So, I'm turning 18 soon.

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I'm turning 18 at the end of this month. Yay, woohoo, hooray, birthday party, presents, and cake. "I'M AN ADULT!"
Except for one thing. Every time my parents get really mad at me, they threaten to kick me out of the house as soon as I turn 18. I don't know if they really mean it, but it does scare me that I might go from a decent student in high school to a homeless beggar or a minimum-wage worker. I'm probably over-imagining things right now, but I'm not ready for real life!

...Heck, I'm barely even ready for college. I'll probably just derp around all day on the Internet, failing all my classes.

How do you think you'll do in the "real world"?

I wouldn't be able to live in the real world...11 months til 18, boy it really doesn't feel like it

I was terrified as well. My dad always said I "should have my own place by now", but I don't think he realised how young I really was, plus the fact that I'm an Aspie. I'm 20 now and he hasn't mentioned anything since, so I don't think he really meant it. I started college this year.

I'm actually turning 18 the first week of April, but I already feel like I want out of the house and live on my own. I feel confident for the real world because I want to live in it and am preparing myself right now. I just feel I would have more freedom in the real world then living with my parents. The only thing that concerns me personally at this point in the real world (and what I'm preparing for mostly) is the just trying to be more social in college and make friends.
I do understand how you feel though, if I didn't prepare myself right now I will admit that I wouldn't feel confident about college or anything else in the real world.

My dad does that all the time, and I hate it. He doesn't realize that I would not survive outside of the house, and always threatens with that.

I get really scared that he might actually do that, and I turn 18 five months from now.

:/.

I'm 18 and two months and I've been living on my own and supporting myself since August last year-- I was 17 and 7 months. I have had a job as a waitress since I was 16 (started out as the girl who took the coats and polished the cutlery, now I'm allowed to serve people) and I go to uni fulltime. I was very excited to move out, I could finally do whatever I wanted. I haven't made new friends yet but it always takes me more than a year to figure people out (been friendly with coworkers for about 3-4 months now).

It's not that scary. You have to occupy yourself: go to school, go to work, write down a list of things you have to do in between. You can be alone all day, every day if you want to, for me it's perfect.

I'll be 16 in two months...

Should I start worrying about a job yet?

I hate that. It's like you're opressed for the first 18 years of your life and then when you finally turn 18 your parents use it as an excuse to demand that you be "independent."

I've been living on my own for over a year, but my parents are still the ones who support me.

It's hard, but it's possible to get used to it. Going to college, doing your assignments, eating healthy (or at all) and other such things from your own will can be tiresome. If you decide one day that you'll lie down in bed all day and play videogames, nobody is going to stop you. That actually happened to me once last year, only it was an entire week I didn't leave my apartment or took calls from anybody, and I'm sure that if I had been living with someone that wouldn't have happened. Now, sometimes I still make excuses of why it would be a good idea to skip classes, today's are not that important, I'm doing good and one day won't hurt me, and ignoring that inner voice takes it's toll. It goes away with time though.

Derping around on the internet failing all your classes? Yup, I derp around more than I should, I'm lucky I don't need to study a lot to so well. Still, I'm more self-disciplined now than I ever was before, so in the end it will be for the better.

Unless you had to support yourself. I've heard that it's expected for people in the U.S. to be economically independent, and leave their parent's house, as soon as they are 18. I'm lucky that's not the case here, if I had to get a job and manage a tight budget on top of living alone, I wouldn't have made it. If that's your case, I can get where your fears come from!

Don't know for females (or if it is just in general) but the brain for males is not fully mature until you are 25, so going by that maturity isn't reached until the age of 25

Well, that's the biological definition of adulthood, yes...
If you're assigning adulthood based on reproductive capability, then the age for both genders is even lower.