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25 Jan 2016, 1:31 am

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After I graduated high school I dated my best friend (we were friends for a few years prior). I had never thought of him in that way until he told me he had feelings for me, but that didn't stop me from seeing him in a new light. Don't worry, I'm not trying to convince you of this route, I just want you to know that there are plenty of girls out there that can/and do fall in love with their best friend. But your approach works too :D , and I still think it couldn't hurt to see if that girl would be interested in talking to you (for the purposes of pursuing a romantic relationship).


She likely won't be back. She hasn't posted since she got her replies :/



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25 Jan 2016, 1:37 am

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After I graduated high school I dated my best friend (we were friends for a few years prior). I had never thought of him in that way until he told me he had feelings for me, but that didn't stop me from seeing him in a new light. Don't worry, I'm not trying to convince you of this route, I just want you to know that there are plenty of girls out there that can/and do fall in love with their best friend. But your approach works too :D , and I still think it couldn't hurt to see if that girl would be interested in talking to you (for the purposes of pursuing a romantic relationship).


She likely won't be back. She hasn't posted since she got her replies :/


Aw really? For some reason I thought she was a regular here. But if you sent her a message, wouldn't it still notify her by email?



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25 Jan 2016, 5:24 pm

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I have no interest in having female friends I'm in love with and horny over and going home every night feeling terrible.


I don't mind dating and hanging out romantically for weeks but that's about as far from a relationship I'll go. I'm, not going be some girls friends for 10 years with hope she'll end up choosing me , the whole time spending all my money on her rather then things I want, I have like 2 years left to have any kind of relationship.
It's pretty much all over for me.

Not only did it captcha me the captcha say there's a site erro and so won't work at all.


Why would you choose to spend your money for years on a female friend in the hopes that she might date you? Buying love is a bad and unlikely to be successful idea.

Girls tend to have friends who are girls, some of whom are likely to be or to become single. If you rule out having female just-friends (even ones you don't try to purchase attention from), you've ruled out a whole avenue for meeting a potential partner.

Your life, your call buddy.



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25 Jan 2016, 8:09 pm

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I have no interest in having female friends I'm in love with and horny over and going home every night feeling terrible.


I don't mind dating and hanging out romantically for weeks but that's about as far from a relationship I'll go. I'm, not going be some girls friends for 10 years with hope she'll end up choosing me , the whole time spending all my money on her rather then things I want, I have like 2 years left to have any kind of relationship.
It's pretty much all over for me.

Not only did it captcha me the captcha say there's a site erro and so won't work at all.


Why would you choose to spend your money for years on a female friend in the hopes that she might date you? Buying love is a bad and unlikely to be successful idea.

Girls tend to have friends who are girls, some of whom are likely to be or to become single. If you rule out having female just-friends (even ones you don't try to purchase attention from), you've ruled out a whole avenue for meeting a potential partner.

Your life, your call buddy.


Um I said I won't do that. I don't have a lot of money, and hardly anything in common with women, so I'd end up paying to go do things I hate wi said female friends. Rather then using it to do things I like. And if some lady wanted to date I wouldn't be able to afford to take her on a day due to having spent it all for the female friend.

I have like $20-40 a month or less to spend.

Girls who only see you as good for friends and worthless for dating won't recommend you to others. I've had female friends before they don't set you up with their friends as you not good enough for them or their friends and then their friends will be mad at them.

There's a reason most people aren't friend with the opposite gender and why most genders group together.



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25 Jan 2016, 8:11 pm

All you people with tons of money really don't understand how doing anything and everything costs money. Transportation isn't free, activities aren't free.

I don't even hang out with male friends anymore. We all live too far apart and can't afford to travel.



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25 Jan 2016, 8:18 pm

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All you people with tons of money really don't understand how doing anything and everything costs money. Transportation isn't free, activities aren't free.

I don't even hang out with male friends anymore. We all live too far apart and can't afford to travel.


I have a male friend, and when we hang out together we do things that don't cost money because I am on disability and he is a student. Playing vintage Nintendo (if you already have the system and games) and going for walks/hiking to look for things to photograph (he's a photography student) doesn't cost any money. Talking about the things we're interested in (books, movies, current events, music, etc.) doesn't cost any money. I think part of your problem might be that you think there are no women out there that share similar interests with you that might be valuable as friends. Are you sure there are no women in America that own guns and like video games? I find that hard to believe.



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25 Jan 2016, 8:20 pm

He has to get out in the world more.



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25 Jan 2016, 8:32 pm

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All you people with tons of money really don't understand how doing anything and everything costs money. Transportation isn't free, activities aren't free.

I don't even hang out with male friends anymore. We all live too far apart and can't afford to travel.


I have a male friend, and when we hang out together we do things that don't cost money because I am on disability and he is a student. Playing vintage Nintendo (if you already have the system and games) and going for walks/hiking to look for things to photograph (he's a photography student) doesn't cost any money. Talking about the things we're interested in (books, movies, current events, music, etc.) doesn't cost any money. I think part of your problem might be that you think there are no women out there that share similar interests with you that might be valuable as friends. Are you sure there are no women in America that own guns and like video games? I find that hard to believe.

Do you guys live right next together? Otherwise it's costing gas money or bus money. It old take me half the day to walk to places. And I'd be dead tired after 3 hours of it.

They are but their country women who hate welfare bums, and only want to go kidding or hunting in the guys truck.
I'm a city boy who's on welfare. And no there's not many video game playing gun people in the first place gun owners in general look down on video games, many still on paintball/airsoft. Go into s gun store and say you'd like to see ____ gun because you saw it in cod and watch their eyes roll. They see it as a huge waste of time and sign of laziness. It's very hard to find anyone who would like me due to my position in life.

When my friends lived s mile a way we hung out all the time and walked and talked. 10+ miles is a long distance to cover by walking. So we never see each other any more. And they "grew up" and stopped playing childish video games.



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25 Jan 2016, 8:33 pm

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He has to get out in the world more.

Spend most my time out in the world at work now. It's not so great, pretty sure most people,there and who shop there dislike me, and don't get me started on the people on the bus.



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25 Jan 2016, 8:36 pm

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All you people with tons of money really don't understand how doing anything and everything costs money. Transportation isn't free, activities aren't free.

I don't even hang out with male friends anymore. We all live too far apart and can't afford to travel.


I have a male friend, and when we hang out together we do things that don't cost money because I am on disability and he is a student. Playing vintage Nintendo (if you already have the system and games) and going for walks/hiking to look for things to photograph (he's a photography student) doesn't cost any money. Talking about the things we're interested in (books, movies, current events, music, etc.) doesn't cost any money. I think part of your problem might be that you think there are no women out there that share similar interests with you that might be valuable as friends. Are you sure there are no women in America that own guns and like video games? I find that hard to believe.

Do you guys live right next together? Otherwise it's costing gas money or bus money. It old take me half the day to walk to places. And I'd be dead tired after 3 hours of it.

They are but their country women who hate welfare bums, and only want to go kidding or hunting in the guys truck.
I'm a city boy who's on welfare. And no there's not many video game playing gun people in the first place gun owners in general look down on video games, many still on paintball/airsoft. Go into s gun store and say you'd like to see ____ gun because you saw it in cod and watch their eyes roll. They see it as a huge waste of time and sign of laziness. It's very hard to find anyone who would like me due to my position in life.

When my friends lived s mile a way we hung out all the time and walked and talked. 10+ miles is a long distance to cover by walking. So we never see each other any more. And they "grew up" and stopped playing childish video games.


Where I live there are discount bus passes available for people on limited incomes. Not sure if that applies to where you live but I know a lot of transit companies have options like that. Also, it's possible to be friends with people even if you don't see them all the time. Lots of people manage long distance friendships and relationships--that's what the internet is for. I still think a big part of your problem is your negative mindset. If you decide before you even try something that it's not going to work, you are creating a self-fulfilling prophecy. Have you ever sought treatment for depression? You might find it easier to make friends and build relationships if you weren't constantly being dragged down by chronic negativity. It is possible to treat depression, you don't have to be stuck in that rut forever.



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25 Jan 2016, 8:42 pm

I meant...outside of work.

Socializing with real people in your neighborhood, say.

You'll find that people have a wide variety of ideas about things.



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25 Jan 2016, 8:54 pm

wilburforce wrote:
sly279 wrote:
wilburforce wrote:
sly279 wrote:
All you people with tons of money really don't understand how doing anything and everything costs money. Transportation isn't free, activities aren't free.

I don't even hang out with male friends anymore. We all live too far apart and can't afford to travel.


I have a male friend, and when we hang out together we do things that don't cost money because I am on disability and he is a student. Playing vintage Nintendo (if you already have the system and games) and going for walks/hiking to look for things to photograph (he's a photography student) doesn't cost any money. Talking about the things we're interested in (books, movies, current events, music, etc.) doesn't cost any money. I think part of your problem might be that you think there are no women out there that share similar interests with you that might be valuable as friends. Are you sure there are no women in America that own guns and like video games? I find that hard to believe.

Do you guys live right next together? Otherwise it's costing gas money or bus money. It old take me half the day to walk to places. And I'd be dead tired after 3 hours of it.

They are but their country women who hate welfare bums, and only want to go kidding or hunting in the guys truck.
I'm a city boy who's on welfare. And no there's not many video game playing gun people in the first place gun owners in general look down on video games, many still on paintball/airsoft. Go into s gun store and say you'd like to see ____ gun because you saw it in cod and watch their eyes roll. They see it as a huge waste of time and sign of laziness. It's very hard to find anyone who would like me due to my position in life.

When my friends lived s mile a way we hung out all the time and walked and talked. 10+ miles is a long distance to cover by walking. So we never see each other any more. And they "grew up" and stopped playing childish video games.


Where I live there are discount bus passes available for people on limited incomes. Not sure if that applies to where you live but I know a lot of transit companies have options like that. Also, it's possible to be friends with people even if you don't see them all the time. Lots of people manage long distance friendships and relationships--that's what the internet is for. I still think a big part of your problem is your negative mindset. If you decide before you even try something that it's not going to work, you are creating a self-fulfilling prophecy. Have you ever sought treatment for depression? You might find it easier to make friends and build relationships if you weren't constantly being dragged down by chronic negativity. It is possible to treat depression, you don't have to be stuck in that rut forever.


They do but it still cost 1.90 a day or $25 a month.

I have two online friends I talk to regularly but that doesn't satisfy the need to actually be with someone doing stuff.

I'm negative because I've been around awhile and tried s lot of the things people suggest.none of it helped. I didn't go from happy to given up in a minute. It happen over 15 years.



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25 Jan 2016, 8:59 pm

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I meant...outside of work.

Socializing with real people in your neighborhood, say.

You'll find that people have a wide variety of ideas about things.

People in my neighborhood are all middle class people,who own their houses and look down on welfare people or housing people. I'm both. We only live here because housing pays for most of it.

I dont know where else to socialize. Were you months ago saying work would lead to socializing ?

I dont know but I'm really getting down and feel awful. I can't die but there's no point in trying anymore either. People are too polarized today. It's either their way or the highway. I not loyal to any party. So I'm hated by most everyone.
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25 Jan 2016, 9:12 pm

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They do but it still cost 1.90 a day or $25 a month.

I have two online friends I talk to regularly but that doesn't satisfy the need to actually be with someone doing stuff.

I'm negative because I've been around awhile and tried s lot of the things people suggest.none of it helped. I didn't go from happy to given up in a minute. It happen over 15 years.


That sounds like depression to me. Have you ever sought treatment for it from a professional? There is help out there, you don't have to suffer needlessly. If someone could offer you a way out of that rut of negativity, would you take it?



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25 Jan 2016, 11:05 pm

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They do but it still cost 1.90 a day or $25 a month.

I have two online friends I talk to regularly but that doesn't satisfy the need to actually be with someone doing stuff.

I'm negative because I've been around awhile and tried s lot of the things people suggest.none of it helped. I didn't go from happy to given up in a minute. It happen over 15 years.


That sounds like depression to me. Have you ever sought treatment for it from a professional? There is help out there, you don't have to suffer needlessly. If someone could offer you a way out of that rut of negativity, would you take it?


It's not depression it's called rp the reality of being a worthless poor person. Life sucks for anyone below middle class.

Not unless it was giving me lots of money or introducing me to s girl.



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25 Jan 2016, 11:47 pm

sly279 wrote:
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They do but it still cost 1.90 a day or $25 a month.

I have two online friends I talk to regularly but that doesn't satisfy the need to actually be with someone doing stuff.

I'm negative because I've been around awhile and tried s lot of the things people suggest.none of it helped. I didn't go from happy to given up in a minute. It happen over 15 years.


That sounds like depression to me. Have you ever sought treatment for it from a professional? There is help out there, you don't have to suffer needlessly. If someone could offer you a way out of that rut of negativity, would you take it?


It's not depression it's called rp the reality of being a worthless poor person. Life sucks for anyone below middle class.

Not unless it was giving me lots of money or introducing me to s girl.


What if there's more to it? What if depression was actually creating a major obstacle to finding and going out with that girl?


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