Damned F'ing Housemates

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This house has become the worst place almost for someone with my sensory issues to live. Apart from myself, the household consists of indians and they seem to have no respect whatsoever. In spite of having asked twice and having explained my issues, they continue to slam every door shut that they can and to allow their bedroom doors to just slam shut. On top of that, the spices they are using in their cooking tonight are so strong that my eyes are burning and my nose is running and that is up in my own room, at the opposite end of the house to the kitchen, it is a nightmare, it is no wonder my OCD is getting out of control, it seems to be the only thing I can control in this damn place. I hate those a**holes. They should open their indian restaurant somewhere else.

Well you already know my suggestion.

There is little I can do, I have nowhere else to go, my landlord will not do anything. To find somewhere else and then sort it all out with the people paying my rent would be a nightmare. I only just got it all sorted for this place.

Anyone else apart from your landlord who is able to do anything?

Luckily, I just hired a roommate and I like him!

You all would like him too!

I don't know, i shall have to ask the housing people. The landlord is supposed to have asked them to stop, but evidently, since he is of the same cultural background... heh.

Have you tried getting a flat off the council? If you couldn't get one off them you could try getting a letter off a GP explaining your circumstances and see if that would help. Maybe even a housing association would be worth a try.

Having had bad experiences with shared housing in the past, I would always prefer to live in the worst stinking hell-hole bedsit/studio then a shared house again.

I have been considering trying to get on the list for a council flat, but I worry about the sort of area I would end up in... I am not very good at dealing with roughness, and I have seen some of the council blocks here...they are beyond appalling. An aspie man here lives in one and he had every single window smashed in and his bike wrecked by teens there. I know I could not deal with that sort of thing. As it is, I chose this place as it is literally in the centre of the city right by the parks. It was quiet when I moved in...empty in fact. and only 2 of us had been living here until weeks ago.

I can relate to your problem well, Graelwyn. We recently moved out of an apartment because the people below us were blaring rap music all the time. My boyfriend didn't mind much, but with my sensory issues I started to go loopy. I felt the same hatred towards those bastards as you feel towards your neighbors. People have difficulty comprehending those with sensory issues. In my experiences, people have found me weird or evil for wanting them to be quiet all the time, and don't understand why their crap bothers me so much.

I'm sorry you're having a hard time. Get out when you can. Some people are just thick-headed and can't understand what you're trying to tell them.

Not every council estate is really rough though; some are just average. If you could get on a housing association, some of those are in pretty decent middle-of-the-road type areas.

I suppose it boils down to preference really; I went from a shared house in a decent area living with a scum of the earth woman who made life hell for everyone to having a small flat in a worse area with a prostitute living right above me who had loud parties at the weekends and kids doing drugs in the hall outside my door but at least I felt I had some refuge once I was inside.

I can certainly feel your pain, Graelwyn. I had a perfectly lovely apartment, once, which consisted of two floors; the second and third, and the landlady had the first. She was away traveling a lot, and myself and my daughter loved it. Then she decided to sell the place, and the new landlord rented the first floor to a family of cretins. They smoked drugs, quarreled loudly, and the effluvium of their filthy apartment rose up through the heating vents, along with their greasy, stinking cooking. I had to move.

I wish you a positive solution to your living situation. I don't know how housing works in England, but after many hell-hole experiences, I have a decent living situation with a private landlord, and really nice neighbors, now. Sometimes you have to keep searching until you find something acceptable. I know how disruptive and distressing it is to make changes, especially after you have gotten used to a place, but I couldn't tolerate the noise or smells that you are faced with, either. It took me three moves in as many years, before I got to my present place, and I was on a waiting list, as well.

Every time you say this, it just creeps me out somehow. I think that I understand,
but it just sounds so weird.

We have a great bond going, that;s why!

That's not making it sound better. I think I ought to avoid this thread.

The way you say you 'hired' a roommate is making some believe you like...um...well, hired a live in lover or something. Maybe better to say the roommate you found....

But he IS paying him.