What makes you want to confide in someone?

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gailryder17
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03 Aug 2011, 10:56 pm

I am curious to see how you develop trust in someone. I still wonder how I did myself.

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03 Aug 2011, 11:04 pm

I trust people who are nice and have similar experiences to me.

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03 Aug 2011, 11:09 pm

insightful

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04 Aug 2011, 1:31 am

I have developed an algorithm for it. It's not that complicated, but I really don't feel like explaining it right now.

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04 Aug 2011, 4:21 am

Develop trust as the person shows herself (or himself) worthy of it. Put them to the test, but do so in a way that doesn't put yourself at risk. Unfortunately, you can't even trust people who mean well, think they know what they're doing, but in reality don't. Always check what you can and don't assume anything.

The older you get, the easier it should become... if you practice the right skills.

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09 Aug 2011, 1:48 am

When they show a history of being trustworthy.

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10 Aug 2011, 3:47 pm

As long as they're nice to me, and confide in me too. Plus, if you ever have nobody to confide in, you can always keep a journal, it helps just the same

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10 Aug 2011, 8:51 pm

Alright, here it is.

How long have you known the person?

(A) More than one year. +4

(B) More than 6 months. +2

(C) More than 3 months. +1

(D) More than 1 month. +0

(E) Less than one month. -2

Has said person confided into you?

(A) Yes. +4

(B) Somewhat, but nothing major. +2

(C) No, but the person might. +0

(D) No, and I don't think the person would yet. -2

(E) No, and I don't believe the person would ever tell me anything. -4

How delicate is the information to be transferred discreetly?

(A) If said person would know, it would benefit me greatly. +2

(B) It is of minimal importance. +0

(C) It would suck if the person would tell someone else. -2

(D) It would seriously suck epically if someone else were to find out. -4

Now, add up the numbers at the end. Your number should range from -10 to +10. If the number positive, it's probably safe to tell the person. If the number is negative, it's probably best not to. The farther the number from zero, the more confident you can be with your decision.

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11 Aug 2011, 11:41 am

well, usually how someone gains my trust is if their someone who shares the same problems and life experiences i do, i feel a deeper connection to that person if we have the same problems and life experiences. Also i trust people who dont have a whole lot of control over my life, theres this one girl who im friends with on FB, and ive told her more things about me than ive ever even told my parents, because we have a lot of similiarities and we have the same problems and life experiences, and since she lives in L.A she wouldnt be able to do much to ruin my life if she judged me for who i am, her opinion will always mean a lot to me, but if for some reaoson she ever starts disliking me for whatever reaoson, she wont be able to spread rumors to all my peers or let out my deepest darkest secret, which i told her btw.

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11 Aug 2011, 5:43 pm

bradt4evr wrote:

well, usually how someone gains my trust is if their someone who shares the same problems and life experiences i do, i feel a deeper connection to that person if we have the same problems and life experiences. Also i trust people who dont have a whole lot of control over my life, theres this one girl who im friends with on FB, and ive told her more things about me than ive ever even told my parents, because we have a lot of similiarities and we have the same problems and life experiences, and since she lives in L.A she wouldnt be able to do much to ruin my life if she judged me for who i am, her opinion will always mean a lot to me, but if for some reason she ever starts disliking me for whatever reaoson, she wont be able to spread rumors to all my peers or let out my deepest darkest secret, which i told her btw.