My mother has cancer and is going to die

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Tonight is the night that I found out my mother has cancer. I barely have words. I am in shock. She will pass away with it... But it may take a long time. I ... no words. Just tears and shakes.

so sorry. lost my dad to liver cancer in 2008. glad I got to let him know how much he meant to me before he passed and got to help take care of him, even if just a little (he was goll darn independent).

My poor mother is going to slip away from our very eyes. I can in no way prepare myself for the emotional and physical pain I am about to endure watching her go.

I am so sorry to hear this.I lost both my adopted parents.There is no way to be prepared for it.

I am going to hug my mom every single day and tell her I love her. I hope she will remember that, all the way to the end.

I'm very very sorry. What you're going through is a fear of mine. I hope you find the strength to get through it. We are all here for you.

You have my sympathy. I wish that I could find some helpful words for you, but I simply can not. If you need to talk, we're here for you.

Just going to try to relax for now and distract myself as much as I can... I feel pins and needles like sensations all over my body, the heart is beating fast, and I'm crying.

Pondering, I'm so sorry to hear that. I'm here if there is anything I can do. I would send you strength, comfort, peace.

I can't even express how I feel about your mother and your diagnosis, as I'm still working through my mother's death from 2 years ago, as well as my dad's death from liver cancer 27 years ago

I am so sorry to hear this. Since you just found out about it, have you discussed the prognosis with her? I don't know what kind of cancer or the stage, etc, but many types go into remission for years, decades, or never return. The word "cancer" itself tends to block out everything we hear after it, I really want to encourage you to talk with her tomorrow about the prognosis and treatment options. I very much hope that what she has is treatable and she is able to beat it, so please hold on to some hope as long as possible.

((hugs))

I lost both parents to cancer. With the treatments and medicines they have these days it didn't go too badly. Was with both at the end. Its sad but of course the natural way of things. Find out your Mom's wishes, and preferences and get necessary things written down (ie Living Will, etc), and also try and find out what she wants from you and what you can do to make the time easier. She may need you to be strong, or something else. You don't know, but this is a time to try and be what they need, and not focus on your own feelings. Hope that makes sense.

I feel for you, Pondering. I am in the same situation.

Behind the sadness for my mother and what she has to go through lurks also a fear of my own future, but I try not to let it rule until mother is gone. My only social network is my mother and my two siblings that I rarely see. The death of my mother is going to affect my life a lot, but what can you do…

Very sorry to hear about your impending loss. Your fear of the future is something I can identify with as my parents are both in their early 80s and I'm probably going to lose them both within the next ten years too.

I hope you can make the most of the time you do have left - and please feel free to post here about the subject again if you're feeling alone.

I am really sorry to hear that.

Did they say there is no treatment? They are doing some amazing work with treatments, my aunt got 5 1/2 good years after her diagnosis.

One thing to think about, there are always clinical trials looking to test new cancer drugs. Some can do wonders.

Pondering, the shock and desperation will subside, and you’ll realize that although shadowed by the inevitable death, life goes on and you can enjoy every day things as before. And perhaps the light of those things is more visible when there are shadows around.

All the best for you. Hope never goes ever.