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In any case, my point was that we periodically hear about the shortage of babies and how some of these families wait on lists for a long time or go shopping for a baby outside the country. At the same time we hear about the kids that nobody wants. I don't think banning gay adoption accomplishes *anything* good.
I agree.
I once read an article/piece...I don't remember where...Harper's? Can't recall. It was written by a gay man. He had decided to knowingly adopt an HIV baby, even though he knew that there was a good chance the child would late develop AIDS (they don't always, though, soemtimes they just test positive due to the antibodies they developed in the mom's womb...or something like that). He wrote abotu feeding, nurturing, lovign this little baby girl, watching her grow up, the same tender thigns we'd all write about raising a baby of our own...She did end up with AIDS and he nursed her through that, too, until she died. It was sad but very touching...and I really respected that he had opened his heart to a child not very many would want (this is partly why he was able to adopt her- no straight couple would want her!!) He was planning to adopt another HIV+ baby in time...
I have a hell of a lot more respect for that guy than I do for any *perfect* WASPy couple wanting a perfect child...
Here is the way I look at the gay issue: it's none of my damned business who soemone else loves , <b>unless</b> it involves interference with my love life or affects my life directly and negatively somehow.
For the homophobes here, I have this question: what is it that you want/expect from the gays and lesbians of the world? Is it OK for them to be celibate but still essentially gay? Or should they live in fear and guilt every time they feel a spark of attraction for soemone of the same sex? Should they all commit suicide? I mean, what exactly woudl it take for you to accept them as real people with the same rights as you have?
I just can't see hating someone for no other reason than who they love. I'd spend all my life consumed in hatred at nice guys with trashy girls, and nice girls with asshoel boyfriends who treat them badly. If two people are happy together, fine, good for them, it is not for me to condemn or approve or render any sort of judgement on.