Do you not think you'd make a good parent?

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I lack social and emotional reciprocity.

I need bucketloads of alone time.

I get caught up in things and forget the existence of other people.

As cute as babies and small children are; their screaming hurts my ears.

I have absolutely no desire for children.

My career takes all my focus.


...yeah, I'd make a great parent.

I think I could be a good parent if I put my effort into it.

I wouldn't be the worst - definitely not the best. I'd hope to make a happy home for a kid.

I don't think I'd be all that great. Certainly not the worst, not father of the year material either. I have little tolerance for BS. Which well, the screaming and crying and later on temper tantrums and crying to get their way... I wouldn't like that too much.

Is there any way they can go from the womb to about six years old with the snap of the fingers? Just skip all the annoying stuff?

I bet I'd be just like my dad. Horrible!

But I want to be with my kids, have fun with them and take them to places. I would say that is loving. I am not going to abuse them or anything. I hate child abuse. Everyone keeps saying I would be a good mother.

League_Girl - I wasn't contesting your abilities as a potential parent - I don't have enough information to form an opinion about that.

Aggressive and demanding behaviour towards children is often base to emotional abuse. That being said, I get the impression from the example you give that you use these terms slightly different - maybe you should check the definition? Making sure you or your husband arrive somewhere in time is not being demanding, merely being careful and respecting yourself and others. "Punctuality is the politeness of kings" is another way of saying that.

Aggression creates fear and distrust; being firm and assertive and setting clear boundaries is a different matter and in the end is a question of finding a balance between spoiling your children rotten or traumatise them by being too strict and unyielding.

I hope that's more clear.

I'm kind of split down the middle on this issue. I like children to a certain degree, but when I was a child the other kids were horrible to me, so I don't trust children and I'm always a little suspicious of them.

I am single at the moment and don't think that I will have children. I don't know how I would help them cope with life. My parents live in their own little bubble and didn't really help me to cope with the world. I had to learn on my own. I wasn't a normal teenager. I didn't talk to my friends all evening on the phone and I didn't want to go to parties. I was completely unaware of any parties that happened amongst my classmates. I wasn't particularly into pop music (although this was the 90s and I did like Cast and Ocean Colour Scene). I was more or less happy to be an outsider. If I have a child that wants to fit in I have no idea what I'm going to do. I won't be able to relate to them. Having a child would be something I would probably enjoy, but I don't think I would be a good parent to a teenager.

no i would not be a good parent.
my child would grow beyond my level of maturity by the age of 14.
then they would be embarrassed to have me as a father.
i do not care because i do not want children anyway.

No, I would be be a terrible parent, while I certainly wouldn't be abusive, I dislike children, and have having to show affection. The child would be neglected and I would be depressed and distant. The child would grow up resentful towards me and it would just be terrible. I also would be unlikely for me to have children, as I dislike and avoid romance.

I'm not suited to be a parent, and I like that fact.

I've always worried about this. My Grandmother's just like me and she couldn't handle the stress of parenthood. I worry that I may end up like her. I know I want children but I don't ever want to leave them behind to the wolves just because I can't deal with any kind of stress.

Someimes I think I'd make a good parent. My recent experiences with looking after other people's neurotypical children for a short time have been fairly good. When I am outside I smile when I see good little children and turn away in disgust at the sight of whiny ones. Fortunately, I find myself attracted to women who remind my of myself (autie girls, nerd girls, women who love cats ect.) so if I had a child it would probably be a lot like me.

Also, I feel as if I have a strong paternal aspect to my personality. I almost see my cat as being my son at times. Also, I never had an imaginary friend when I was younger, but yesterday my mind created an imaginary daughter for a few minutes. Her name was Emily and she hugged my leg because she was scared of the thunderstorm happening outside. "I'm scared daddy" she said. I'm fully aware that I shouldn't be having kids at such a young age and that I shouldn't even be thinking about that now, so there might be some freudian subconscious psychological explanation for why my mind created Emily.