Still so Lonely and added stress of work and threat of losin

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The million dollar question - What do you have to offer?
I could say good things i see, but what do you see?

Part of what i was saying before about that great guy's mindset isn't just the negative outlook, it's if he's okay with himself. I think a lot of people male and female are attracted to someone with a good degree of self-acceptance. That is, (sounds cheesy) i'm okay. I have these issues, and i struggle with them, but am trying. But i'm okay with that..i also have these good qualities...(not narcisstic i'm the best, just...here are some good things about me, or good things others say about me). In the end though, it's that the person is okay with who they are. Flaws and all.

Granted, it's not an easy question. And, full disclosure, for me, without ssris, 5htp or some serotonin help, i can't see it in me. I can't stand the mirror and feel like i and the world are pretty much crap. With serotonin, i still technically look the exact same, but my view of myself and life shifts. I am more able to be okay with who i am, regardless of if i have a good job or am homeless (yes, have had both).

So, the question is not an easy one. But on such ads or real life, part of them is often what you bring to the table.

If you can't answer, then it's something to think about..

I'm an extroverted introvert I guess, I like being around and rely on a small group of people.

I'm digesting and your reply deserves more than three words, so it may be a little bit before i do. Until then.. Hearing you say these things about yourself makes me really happy. They're things i've noticed, and given the support you have on the forum, undoubtedly others do too. But i haven't heard you say it much, so i really didn't know you could see it, or if the crap you heard had made it such that you no longer could. It always makes me sad when someone with a lot to offer has been hit so hard that he can't see it anymore...doubly so when i then see a$$holes thinking they're great.

I also find it endearing that you get goofy when happy.

Do you like to cook? I think that's often a plus for many women as it says that you're not in that horrid, antiquated mindset looking for yer woman, barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen; but that you're a guy who shares responsibilities and isn't afraid of being who you are regardless of asinine societal dictations (i.e. not buying into a man isn't a real man if he cooks, also known as woman's role is in the kitchen).

It hasn't yet but I often have internal debates back and forth with myself over it. It's hard to keep up the fight with such negatively towards me. I worry if I don't find s gf soon it'll be too late and if found one later if be too far gone.

Women at work found it irritating. I also talk a lot when happy. Ask questions and such. I never quite grew up all the way and neither did my grandpa who everyone says I take after.

I do sometimes , not as much lately but hard to do when sad. I misty cook from boxes or recipes. I use to enjoy making pancakes and baking.

I was raised by mostly my mom, grandma and sister, so I've always seen women as equals or the ones in charge. I though this was how it was with everyone til I got older. I know now it puts me in a minority, where as most males are more dominant, I'm more submissive. Not w push over though.

I now only make pancakes from scratch instead of from a box and water.

I also make the other stuff too: bacon, eggs hash browns. It'd be fun to do surprise breakfast in bed I think. Though I can't eat any.

Yes, Sly can cook.

Last year, I kept on telling him to invite a woman to a barbecue.

No! I'm writing a reply. It's taking me a bit. And captcha keeps putting me in endless loops when i post more than one line.

Edited to one line = captcha safe. submit, captcha, paste, captcha.....5 loops later, captcha.

I am writing a reply though.

Yeah the captcha keeps getting worse and worse . We didn't seem to have a big spam bot problem before it and I wonder how much it actually helps

I copy all my stuff before hitting submit or preview

I usually do too, except when i write something long and forget. This time it's not even letting me paste posts. Write, copy, captcha, paste, submit, captcha, paste, submit, captcha.. It's done that to me with every post past about one line for the last 2 days.

It was doing that to me too. When you get to the captcha screen, refresh the page and it should take you to the new system where you only check a box.