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14 Apr 2012, 2:57 pm

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Those are the women you meet this how ever isn't true for all women.


Nothing is true for "all women" or "all men" or "all bigenders" but as long as men are physically stronger than women the genders can never be equal its that simple. Either men dominate women through brute strength or women dominate men because the men accept the premise "even if she performs a violent act against me, I will not retaliate". It's one of the funny things, because the Murray Straus paper showed a high acceptance among females for violence against men, Straus also put in said paper that in 24% of domestic violence cases reported, the woman struck the first blow. In this case, its socially unacceptable for the man to strike back and the reason for that is?

On a pure anecdotal level, I've had women say to me and observe women say to other men, things that if a man had said that to another man that man would be in the hospital. If another man laid hands on me, I'd do the same or more likely worse to him. This is not all women, (I shouldn't have to qualify that statement) but some women are perfectly aware that its socially unacceptable for a man to react in certain ways when a woman "makes a scene" and use that to the furthest extent possible.

Regardless of how you answer this post, you are unable to do so without conceding that men and women are in fact different and thus can never be equal.


Ever heard of a female body builder they are huge and a lot stronger then I could ever be men and women can be equal it is people like you that think otherwise.



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14 Apr 2012, 2:58 pm

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To be honest, women are just as vulnerable, if not more vulnerable now, hence why women I meet when I'm out during an evening walk tend to cross the road or pull out their cellphones when they see me coming towards them.


That's called being streetwise. Men are much more often the victims of street crime (muggings, etc) than women are, anyway. Are men more vulnerable?


Men are significantly more able to defend themselves on average. Men are also the victims more often, I've mentioned that quite a few times that the resources spent on violent crime prevention among women are way too high considering how rarely they are victims on a pure statistical level in comparison to men, but as far as I was told, that's a male on male crime issue and thus not relevant to this discussion.



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14 Apr 2012, 3:00 pm

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To be honest, women are just as vulnerable, if not more vulnerable now, hence why women I meet when I'm out during an evening walk tend to cross the road or pull out their cellphones when they see me coming towards them.


That's called being streetwise. Men are much more often the victims of street crime (muggings, etc) than women are, anyway. Are men more vulnerable?


Men are significantly more able to defend themselves on average. Men are also the victims more often, I've mentioned that quite a few times that the resources spent on violent crime prevention among women are way too high considering how rarely they are victims on a pure statistical level in comparison to men, but as far as I was told, that's a male on male crime issue and thus not relevant to this discussion.


It is relevant because feminism is about equallity for both genders TM.



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14 Apr 2012, 3:04 pm

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Those are the women you meet this how ever isn't true for all women.


Nothing is true for "all women" or "all men" or "all bigenders" but as long as men are physically stronger than women the genders can never be equal its that simple. Either men dominate women through brute strength or women dominate men because the men accept the premise "even if she performs a violent act against me, I will not retaliate". It's one of the funny things, because the Murray Straus paper showed a high acceptance among females for violence against men, Straus also put in said paper that in 24% of domestic violence cases reported, the woman struck the first blow. In this case, its socially unacceptable for the man to strike back and the reason for that is?

On a pure anecdotal level, I've had women say to me and observe women say to other men, things that if a man had said that to another man that man would be in the hospital. If another man laid hands on me, I'd do the same or more likely worse to him. This is not all women, (I shouldn't have to qualify that statement) but some women are perfectly aware that its socially unacceptable for a man to react in certain ways when a woman "makes a scene" and use that to the furthest extent possible.

Regardless of how you answer this post, you are unable to do so without conceding that men and women are in fact different and thus can never be equal.


Elephants are stronger than humans. If physical strength were the determiner of who will dominate elephants would rule the world.

You seem to be forgetting about other traits that are way more important to dominance (as evidenced by humans' keeping of elephants et al in zoos), like social cooperation, ingenuity with tools, etc. Humans are so successful because they are very socially cooperative, and an inherent part of social cooperation are biologically ingrained mechanisms like shame, guilt, and empathy that make it so that if someone does abuse their bigger physical stature they will be sent by society to jail. Notice society is not run by violent convicts, quite the opposite.



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14 Apr 2012, 3:05 pm

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Those are the women you meet this how ever isn't true for all women.


Nothing is true for "all women" or "all men" or "all bigenders" but as long as men are physically stronger than women the genders can never be equal its that simple. Either men dominate women through brute strength or women dominate men because the men accept the premise "even if she performs a violent act against me, I will not retaliate". It's one of the funny things, because the Murray Straus paper showed a high acceptance among females for violence against men, Straus also put in said paper that in 24% of domestic violence cases reported, the woman struck the first blow. In this case, its socially unacceptable for the man to strike back and the reason for that is?

On a pure anecdotal level, I've had women say to me and observe women say to other men, things that if a man had said that to another man that man would be in the hospital. If another man laid hands on me, I'd do the same or more likely worse to him. This is not all women, (I shouldn't have to qualify that statement) but some women are perfectly aware that its socially unacceptable for a man to react in certain ways when a woman "makes a scene" and use that to the furthest extent possible.

Regardless of how you answer this post, you are unable to do so without conceding that men and women are in fact different and thus can never be equal.


Ever heard of a female body builder they are huge and a lot stronger then I could ever be men and women can be equal it is people like you that think otherwise.


Ever heard of steroids? The reason those women are that big is due to the fact that on a hormonal level they are very close to men. You can't put on that level of muscle as a woman without taking illegal drugs to enhance your protein metabolization and thus increasing the level of muscle mass your body is capable of creating and maintaining. Just to toss it in there, the highest weight I've seen a woman lift in deadlift (which among powerlifters is the accepted lift for overall strength) was 580lbs raw (without straps) this was done by a woman on a massive steroid cycle with years of weight training behind her. In comparison my raw deadlift at age 16 before much weight training had been done on my part was 490 lbs, and my peak after 1 year of training without steroids and optimal nutrition was 650 lbs. The world record for mens deadlift raw was by Bendik Magnusson and was 1050 lbs.

A woman will always be physically weaker than her equivalent male, this is not one of your "this is society/cultural" things, this is biology.



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14 Apr 2012, 3:05 pm

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I don't think feminism has anything to do with power out all.


Are you saying that the thread was a waste? :|


It didn't start out that way but now yes I am afriad it has turned into one.


The thread title was "Feminist Preoccupation with Power." If feminists are not preoccupied with power, then there never was anything to discuss in the first place. Why are you suddenly proffering that declaration, here on page 35?

And, if feminism has nothing to do with power at all, then what is feminism about?


Yes I know that Lad. Feminism is is a collection of movements aimed at defining, establishing, and defending equal political, economic, and social rights for women. In addition, feminism seeks to establish equal opportunities for women in education and employment. A feminist is a "person whose beliefs and behavior are based on feminism.

Now which part of that has to do with power?


Reproductive control, is at the core of power for the sexes. The pill in 1960, provided the first real opportunity for women to exercise control over reproduction, and Roe vs. Wade extended that right in 1973.

There is evidence that the feminist movement would not of had success in the US, without the ability to control reproduction. It allows a woman control/power over areas of life, that were not afforded in previous decades.

And there is some evidence provided by research that "the pill" has changed mate preferences for females, for a less masculinized male, because ovulation has been linked to female preferences for masculinized males.

Western cultures are becoming more egalitarian and less patriarchal in the course of the last several decades as a direct result of the pill and abortion rights.

In fact research indicates that the pill and abortion rights are responsible for higher levels of satisfaction among women, over and above any of the other women's rights gained from the 60's to the 90's, in the feminist movement.

http://sticerd.lse.ac.uk/dps/adds/silviap/EJ_women_rights.pdf

Men still have the advantage in reproductive control in middle eastern countries where patriarchy is a way of life. This battle of power between the sexes is at the core of why some of these cultures fear the influence of the west. It threatens reproductive control and the power that men have over women in these countries.

However, the Arab Spring movement is having a little impact from within some of the countries in the middle east and northern Africa. Elective abortion, though is still illegal in most of these countries

http://www.voicesofthearabspring.org/1/post/2012/01/-abortion-in-the-middle-east-and-north-africa.html

Any time there is an a debate over abortion rights, the emotions run high, but many of those core emotions rest on the evangelical patriarchs that remain in the US, and those that refuse to relinquish the rights to reproductive control, that there is some evidence that is literally changing the face of mankind, in western cultures.

That's a powerful force.

It is evident in almost every area of media, where masculinity is not the cultural ideal of what it used to be. Starting with Boy George in the Eighties. There is no way that could have happened in the 50's.

LGBT rights and acceptance have been affected and are continuing to be impacted by women's rights, in a positive manner, as well other minority rights.

Testosterone levels have dropped significantly among men born after the 1980's as compared to longitudinal studies of older males.

Many theories have been proposed as to why; many environmental factors could play a role, but it is obvious that if women are choosing less masculine men as mates, because of the pill, since 1960, that this is having an effect on culture, as well the potential for biology.

This likely impacts almost every arena in life; even potentially the symptoms of some ASD's, through the fact that birth control has led to the ability to delay starting of families into the decades of life in the 30's and the 40's, recently shown as a potential factor associated with ASD's.

And, also with higher levels of socio-economic stress, where raising a family with both parents employed, has become the norm required for subsistence, likely leading to potential higher levels of prenatal stress for some, that research suggests may be associated with ASD's.

It is no wonder that this thread has gained the attention that it has, second to the many abortion threads that are much a part of the same issue. As well as issues in the political divide, and with organized religion

The last great frontier for women's rights in the US, is health care for all; already established in many other egalitarian tilted societies. The current approximation of this opportunity would likely not have been possible without the pill, abortion rights, and the women's rights movement.

The democratic party is largely the egalitarian party and the republican party remains as the patriarchal core. Feminine and Masculine elements of each party are evidently proportioned as well in this manner.

Health care extends the potential for reproductive control, as well as control over economic decisions for those that are economically disadvantaged, of which women are still represented in greater numbers than men.

It is Custard's last stand for the remnants of a patriarchal society. The pill was the beginning of the end of patriarchy in western societies. There was really no turning back after that point.

If health care reform stands in the US, and Obama is re-elected; woman's rights, the pill, and Abortion Rights, can take significant credit, for these changes in Society.

Not to mention Nancy Pelosi, one of the most powerful faces of modern feminism, as well as the most villified, even by some whom call themselves feminists, in her part for doing whatever it took, to accomplish the goal of health care reform, in the US.

The remaining opposing forces are jumping through incredible hoops, to try to prevent it from happening. It is likely those forces will grow smaller and smaller as we go into the future, in part, potentially because of biological changes in human beings, as well as cultural changes, started by the introduction of "the Pill", in 1960.

The overall feminist movement in the West, in the last half a Century, is powerful stuff.

If some in the Middle East get scared enough over the threat of it spreading to their countries, there is the eventual potential that, in part, that fear could lead to nuclear conflict.

A potential Ultimate Battle over the power of reproductive control.

Hopefully, forces from within those countries that seek a more egalitarian way of life, can prevent that potential from happening. :)


The point it the feminist movement was not about power period it's not like thier out ot destroy man which a lot of people seem to think that most feminists hate men that's not true I am a feminist and a Man I don't hate myself I love myself a whole lot.


The corner stone of the feminist movement was reproductive control. Control equals power. It is not necessary to destroy or hate someone to exert control and power in one's decisions in life.

Unfortunately in some cultures that reproductive control and power, is used to literally destroy some women, if they do not comply with the laws that allow male reproductive control.

The development of the pill, as championed by feminists Sanger and McCormick, gave many women the power and control in life, to go places in education and the workplace that would have never been possible without the the pill. This is clearly evidenced in the London Study on the Women's Right's movement in Europe, as linked above, in the first post.

Per link below approximately 80 percent of women born since 1945 have taken advantage of the reproductive control and power afforded by the "Pill".

http://www.pbs.org/wgbh/amex/pill/sfeature/sf_history.html



From Time Magazine on Margaret Sanger, the feminist movement, Birth Control, and the power from this achievement provided to that movement.:


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The movement she started will grow to be, a hundred years from now, the most influential of all time," predicted futurist and historian H.G. Wells in 1931. "When the history of our civilization is written, it will be a biological history, and Margaret Sanger will be its heroine."

Though this prophecy of nearly 70 years ago credited one woman with the power that actually came from a wide and deep movement of women, no one person deserves it more.


http://www.time.com/time/magazine/article/0,9171,988152,00.html

Power is not a bad thing when used properly.



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14 Apr 2012, 3:08 pm

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Control equals power. It is not necessary to destroy or hate someone to exert control and power in one's decisions in life.


This is an excellent point!



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14 Apr 2012, 3:09 pm

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Those are the women you meet this how ever isn't true for all women.


Nothing is true for "all women" or "all men" or "all bigenders" but as long as men are physically stronger than women the genders can never be equal its that simple. Either men dominate women through brute strength or women dominate men because the men accept the premise "even if she performs a violent act against me, I will not retaliate". It's one of the funny things, because the Murray Straus paper showed a high acceptance among females for violence against men, Straus also put in said paper that in 24% of domestic violence cases reported, the woman struck the first blow. In this case, its socially unacceptable for the man to strike back and the reason for that is?

On a pure anecdotal level, I've had women say to me and observe women say to other men, things that if a man had said that to another man that man would be in the hospital. If another man laid hands on me, I'd do the same or more likely worse to him. This is not all women, (I shouldn't have to qualify that statement) but some women are perfectly aware that its socially unacceptable for a man to react in certain ways when a woman "makes a scene" and use that to the furthest extent possible.

Regardless of how you answer this post, you are unable to do so without conceding that men and women are in fact different and thus can never be equal.


Elephants are stronger than humans. If physical strength were the determiner of who will dominate elephants would rule the world.

You seem to be forgetting about other traits that are way more important to dominance (as evidenced by humans' keeping of elephants et al in zoos), like social cooperation, ingenuity with tools, etc. Humans are so successful because they are very socially cooperative, and an inherent part of social cooperation are biologically ingrained mechanisms like shame, guilt, and empathy that make it so that if someone does abuse their bigger physical stature they will be sent to society to jail. Notice society is not run by violent convicts, quite the opposite.


Hahahahaha you prove my point! "I can get more people to cooperate to threaten other people with physical sanctions than you can" is how the social construct works. The entire concept of jail is "We have more physical might in our combined beings than you do in yours, so we will lock you up".



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14 Apr 2012, 3:18 pm

Um, how did I prove your point?

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Hahahahaha you prove my point! "I can get more people to cooperate to threaten other people with physical sanctions than you can" is how the social construct works. The entire concept of jail is "We have more physical might in our combined beings than you do in yours, so we will lock you up".


Yes, that is the entire concept of jail, and it works. It prevents people from abusing their physical power, same as it keeps tigers in pens (debatable whether THAT should happen, but it does).

Cooperation is an extremely potent tool of dominance. Again, what is so funny and how am I proving your point?



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14 Apr 2012, 3:23 pm

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that's a reaction to the aesthetics, which is what i took issue with. anyone that cared about the aesthetics was not someone who i would have sex with, because the aesthetics involve unequal expectations between the genders and it is an unnatural process. if someone didn't find my natural state attractive (i.e. hairy) it would make no sense to be intimate with them.


Do you feel the same way about moderating behavior?

what are you talking about?


Well, this entire talk about shaving came about as a discussion about unequal demands placed on genders based on the aesthetic preferences of the other gender and you made it very clear that you are against this. So I was curious whether you feel this way about behavior as well, IE that members of a gender should not have to moderate their behavior based on the preferences of the other gender. IE there is no reason other than preference to justify the behavioral moderation.

i don't see a parallel.


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that's a reaction to the aesthetics, which is what i took issue with. anyone that cared about the aesthetics was not someone who i would have sex with, because the aesthetics involve unequal expectations between the genders and it is an unnatural process. if someone didn't find my natural state attractive (i.e. hairy) it would make no sense to be intimate with them.


Do you feel the same way about moderating behavior?

what are you talking about?


Well, this entire talk about shaving came about as a discussion about unequal demands placed on genders based on the aesthetic preferences of the other gender and you made it very clear that you are against this. So I was curious whether you feel this way about behavior as well, IE that members of a gender should not have to moderate their behavior based on the preferences of the other gender. IE there is no reason other than preference to justify the behavioral moderation.

i don't see a parallel.


Ok, lets take cursing, should one person not curse because another person doesn't like cursing.



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Well I will explain it to you this way. In high school I knew this feminist girl who refused to shave her arm pits. As soon as she noticed that I was turned off she made it her vendetta to never date these creeps who could not accept her just the way she is. But really she was very attractive when wearing more modest clothes.

presumably if you dated her then she would take her clothes off eventually. so it wouldn't do any good for her to simply cover up more in public.


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Um, how did I prove your point?

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Hahahahaha you prove my point! "I can get more people to cooperate to threaten other people with physical sanctions than you can" is how the social construct works. The entire concept of jail is "We have more physical might in our combined beings than you do in yours, so we will lock you up".


Yes, that is the entire concept of jail, and it works. It prevents people from abusing their physical power, same as it keeps tigers in pens (debatable whether THAT should happen, but it does).

Cooperation is an extremely potent tool of dominance. Again, what is so funny and how am I proving your point?


Except Jail doesn't work, it just makes people make inclined to hide their crimes rather than not commit them. Cooperation to exert physical force over another person, is no different than 1 person exerting physical force over 1 other person, it just depends on preference. So me stating that on a 1 vs 1 level, a woman can never be an equivalent man's equal in capability to exert physical force and you countering with "social cooperation means we can gang up on you" kind of proves my point, that in order to compete women have to gang up.



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A woman will always be physically weaker than her equivalent male, this is not one of your "this is society/cultural" things, this is biology.

what is an "equivalent male"?


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that's a reaction to the aesthetics, which is what i took issue with. anyone that cared about the aesthetics was not someone who i would have sex with, because the aesthetics involve unequal expectations between the genders and it is an unnatural process. if someone didn't find my natural state attractive (i.e. hairy) it would make no sense to be intimate with them.


Do you feel the same way about moderating behavior?

what are you talking about?


Well, this entire talk about shaving came about as a discussion about unequal demands placed on genders based on the aesthetic preferences of the other gender and you made it very clear that you are against this. So I was curious whether you feel this way about behavior as well, IE that members of a gender should not have to moderate their behavior based on the preferences of the other gender. IE there is no reason other than preference to justify the behavioral moderation.

i don't see a parallel.


Ok, lets take cursing, should one person not curse because another person doesn't like cursing.

i don't care if people curse in real life. on WrongPlanet it is against the rules. are you talking about real life or WrongPlanet?


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i don't care if people curse in real life. on WrongPlanet it is against the rules. are you talking about real life or WrongPlanet?


Do you shave underneath your arms on wrongplanet? In essence, me saying something derogatory about women has no proved effect other than it may offend some, so should I be allowed to do so, or should I moderate my behavior?

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A woman will always be physically weaker than her equivalent male, this is not one of your "this is society/cultural" things, this is biology.

what is an "equivalent male"?


An "equivalent male" would be a male who apart from the gender differences is similar in capabilities. Putting the world record holder for women in weight lifting against the leader of the chess club is not a good comparison, a woman is the record holder in weight lifting for woman against a man who is the same is. On the same note, an untrained male vs an untrained female would be an apt comparison as well.