he still won't leave it alone.

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Does anyone know what she did? Or does anyone have a phone number for her or something? Taking a shower after something like that (as much as I totally understand why) is actually the quickest way to destroy evidence for this sort of thing...

Jeez. Somebody needs to take a very small razor, slice this guy's penis into very thin pieces of pepperoni, put it on a pizza and serve it to him on a plate. If he's anywhere near me, I nominate myself to do so.

No, that's not what Stefan would do if he gets fed up with it. If Stefan gets fed up with it, he'll move you two someplace else where this sociopath has no idea where you are and wouldn't be able to easily get to you. Good people just don't kick someone they love out of their lives and throw them to the wolves.

In the meanwhile, does Scotland have an Order of Protection that you could legal get to declare that he has to stay away from you and not continue any contact through you or anyone you know (including the poor neighbors)?

Well, the evidence of what happened is likely gone, but don't wash the clothes you were wearing, you can still get him for assult, indecent treatment of animals, and vandilism. It's just a shame that he keeps getting away with it.

please get yourself to a hospital and make a police report. I hope you didn't actually bathe or shower...the DNA that could be recovered could get him put away for a long time.

Take care,
~Kate

Holy s**t. I should've read further before making the first comment.

At the very least you have to go to a hospital for a rape kit, then file a police report. Get the restraining order of protection or whatever Scotland has. You are no longer the person who puts up with that s**t. This kind of s**t is not a part of your life any longer. It's is unacceptable, inexcusable and unforgivable. You rose above that shattered life. You bettered yourself. You are one of the good people. Good people don't let bad people like Chris get away with this s**t. They're not always confident enough to press charges but they get the evidence done, they get examined by a doctor and they file a police report. Then Stefan has to f*****g move you out of there. You guys can't stay there any more.

My ex-husband was named Chris. I recommend staying away from all men named Chris from this moment on.

Edit to Add: You HAVE to tell Stefan. It will be hard but I guarantee that he will not judge you or think worse of you. His heart will be broken that you were hurt and he will be enraged at your attacker. In addition to having him in your corner for this very difficult time, he needs to be aware of possible STDs. Who knows what's crawling all over Chris. This is another reason for you to see a physician. Stefan also has to protect you and move you both out of there. Chris will come back. This will not end here if you do not take the steps to hold him accountable in the law and then make it impossible for him to find you.

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I am. If I said what I thought the bastard deserved, I'd be banned from WP and sectioned.

Got this from http://www.911rape.org/getting-help/wha ... -are-raped

What To Do If You Are Raped

* Go to a safe place.
* If you want to report the crime, notify the police immediately. Reporting the crime can help you regain a sense of personal power and control.
* Call a friend, a family member, or someone else you trust who can be with you and give you support.
* Preserve all physical evidence of the assault. Do not shower, bathe, douche, eat, drink, wash your hands, or brush your teeth until after you have had a medical examination. Save all of the clothing you were wearing at the time of the assault. Place each item of clothing in a separate paper bag. Do not use plastic bags. Do not clean or disturb anything in the area where the assault occurred.
* Get medical care as soon as possible. Go to a hospital emergency department or a specialized forensic clinic that provides treatment for sexual assault victims. Even if you think that you do not have any physical injuries, you should still have a medical examination and discuss with a health care provider the risk of exposure to sexually transmitted infections and the possibility of pregnancy resulting from the sexual assault. Having a medical exam is also a way for you to preserve physical evidence of a sexual assault.
* If you suspect that you may have been given a "rape drug," ask the hospital or clinic where you receive medical care to take a urine sample. Drugs, such as Rohypnol and GHB, are more likely to be detected in urine than in blood.
* Write down as much as you can remember about the circumstances of the assault, including a description of the assailant.
* Get information whenever you have questions or concerns. After a sexual assault, you have a lot of choices and decisions to make - e.g., about getting medical care, making a police report, and telling other people. You may have concerns about the impact of the assault and the reactions of friends and family members. You can get information by calling a rape crisis center, a hotline, or other victim assistance agencies.
* Talk with a counselor who is trained to assist rape victims. Counseling can help you learn how to cope with the emotional and physical impacts of the assault. You can find a counselor by contacting a local rape crisis center, a hotline, a counseling service, other victim assistance agencies, or RAINN. RAINN is a national victim assistance organization, at 1-800-656-HOPE. RAINN will connect you to a rape crisis center in your area.

Gosh!!

All this horrible stuff that has happened to Emlion over the last 6 months kinda defies probability, doesn't it?

I'm angry.

Emma, please come back when you're ready. We are thinking of you. I wish I could give you a hug.

I don't know what to say. Stefan will love you no matter what though. I'm sure he knows 100 percent that you're worth it all. He's there for you.

Not much I can say that hasn't already been said, but *massive hugs*. Still think you're fantastic.

For the cat killing he could have been put away because that would be seen as escalating behavior. If he has actually raped you recently, that, as well as the cat killing could get him a long sentence because that could make the police think he could escalate to murder. This moron belongs in jail.
Emma, you're a survivor, you've fought all your life and you've managed to get an education, a job, a boyfriend and a home and good friends. This moron is probably jealous of you and wants to hurt you because of that. You should not let him ruin your life. You know that if you report him, he could be put away for a long time.

sorry i just left without saying - but here's what happened.

i was going to have a shower and Stefan tried to touch me and i freaked out on him and he said that i can't keep hiding things from him and then i freaked out some more and ended up pretty much shouting everything that happened at him and he didn't say anything until i was done

and then told me we had to go to the hospital and i hate hospitals more than anything so i really, really didn't want to but he said it'd be okay and he'd be there with me and i said that wasn't a help because he was a man so he'd probably hurt me too.

but then he said he would literally take me there if he had to because he wouldn't let him get away with what he'd done to me.
so i did go with him eventually but it took a while because i didn't want to leave, or leave milli. so we took him with us.

then all the icky hospital stuff happened, and honestly i don't really remember much of it - i hate hospitals, i just kind of blanked it out. but they took photos and did tests and i spoke to another police lady, but this one seemed to actually listen to me, unlike the one when we reported the cat.

then we got back and i finally had a shower which i thought would make me feel better, but i just feel hurt and empty.
and i cut myself.

We're all glad you're back, number one

I know youve had the worst experience possible, but you have done everything right, and if you didnt realise it before, Stefan will always be there for you, no matter what.

Im glad you took the right steps, and glad that the police lady listened to you and hopefully you feel a bit more confident that you're finally going to get some real help wiht this.

But you cant cut yourself em, thats a backward step and you're letting him hurt you still.

I know its frickin easy to say but hard to do, but please be strong like you have been lately and dont do it again. We are all worried about you and will help any way we can, But you need to stop cutting yourself, please.

it's too hard.
it's the only control i have left.