Anyone ever shy as a child?

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me too I was les shy when I was younger...but people were nice to me until around grade 3 I remember the day everything changed

I've always been very quiet and didn't really feel comfortable around other people, so I was considered shy. However, up until I went to school, I think I cared even less about what people thought of me than the other kids. However, that changed to the opposite as I got older. I started to get scared of what other people would think of me and I was more aware of how I acted. Now I don't really care what other people think of me, but I think I'm more nervous around people now, because I'm more aware of how I might seem to them.

yeah I feel that way too I rarely socialise now because of it

People always ask me whether I'm depressed because I hardly smile and I don't talk very much. So now I'm always aware of how happy/sad I might look. I have to force myself to smile all the time and sound cheerful. It takes a lot of effort and is very stressful, so I don't socialize a lot. I guess I'm lucky in that I've never actually felt lonely. Most people can not believe this, so when I say I'm ok being alone, they think I'm in denial. It's very annoying, but since I'm fine on my own, it doesn't really bother me a lot anymore.

yeah...I used to be so sad about it...I mean I would like to have friends but I've been put down by most every friend I've ever had so why bother... I would love to meet another aspie guy (or girl) in real life0then they'd understand me

It's ironic how I'm not actually depressed when people ask me if I am, but then it makes me feel depressed that so many people think I'm depressed.

Yes-awww I hate that!!
it's like they're mocking you but not...it sucks big time!

It's like people never take what I say honestly. If I say I am depressed then I would be lying and I would get all this unwanted sympathy. If I say I'm not depressed, then they think I'm either lying or I'm in denial, so I get all the sympathy anyways. Thankfully I managed to find one friend who understands me and takes what I say seriously. It took a long time to find a friend like that, though, and I don't have many hopes about finding another one anytime soon. I mostly just stay quiet and then people will just leave me alone if I refuse to receive sympathy and help for my (nonexistent) depression.

one friend is better than none-I have no friends and it sucks...
my family don't really ask how I'm feeling-they really don't understand what it's like
the only one who has any sort of a clue is my brother...

Sorry. I usually feel as if no one understands me. I thought that I would never find a single friend who did understand me. It wasn't really doing any good trying to look for friends, so I pretty much just had to wait till I met someone on accident.
Sometimes I feel as if the pressure to make friends comes from other people rather than from myself, but I'm glad to have a friend anyways.

A lot of people are okay just having friends who they've met on the internet (at least some aspies are). They find it a lot easier to talk to people on the computer than in real life. Do you feel as if you really need a friend who you've actually seen in person before?

Last edited by ChrissandraChrissamba on 29 Apr 2007, 3:45 am, edited 1 time in total.

yeah I need someone to be there...
it's sad, because as much as I like them-they're not really here...
its just a screen... I just get lonely a lot...and no one understands that

Have you thought about finding a support group for people with Asperger's syndrome? I think there are ones that are free, but of course it depends whether there are any near your home.

I have but...I donno how I would bring that up to my parents...

i think i wasnt shy
i was quite hyper and agressive at school

My mom says I was agressive.

I was very shy. I didn't talk to anyone at school, unless I was asked something - an even then, I answered with a couple of words. If it was "yes/no"-question, I just did nod or shake my head.