I finally snapped today

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Legitimate fear. "Liberal" and "open-minded" are both code words meaning sexually open, or kinky.

Why not preface the word with an adverb? For example, "politically liberal" or "socially liberal"? That would remove the ambiguity.

Hi Tim,

Sorry to hear about your meltdown. I had a meltdown recently myself. I was visiting a friend and just became to enraged that I ran out of her apartment and slammed the door on my way out because I was just a second away from throwing a coffee table across the room. I know how you feel about the romantic relationship thing; I have not dated anyone in two years. You have one thing going for you in the romantic department; you are a man and don't have such a sharp "biological clock" limitation as a woman does. I tried meeting people online but it was a disaster. I corresponded with a guy who lived across the country from me who was also an aspie. We corresponded via e-mail for over a month and then progressed to phone calls. I enjoyed talking to him on the phone and thought that I'd made a connection with him. At one point he stopped answering my e-mails and didn't return my phone calls either so I just had to let that go. It still hurt though.

For what it's worth, if I was 10 years younger and lived within a reasonable distance where you lived I would certainly be willing to meet you. But I am 37 and so even if I did live closer I don't think I would be a good candidate anyway since you have expressed a desire to have children. I guess I'm just trying to say that you don't have to be in quite as big of a rush since men's fertility lasts longer than women's. That's one thing to keep in mind.

Please don't give up. I am in a state of discouragement myself but there is still a glimmer of hope. Thanks for responding to my post "I don't know who I am anymore". Yesterday I found a nice spot in a park with trees and a bench with a swing and that was something I found to be very soothing; definitely it was a place where I felt comfortable. That sounds like a good idea to look for jobs where you can be outside. Although I reside in an urban area it is indeed soothing to be in natural surroundings. I wish I had better advice for you but I understand what you are going through. I wish I had known about AS when I was 28; I struggled through college not knowing. Please keep us posted on how things are going. I meant to say in terms of the long distance thing it may be that they simply don't have the means financially to go meet someone who does not even live in driving distance.

Lia