hope that's not true.


One might wish, but do you have a better explanation for the phenomenon?


I'm a simple mouse. I have more faith in womankind than that.


Have you watched The Devil Wears Prada?

I can also recommend the book Propaganda by Edward Bernays.

Would women have spontaneously taken up wearing panty-hose, high-heeled shoes, and getting cosmetic chest surgery, completely on their own, without being manipulated by a small number of men, making huge amounts of money?

Are women really out to punish themselves for being women?


Pantyhose are for warmth in winter time when wearing dresses and skirts. High heeled shoes make women feel sexy. Women dress to impress because it pays off for them. Stop blaming men for women's fashion and choices of clothing.

i don't think it's men's fault. but it isn't women's fault either. i think it's better to work at changing society than assigning blame to blameless individuals.


:roll:

Look at the women of the Kayan ethnicity

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Does elongating the neck with the heavy brass rings really make a woman feel "sexy?" Or, is it just about making wealth for the brass-ring makers? Or, is it about subjugating women?

The high-heeled shoes may make a woman in our culture feel "sexy", but to my eyes, she just looks foolish.

It used to be "society's norm" for Chinese women's feet to be disfigured to the point where it was difficult for them to walk

Image

What was this about? Making women more appealing to men? Certainly not to me. Probably just about slavishly following customs that would enrich the masters of the foot-binding industry.

And looking at this

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I don't see any point to it, and I reject the "cultural norm" that produced it.



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10 Apr 2012, 9:17 pm

ArrantPariah wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
AspieRogue wrote:
ArrantPariah wrote:
puddingmouse wrote:
ArrantPariah wrote:
puddingmouse wrote:
ArrantPariah wrote:
Why blame "society?" Maybe women are just easier to manipulate, because they wish to conform to what they regard as the demands of "society", when, in fact, it is just a handful of moguls who are calling "society's" shots. The moguls decide what styles are going to be fashionable, and the ladies knock themselves out with conforming.


I really hope that's not true.


One might wish, but do you have a better explanation for the phenomenon?


I'm a simple mouse. I have more faith in womankind than that.


Have you watched The Devil Wears Prada?

I can also recommend the book Propaganda by Edward Bernays.

Would women have spontaneously taken up wearing panty-hose, high-heeled shoes, and getting cosmetic chest surgery, completely on their own, without being manipulated by a small number of men, making huge amounts of money?

Are women really out to punish themselves for being women?


Pantyhose are for warmth in winter time when wearing dresses and skirts. High heeled shoes make women feel sexy. Women dress to impress because it pays off for them. Stop blaming men for women's fashion and choices of clothing.

i don't think it's men's fault. but it isn't women's fault either. i think it's better to work at changing society than assigning blame to blameless individuals.


:roll:

Look at the women of the Kayan ethnicity

Image

Does elongating the neck with the heavy brass rings really make a woman feel "sexy?" Or, is it just about making wealth for the brass-ring makers? Or, is it about subjugating women?

The high-heeled shoes may make a woman in our culture feel "sexy", but to my eyes, she just looks foolish.

It used to be "society's norm" for Chinese women's feet to be disfigured to the point where it was difficult for them to walk

Image

What was this about? Making women more appealing to men? Certainly not to me. Probably just about slavishly following customs that would enrich the masters of the foot-binding industry.

And looking at this

Image

I don't see any point to it, and I reject the "cultural norm" that produced it.


I do believe that women in those types of countries choose to dress that way it is rarley forced on to them.



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10 Apr 2012, 9:22 pm

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I do believe that women in those types of countries choose to dress that way it is rarley forced on to them.


To what extent is a woman's choice really hers, versus being manipulated by a fashion industry?



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10 Apr 2012, 9:24 pm

ArrantPariah wrote:
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I do believe that women in those types of countries choose to dress that way it is rarley forced on to them.


To what extent is a woman's choice really hers, versus being manipulated by a fashion industry?


Not all women are manipulated by the fashion industry it could be that they like to follow trems.



10 Apr 2012, 9:24 pm

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Black feminism argues that sexism, class oppression, and racism are inextricably bound together. And I happen to agree with that.



I honestly do not. Because in fact, black women have a higher employment rate, lower incarceration rate, and better odds at getting a job in the first place. In fact, I believe black women have lower HS drop-out rates and better chances at getting into college.



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10 Apr 2012, 9:25 pm

Joker wrote:
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I do believe that women in those types of countries choose to dress that way it is rarley forced on to them.


To what extent is a woman's choice really hers, versus being manipulated by a fashion industry?


Not all women are manipulated by the fashion industry it could be that they like to follow trems.


The trems are created by the fashion industry.



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10 Apr 2012, 9:25 pm

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Black feminism argues that sexism, class oppression, and racism are inextricably bound together. And I happen to agree with that.



I honestly do not. Because in fact, black women have a higher employment rate, lower incarceration rate, and better odds at getting a job in the first place. In fact, I believe black women have lower HS drop-out rates and better chances at getting into college.


In the south all of that is true but in places like new york chicgao ect it isn't race and sexism and go hand in hand regarldess of anyones skin color.



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10 Apr 2012, 9:59 pm

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Ragtime, two points:
first, most of us don't give a damn about your love life, and we've already had TMI from you.
second, one couple is an anecdote. Your experience with your wife is an anecdote.
It''s not data, any more than if an individual woman was posting here about how her husband really liked her to be a dominatrix. Some people are really into that stuff, and some dress it up as religion, but it doesn't have relevance to the general population and frankly I don't want to hear about it any more than I want to hear about how my parents like to have sex. Please show the same amount of decency as everyone else on this thread and stop telling us about your sex life, ok?


I'm not talking about our sex life. :?

And everything you feel is an anecdote, too.

You were, and you continue to talk about how happy your wife is as a sub.
Yes, everything I feel is an anecdote; however, my logic and reasoning are not anecdotes, nor is the evidence that I frequently post.


I'm not talking about that part of our relationship. In the quote, she was talking about submitting to me as my wife in that I am the head of the home. Perform gutter-cranial extraction please.


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