The monthly NT rant.

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My sister is down for Easter. She is only good in small dosages because she is very opinionated. Every time I talk to her she makes me feel inferior. I can't get it through my head that she can be such a b**** but still have so many friends - and a BOYFRIEND!
Then there is my mum, who didn't say hello to me despite me being away for a few days. It's just polite to say hello to someone too. Then the only time she talks to me is to get information out of me about her son who she has recently disowned. No asking how were my last few days. Selfish b****!
She also got angry at me for being quiet. She barely talks to me and then yells at me for being quiet - WTF?
I wanted to rest after I got home but the NT's wanted to go out for dinner. I told my mum that I was exhausted but would still come. I didn't think my mood could get any worse. It did. I was unresponsive and stimming all night. I had to fight the strong urge to have a meltdown. This is when my mum yelled at me. This is what she said: "Just because you have something doesn't mean you can act this way!" Something means autism and acting this way meant being non-verbal. I couldn't say 'I can't control this.'
My sister even brought up that she was having sensory problems (thinks she may have a brain tumor - oh come on!) and I said that I experience that every day. She didn't say much after that.
These people really don't understand how tough I have it. Oh just get over your problems they say. They will never know what it's like to be me. Right now I feel like punching a hole through the wall, while my mum is angry at me for not communicating with her. I just feel like I need to do something for them to take me more seriously.

I am just so f****ing sick of this!

You have my sympathy. It often amazes me how people who are so horrible can have so many friends.

You should write down all your thoughts, turn it into a little speech and write it down on paper and memorize them so next time she tells you to stop being quiet you can say everything you wanted to, and scream it in her face.

poor you. Family members can be total sh8ts. Good luck with that. Sounds like your mum often is a bit of a b*cth - mine is too, I know what it's like.

When my mum is telling me off for stuff related to AS, I can't just say, "It's cos I have AS," cos it sounds like I'm making excuses. So what DO I say?

Bite me works... it's short and usually has them sputtering for an answer. Though, if you want to keep talking to them, it may not be a good idea.

Mu still doesn't think I have AS, she says I'm odd and that's ok with her. However she wants to word it I suppose...

Fabulous idea! I don't particularly want to keep talking to her, so it would work just fine!

Try being born in the 60s and being an Aspie. I was It was a lot worse than then labelled as having brain damage or other crap like that and other derogatories such as 'ret*d, from 67 to 72 then mentally handicapped from 72 to whatever . I have been treated like I had Aids or Cancer and I have received no apology from my family for this just excuses and to justify the ill treatment is we did not know then that we do now yes perhaps that excuse is for me anyway is getting a little old right now. Still I get belittled constantly and undermined put down and now I like you have had enough families of Aspies especially the ones that are unfortunately predominantly neurotypical can really be a bunch of w*kers and have loads of friends it is an absolute disgrace

Totally get where you're coming from...
There are so many people I know that are really manipulative and use other people, yet they have so many friends??

Don't get it..

And those of us who are nice have no friends...
Hey every day I held the doors open for everyone. (perhaps too much though. I mean EVERY DOOR!)
I always say hi to people.
I help people with their probs all the time. Wether it be academic, life, or computers.
Friend Count Late Last Year: 0

Believe me, they have little to no friends, they are good at socializing, they have contacts, people pretend to like them because they know a lot of people.

I don't know if that is true.
My sister has several close friends. They are even moving into a share house together.


People just don't understand that there are some things that we will always have difficulty with. Last night I forced myself to go out even though I know how important is to recharge my social batteries. And having someone yell at you for not talking when they know that you've said several times 'I find it hard to talk around more than 2 people' is very upsetting. It's like my mum doesn't know me at all. My sister even tells me to not get angry at her because she works all day. They both gang up on me - I hate it!


I like this idea. Maybe I can write her a letter. Tell her how under appreciated I feel and maybe, just maybe she'll start treating me right.

Try to be subtle yet firm, (I know this advice is difficult to apply, but if you are to forceful, any ideas you present may be rejected, too gentle, they may be missed or ignored completely. Letters are a good medium for this. (Sorry if this is difficult to follow.))

Yes I think I understand.
Today was an even worse day. It's my sister.
I was going to pay for my meal separately but her boyfriend paid for all of us. I had a drink which he didn't know about, so she told me to go to him and give him the money. My brain didn't hear it that clearly. It took me awhile to actually process it and then I went to pay for my drink, and give the money for my meal to her boyfriend. But she got all sh***y because I think my mum was starting to see how confused I was. There was also a time when I got freaked out about crossing the road. I prefer a pedestrian crossing or street lights. My mum said she will bring the car around, and my sister thought that was ridiculous. So I guess my mum is picking up that I can't do certain things. On the trip home in the car I was staring at clouds and was completely non-verbal too. I almost didn't survive today. And it was only a half hour trip to have lunch and a look around the town, which most NT's wouldn't freak out about.
I still think I need to explain to my mum what happened at the restaurant though. She's taking me to the doctor because I have these mood swings every few days a month.

Whoops my post made no sense. Typing while half asleep, sorry. I meant you should write down your thoughts first, in order to make it easier to verbalize to her. She would probably take you more seriously if you said it, instead of gave it to her in letter form.

I'm not really that good at speaking. Even if I memorize it I could mess up my words somehow. She does know I'm better at writing than speaking.
Anyway I'll give it some thought. Thanks.