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Ragtime
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04 Mar 2009, 1:35 pm

Aspies often get blamed for not having empathy, but I think that even more than that, they (me included) lack a sense of community.
That requires a lot of social feeling and theory of mind, and I think that's why it's particularly demanding for myself as an Aspie.
I'm not talking about liking your community, I'm specifically talking about having a social awareness of it.



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04 Mar 2009, 1:44 pm

Apart from an individuals proclivity towards a sense of community, there seems to be strong geographical factors involved. In England for example the sense of community seems to be on the decline. Fifty years ago people knew and talked to their neighbours and had a sense of community. Nowadays people talk less with their neighbours and some don't even know neighbours who have lived there for many years.

I understand this lack of community is worse in larger towns and even neighbours in appartment blocks ignore each other rather than even say "Hello".

Here in France there is a much stronger sense of community. It is common for neighbours to visit each other bearing gifts such as vegetables from their gardens and having a coffee and chat. There are also more organised community activities and a sense of sharing and helping each other. France is more "people" oriented than "thing" oriented, so family, neighbours and community are more valued than other countries.


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04 Mar 2009, 2:56 pm

Edit: Sorry...I should think before I post. :lol:



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04 Mar 2009, 3:12 pm

None at all.


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04 Mar 2009, 3:57 pm

claire333 wrote:
Edit: Sorry...I should think before I post. :lol:


Hey, there was nothing wrong with what you wrote.



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04 Mar 2009, 4:24 pm

No sense of community.



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04 Mar 2009, 4:43 pm

Oddly enough, I tend to form extremely strong group loyalties. In many cases, I will work harder for the furtherance of group aims than I will for my own ambitions.


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04 Mar 2009, 4:52 pm

well, I believe I do have empathy, sometimes too much, but I do lack the sense of community.


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04 Mar 2009, 5:35 pm

Orwell wrote:
Oddly enough, I tend to form extremely strong group loyalties. In many cases, I will work harder for the furtherance of group aims than I will for my own ambitions.

I am very loyal to friends, but rarely do I feel strongly connected to impersonal forces. Probably because I have gone my anarchist direction. I used to have more patriotic feeling.



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04 Mar 2009, 5:55 pm

Awesomelyglorious wrote:
I am very loyal to friends, but rarely do I feel strongly connected to impersonal forces. Probably because I have gone my anarchist direction. I used to have more patriotic feeling.

I somehow do feel connected to impersonal forces, which makes very little sense. I'm not terribly big on nationalistic patriotism, though.


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04 Mar 2009, 6:02 pm

twoshots wrote:
None at all.


Me neither.
I would if the people in my hood and my city were more friendly and accepting of me.... :?



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04 Mar 2009, 6:26 pm

This may or may not be a stupid question, but what is a sense of community?



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04 Mar 2009, 7:52 pm

What is TOM..and why dont aspies have it?



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05 Mar 2009, 3:17 am

Orwell wrote:
Awesomelyglorious wrote:
I am very loyal to friends, but rarely do I feel strongly connected to impersonal forces. Probably because I have gone my anarchist direction. I used to have more patriotic feeling.

I somehow do feel connected to impersonal forces, which makes very little sense. I'm not terribly big on nationalistic patriotism, though.

Weird, that's how it's for me, too.


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06 Mar 2009, 4:27 pm

I have none.

I don't understand patriotism nor national/racial pride, nor any other group "pride".


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06 Mar 2009, 6:40 pm

Orwell wrote:
Oddly enough, I tend to form extremely strong group loyalties. In many cases, I will work harder for the furtherance of group aims than I will for my own ambitions.


I've noticed that I exhibit the same behaviour with the local Baha'i community. I love to bond and interact with them, looking forward to the 19 day feasts and weekly prayer meetings (at individual homes) quite eagerly. ^^

I love my religion.