YOU DONT HAVE ASPERGERS

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My mother thinks I invent my anxiety and sensory issues. She also thinks her friend doesn't actually have bipolar - despite having an official diagnosis and having been medicated since age 11 for anxiety - but is instead simply making it up/causing her issues by thinking they're going to happen. She also thinks anyone with personality disorders/anxiety disorders/autism/ect are just weak people.

mmm...déjà vu...where I have that one before oh yes from my own mother, Your not alone my friend in experiencing peoples poor attitudes to ASD and other hidden disorders and illnesses.

Tho saying that my mother is more support and understanding of family members who have epilepsy and diabetes now. There both hidden conditions .

I get this too. My mom and family members tell me to "get over it" whenever I'm having a meltdown but I couldn't DARE say the same to them. :/

I use to get far worst when I have a meltdown in front of my mother, I would at times get your just like your father crap from my mother, there the worst of my meltdown when she dones that plus add her rage would get very dangerous for the pair of us. One of my school teachers best described that type of situation between my mother & I as two stags locking horns. While I take the flack from my meltdowns while she plays mind games to justify her rage to get away with her behaviour. She's got her issues with my father and that's perfectly understandable now taking them out on me is a difference issue. No wonder am so f****d up!! ! Thank god that type of meltdown are of thing of the past now

Same here, the standard response is, "just get over it", if I try to discuss it after the fact, they just say, "you'll just have to try harder, get over it and get on with things"

I recently had a more involved discussion about myself with my mum, her response was "I don't know what else to say or do", she was quite upset about it, I now try to cut them some more slack, they mean well, but they just don't understand.

Sounds like my mom. They never will understand. Makes me wish I could be independent and not need their sympathy anymore.

I have distanced myself from my family over the years, it has made life easier, but I'm not sure it's a good thing. Family is important, i'm just not comfortable dealing with it on a daily basis.

Yeah. I wonder what would happen if i abandoned them altogether. I don't want to be completely absent, just not dependent on them. >.>

Nobody ever verbally attacked me like that , accusing me of not having a problem .. but if they did, I'd try and make them feel better about themselves .. so they feel like crap later for the way they treated me.

I once mistook a guy. I thought he may have had aspergers but turns out he is a narcissist.

Wow...sounds like my mom with dyscalculia. Never mind that I get straight As that tank to Cs and Ds when I do math; clearly I'm just 'not interested in the subject'. At least she figured out that I was AS and not a psychiatrist or doctor--this way she actually believes it.

There are people out there who have no idea that a high functioning form of autism can exist. I have this problem too. Some people will say, "You are too smart to be on the autistic spectrum." I mean most aspies are smart and I am considered smarter than most people realize. I've been told that I write with a lot of words yet when I speak I can only speak small talk. So people don't realize this and judge me before even thinking I have other problems. I have developmental/learning delays not otherwise specified under any diagnosis. There are things I can't do because anxiety, ADHD and APD.

People always tell me, "you could get a job because you don't look disabled enough not to have one". But its not about being disabled its because with ADHD, APD, AS and anxiety... I have severe sensory issues and I am easily distracted, I can't be tol to do more than one thing and at times I'll stand there with a blank look on my face thinking, "wtf?! How do I do that now?" and anxiety strikes, causing me to meltdown because of frustration and not being able to process thoughts and directions very well. This is also why I can't drive either.

I know exactly what its like when you are judged without people even knowing. I agree with what you say too, if those people want to come here and spend two weeks with me just to see how I function then I say come and do it. People would be surprised to see how I function and hoe delayed I am.

I have problems with my mom because we are always fight and argue. She doesn't understand Autism as much as she thinks she does. I mean she wants me to meet ALL her friends who happen to be the neighbors here. She forgets the fact that I am autistic and that I am not a very socially interactive person. I could say a few words to the person and walk away or not say anything to them again. It's not because I'm rude but because I'm socially-challenged. I can do small talk with no problem and if you are one who knows what I love talking about, whether it be paranormal, anime, Kingdom Hearts or music... then you can only get me to talk for so long until I go in complete lock down.

I think that they don't mean anything bad denying our ASD. Instead, they want to make us feel better.

The actual words might be:

- I have Asperger's.
- Oh, no. You can't have Asperger's, because....

Translated to 'neurotypician':

- There's something terribly wrong with me and I feel bad because of it.
- Oh, that makes me feel bad, too. But please don't feel bad, because there is nothing terribly wrong with you because...

... You can cook in the outside (for instance).