is it possible not to suffer from isolation?

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hi. the answer to the question is "yes". but I haven't been able to get there.
is there any of you who is absolutely lonely? (and I mean really, having not a single person to connect with, by which I mean being able to share what's important to you with someone who at least values that because they value you, have a reciprocal loving relationship etc.) having a family with whom you "have a chat with" every now and then doesn't count. having an online friend doesn't count. Anyway, basically, I'm talking about complete isolation and wondering if there's anyone here who experiences that and how they feel.

isolated even on forum boards. add that to the list.

I have found that being amongst people with whom I am unable to relate can be more lonely than being actually alone. The Buddhist tradition offers a lot in regards to loneliness. Pema Chödrön ~ Six Kinds of Loneliness

There are many animals that live in herds for mutual protection. Separation from the herd, isolation, is seen as dangerous and life threatening for these species. An animal separated from the herd may exhibit behaviors associated with fear reactions (such as elevated heart rate, shaking, and hypersensitivity to sounds and other senses). Separation triggers fear-based behaviors. [Many of the traits exhibited by Aspies match fairly close to that exhibited by animals that have become separated from their herd.] As I was growing up in school, my herd, my peer group cast me out. They put up a sign saying never return. So I was alone and then I decided that I liked being alone. And I no longer suffer from isolation.

But I chose my life to be interconnected with society. I could go off in the woods and live like a hermit but I feel that I would accomplish very little in life by taking that course of action. So I blend in with society.

In the past, I had a special someone who I could share my troubles with, who did not accept me for who I was, blamed me for my horrible past, what I was born with and threw all my unchangeable problems in my face. My family judged me and hated me with a passion, for no reason at all. No matter where I went, I have always been hated and the outcast. Does not matter how good of a person I strive to be, one bad thing erases everything, while others can make mistakes left and right and get forgiven with ease. In the end, I have never truly met people who I felt accepted by. Might sometimes be lonely, but at least I am not getting hurt, like in the past. That was when I truly felt lonely. That lonely when it starts to hurt, physically causes pain.

That is why I am the LoneLoyalWolf. I am alone, always have been. Nothing wrong with that. Keep my head held high and am a proud Wolf.

Wish you much strength in your loneliness Milady. Wish I could carry it for you.