I finally snapped today

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My friend and I would always chat on AIM, then all of a sudden, I never saw her online on AIM. It appears she uses MySpace as her sole method of communication.

Tim

I am starting to suspect that she may have found someone else.

Tim

Hi Tim,

Sorry to hear about your meltdown. I had a meltdown recently myself. I was visiting a friend and just became to enraged that I ran out of her apartment and slammed the door on my way out because I was just a second away from throwing a coffee table across the room. I know how you feel about the romantic relationship thing; I have not dated anyone in two years. You have one thing going for you in the romantic department; you are a man and don't have such a sharp "biological clock" limitation as a woman does. I tried meeting people online but it was a disaster. I corresponded with a guy who lived across the country from me who was also an aspie. We corresponded via e-mail for over a month and then progressed to phone calls. I enjoyed talking to him on the phone and thought that I'd made a connection with him. At one point he stopped answering my e-mails and didn't return my phone calls either so I just had to let that go. It still hurt though.

For what it's worth, if I was 10 years younger and lived within a reasonable distance where you lived I would certainly be willing to meet you. But I am 37 and so even if I did live closer I don't think I would be a good candidate anyway since you have expressed a desire to have children. I guess I'm just trying to say that you don't have to be in quite as big of a rush since men's fertility lasts longer than women's. That's one thing to keep in mind.

Please don't give up. I am in a state of discouragement myself but there is still a glimmer of hope. Thanks for responding to my post "I don't know who I am anymore". Yesterday I found a nice spot in a park with trees and a bench with a swing and that was something I found to be very soothing; definitely it was a place where I felt comfortable. That sounds like a good idea to look for jobs where you can be outside. Although I reside in an urban area it is indeed soothing to be in natural surroundings. I wish I had better advice for you but I understand what you are going through. I wish I had known about AS when I was 28; I struggled through college not knowing. Please keep us posted on how things are going. I meant to say in terms of the long distance thing it may be that they simply don't have the means financially to go meet someone who does not even live in driving distance.

Lia

I'm old enough to remember having been told of a time when your religious denomination was the determining factor in whom you could marry. A methodist would only marry a methodist--maybe a baptist or a lutheran in the rare event that no suitable methodist was available--certainly not a Catholic or a Jew.

But, now you've got it down to whether she watches a specific cartoon or not.

I don't know, as long as she has a vagina and a pair of breasts, I should think that would be good enough for me. I suppose that even some redneck women can be fun--don't be too quick to judge. Just bring her dancing to a hoe down (yee ha!! !) or to watch some bull riding. But, even I would draw the line at nascar. And, who knows, maybe she would learn to appreciate public libraries.

South Park comes on pretty late at night, doesn't it? My son watches it. He stays up a lot later than I ever do. He always did. So, I really don't know much about the show. It's on the Cartoon Network, right? You must be a night-owl too, then. There must be some women who would be acceptable, but who don't watch South Park because of how late it is on. I just never saw enough of it to develop an interest, or to form an opinion, one way or the other.

I got a flu shot today, and my temporary crown broke this morning. I got a new one put in, and it fell out while I was eating cereal.

Yet if I simply say I am looking for someone who is liberal, I worry that people will think I'm just looking for sex, when that is not at all the case.

Tim

Well, that sounds clear then. I can agree with you on the Southern Baptists. I'd hate to be in a majority Southern Baptist town, now that I think about it.