MY ASPIE FRIEND

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I called him a hour ago and asked him to visit me to my birthday party that will be the next thursday, I called him; "Hey, do you want to come to my birthday party, I have invited around 6 people, and we will have pizza, candy popcorn......." Do you want to come? "No, i'm going somewhere else" "Where?" "NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS." He ALWAYS MAKES EXCUSES NOT TO COME TO ME. He's not busy, he always sits on his *ss eating toast and other stuff all day, he's lazy, and we believe he is anxious, but HE IS NOT F****** ANXIOUS, HE JOINED ME AND MY FRIEND WITH HIS FRIENDS TO A PARTY IN THE CITY, IF HE WERE AFRAID, HE WOULD NOT COME!! I only wanted him to visit me ONCE, AN HOUR, WITH PIZZA, CANDY....... EVERYTHING!! ! HE IS AN *SSHOLE. I can remeber him kicking me when I tried to wake him when he was "50%" awake, B*TCH . I DON'T LIVE POOR, I*M A BIT OVER AVERAGE, I WILL TREAT HIM GOOD, IF he wanted to COME TO ME!! ! He always says the opposite of me, when he said NINTENDO WII kicks *ss, and I said it after, he said Sony Playstation 3 is better, and smiles like a fool towards me while being as s***bag. HE IS A RUDE, LAZY, **************SSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS. I think it's bad that one of my aspie friends did not succeed in breaking his finger when he got annoyed, and I hope he gets spit upon by society, and I will join the bullies when they f*** him up. I asked him why he was busy, and he said " Oh don't think like that" Then I said "HOW AM I NOT SUPPOSED TO THINK?" followed by "I DON'T RESPECT THIS!!" and I ended with calling him " You pigf***". I will now delete his phone number. *SSHOLE!! !! !!

Hey....you are very upset on him now...but once you calmed down then why dont say how sad and disappointed you are. Confront him and ask why dont you want to come to me, whats wrong and ask for an explaination in a calm way. I mean now he didnt have a chance to reply further when you hung up...

He is a big *sshole, he is like a child when it comes to your suggestions, if I were to answer him, he would go all childlike. We are all angry at him, not even his parents like him

I want to travel ahead in time and see the s***life he has ahead of himself, gang him and f*** him UP!! ! He treats his guests like s***. Me and my other aspie friend were to be perished IN HIS OWN HOUSE, NO WONDER EVERYBODY WANTS TO DESTROY HIM!!

I WOULD TREAT HIM VERY GOOD, LIKE A KING, WISH HIM A GOOD DAY

He is CATASTROPHE, FAILURE!! !! !!

I hope he gets abused daily, I truly wish him a terrible life, he deserves nothing else.

Woah man! This is ultra harsh right here. Makes me wonder how any times this has been said about me

Then I feel sorry for you, but NOT my "EX-friend".

I can't remeber this being posted here and not in the social skills section

Things get moved sometimes. This is more of a venting session than actual questions or advice on social skills though there's a lesson for us all in there for sure.

I gotta say what he's done doesn't warrant your reaction really. You do realise it's because of the AS right? I know I become worse if I feel people are putting pressure on me to act a certain way. You just need to give him a little space and let him go at his own pace, when you try again use different tactics (try to avoid calling him 'pig**ck' for example lol). That last party you mentioned may have been traumatic for him and you didn't realise.

Give him a break (give yourself a break from him too), get back in touch in a while and apologise for going mental at him but explain why you did and give him time to reply you might learn something about him other than what he does with pigs

wow, cool your jets ...

i live with an aspie. while i understand your frustration, your anger is inappropriate (overblown) for the situation. you need to deal with your friend or ex-friend with much more patience, compassion, and understanding. i have to "forgive" my aspie house mate about 10 times every day for things he says or does that confuse, annoy, or hurt me. that's the nature of friendship with anyone (NT or aspie). i have to start fresh every moment...it sounds like YOU are not being the true friend.it's obvious he is not comfortable enough with you and your friends. if you want to hang out with your ex-friend/friend, make a plan for one-on-one and try to work it out. but keep calm and detached. you are way too emotional and that makes some people really uncomfortable.

I don't think he does pigs, I can't believe that, and when it comes to AS guys, all of my aspie friends except that garbage loves going to concerts and parties, I know there are many Nt's who get traumatized by concerts, like children, ret*ds...... I would advice him to grow up, or I will always try to make his life as bad as possible if he dares to mess with me again, and I know that some aspies can be childlike, have meltdowns often, that's because they are really misdiagnosed, but are ret*ds, auties. I have AS, and I never get meltdowns anymore, no matter how, i think it's very childish, but when I feel anger towards people, things, I destroy them, as for people, I kill their mentality, which I think is less childish, instead of unleashing meltdowns. When I feel like having a meltdown, I lock myself away from society, telling everyone who asks something of me to f*** of me. I will not give him time to have breaks, I only have friends who stand up for me and always lend me a hand, and opposite. I have AS, I'm no ret*d, and I will rid myself of both AS and NT's who stand in my way.

Don't take this the wrong way but what would you say if I said you're first post looks and sounds very much like a meltdown?

The pig thing was a joke by the way.

He has had several meltdowns a few times, and I think he should not do it when someone visits him, that is very unappropriate. He always ends every conversation in a ret*d speech, he said "None of your business" in a quite ret*d way which I do not accept.

bdhkhsfgk...
damn...u got alotta anger in you.
focus on healing that.

I have tried my psychologist, but he cannot help me. My anger will guide me through my life as it is now, I'm powerless without it, it's my very existende, anger.

I have tried my psychologist, but he cannot help me. My anger will guide me through my life as it is now, I'm powerless without it, it's my very existense, anger.

You'll see a lot of people saying around this site that we need to avoid the things that stress us out, sounds like he stresses you out big time just now. You have to try and balance his stressing you out with your wantimg to be his friend, and revenge isn't even an option since he doesn't seem to have done anything to you has he? Maybe I read it wrong?

You may notice as you get older that friends are more difficult to come by and you'll kick yourself for dumping any you had in the past wihout good reason. I've had friends do really deliberately bad things that messed up my life and I think I had good reason to get rid of them but I'm still not entirely sure and kinda wish I hadn't ditched em.

Anyways, hope your feeling better now.

e2a: just noticed you're still angry. You should read up on AS (I presume you have AS?) and find out what it is that's making and keeping you angry. It's not real anger it's more like an an echo of the real anger that gets louder the more you focus on it, you just have to wait for the echo to die out.

Turning sadness into anger is a well known and used technique. A french guy once said something along the lines of 'the only way to douse the embers of sadness is to pour scorn on it', it sounds nice and it works for a little while but doesn't last and is incredibly bad for your health both mental and physical.

well, at least you realize it... that's good.