Anyone have tips on making friends?

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I need tips on making friends because I moved to a new school in Janury 2009, but didn't have much luck in the friend department. Can anyone help? I'd really, REALLY appreciate it! Thanks to anyone who helps!

Find people who share your interests. Maybe you could join a club or something?

I try not to make friends with people I don't respect. However, I only have internet friends (it appears it is a rare event for someone to meet my standards...), so if you are going to try to make friends with anyone who will be friends with you at your new school, my only recommendation would be to reconsider your desire.

I have to agree with MDM on this one.
I think it's better to have no friends than to have friends that aren't right for you. I never made a real friend until I went to high school and, amazingly, ran into another aspie.
Having the wrong kind of friends can make you feel bad about yourself. Perhaps school isn't the best place to look for friends. You should become involved in another activity (perhaps one involving your special interest), where you might meet people who have something in common with you.

When it comes to actually talking to people and making friends, well, if the potential friend is right for you, you'll probably be able to think of something to say. Just try not to say anything that may freak the person out , and know you can always try again.

I hope this advice helped

Well, I met most of the friends I have today at school. I have lots of friends from my school this year, and they're great! The only advice I can come up with is to seek people who are little 'quirky' themselves. I've found they're usually more willing to accept you than those who can be seen as entirely 'normal'.

I have a really hard time making friends because they are no interesting clubs at my school. 85% of them are sports. The other 10% are just uninteresting to me. The 5% of the clubs that are interesting, are put on by kids. I would prefer to join a club put on by staff.

Seek out misfits. They're good choices because:

1. They're more likely to think like you.
2. They know what being alone is like.
3. They can't be choosy about their friends.
4. They have no image to maintain.

I have posted this many times because it all leads to friends. So don't feel left out.
Where is some of my advice;
>Find people that are interested in thing that you are interested in.
>Find some one that needs a friend to. They tend to be more interested in being friends rather than an acquittance.
>Join a club or youth group and meet people.
>Never try and fit in, the friendship never last.
>Be flexible, but don't bend over backwards for them all the time.
>Be upbeat if you can, if not try to laugh and smile and it will make you happy(works from me and i have depression wtg )
>Check with your local social services to see if there any Autism groups near where you live.
Hope you find a new pal. viking

P.S. I am 18 and live in Denver.