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When you were in elementary school, middle school or high school did you get bullied? If so what did your parents do about it if any? Did any of your teachers get involved to try and stop the bullying?
Just wondering....

Yep. I was bullied from when I was 12 years old until I was 16. I told my parents once when I was 12 and it all started. They said something like "Oh, you don't have to worry, he (the guy who was started it all) probably just likes you." My parents aren't bad people at all. They just didn't get it. After that I didn't tell anyone.

What about you?

I've had some interesting experiences in that reguard.

For most of my young life, many of my classmates would act in ways that really made me mad, or ignore me. I hated them, and thought that was bullying, but as I got older I realized that they didn't mean anything by it. All of things that annoyed me were jokes to them, our personalities were incompatible. That said, there were 1 or 2 genuine bullies among them.

Then I went to pontiac. I am not athletic or fit, but pontiac was a sports camp. And every. single. boy in camp tortured me. almost everyone in my bunk made my life miserable, I couldnt handle the weather or the physical activity. I rember stalking through the paths, imagining my mood as a dark cloud that killed the vegetation in the nearby gardens.
I was only kept sane with the help of my PSP and the staff. That was the odd thing. The kids at pontiac were a**holes. All of them. But the councilors and staff were far and away the nicest, most understanding people I've ever seen in a sleepaway camp. I didn't used to swear as mch before I went to pointiac, but I did when I got back, and I have ever since.

Teachers tried to help within their powers, some knowing what to do more than others. Parents? You wouldn't want to know how my parents handled it.

rebbieh

I'm a little older than you. I have been bullied since I was probably in 3rd grade till 12th grade. It was non stop! The first week of school the students would be nice to me, then by a week later or so the students get so nasty and mean. I don't know why. I never was into dating, nor wanting to smoke pot or other drugs, nor even wanting to know what it was like to get drunk. I never got into fights and don't know why children or teenagers have to do that. Due to the bullying it's very hard to for me to trust people. I remember in 3rd grade getting a good grade, and the teacher telling the entire class how my dad did the work for me. If only I can show this teacher my college degree to her bigot face. Teachers should be caring adults, but so not the case. It seems like they still to this day look down towards students who are disabled. That's not right! No wonder people on the spectrum can have more depression than others.

Keeno

How did your parents handle the bullying? Did they do anything to the bullies, or the bullies parents? Or did they do nothing? You can PM me if you want. I'm curious to know.

I remember that dad in Florida I think that went onto school bus and confronted the bully. WOOHOO DAD! My thing is the bully needs to be humiliated in public big time till they do cry. To this day, I don't care what happens to any of the bullies both female and male. Although I'm a Christian, its very hard to let go of the bullies and what they did to me. Teachers also!

I was bullied. When I went to school, it was just considered a part of growing up. Everyone knew, nothing was done.

In retrospect, I wish I fought more. It is easy to ignore when one kid intimidates another, but when kids start injuring each other it is a little harder to ignore.

I remember reading Michael Caine's autobiography. He was kind of a small and sickly kid, and he was bullied in school. One day his mother came to school with him and asked him to point out the children who were picking on him. He did, and in his words, "my mother went over and proceeded to beat the sh*t out of them." If only we all had moms like that...

I was bullied at elementary, middle and high schools. Worst at high school. My parents knew but didn't do anything about it. My teachers didn't help at all and one of them started bullying me too.

ECJ

When was this that the teacher bullied you?

NTAndrew

WOW what a great mom! Did the bullying stop after she beat the bullies up? I still think having bullies carrying a sign around them saying they love to bully is good. Bullies don't deserve any happiness.

Yeah, I didn't talk much to my parents about it and teachers either could not really do much or were in on it themselves. So yeah not exactly the best environment to be subject to just about every day for my entire childhood, what a waste of time.

YES!! ! I was bullied and tormented from kindergarten through high school. Back then, adults considered this a "normal" part of growing up, and didn't take it seriously among kids. Only when it happened to THEM. Therefore, because it DID bother me, and caused countless meltdowns, they figured there must be something wrong with ME for not being able to handle being the victim. So I was dragged to many different psych docs and therapists to try to fix ME. I was not the cause of the problem, the tormentors were, so naturally trying to fix ME didn't work. My Asperger's made me more susceptible to the tormenting. Back then spectrum disorders were not recognized as such, and we were diagnosed with having emotional/behavioral problems, and/or being a discipline problem. So, I was victimized by the little monsters I had to go to school with, and by the adults. I can forgive the adults because they did want to help. Unfortunately they went about it the wrong way. When trying to fix problems caused by bullying tormentors, you are supposed to start by dealing with the bullying tormentors, not by taking the victims to psych docs and therapists. If dealing with the bullies doesn't work, then you take the victims to martial arts training, so they will be better able to defend themselves from bullies. HY YAH!! !

luvsterriers--He never mentioned bullying as a problem again in his book.

I was bullied until I joined the wrestling team and took greco roman wrestling now that I can defend myself no one bullies me got no problem breaking a bone or snapping a few limbs if they try to bully me.

6th and 7th grade (middle school) I was bullied some by a group of "popular" kids in particular. I think it was partially my fault, back talking them when they said stuff to me. But one of the 3 (I shall give him the name john) never said anything. Instead of study hall I was in the gifted program, in 6th and 7th grade there were about 2 days each year that the class was closed for a field trip for a different group or something. So I went to study hall. Every time he asked if I would help him with his math homework, without a second thought I always said sure and helped him (not doing it for him, explaining it so he understood it). I think he felt bad about that his friends were bullying me but he felt powerless to stand up to them.

And other times preschool-12.

I was bullied a lot in school, no one ever did anything about it, and I'll never get over it.

All the threads I have seen so far in this matter all seems to point to the same conclusion: Violence pays.

Tip: Throwing chairs towards peoples heads hurt..

As too many adults in the environment ignore the issue or are misguided. And in particular parents to bullies can't deal with the fact that their kids are torturers. Teachers usually don't see what's going on. The kids themselves only seems to get the clue that bullying hurts. This is about protecting your physical safety and dealing with provocations. Being accepted and dealing with girl ostracizing requires other methods.