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I admit I did find it funny but that's just because I read his reply before actually getting that she meant stalker not stocker (one letter typo I can get, 2 sometimes not so much). I think the joke was both humorous and cold. It seems to me like he was just trying to make a joke not realising how she'd react. It's hard to know how upsetting something like that truly is until you experience it. I do apologise however, how it impacted her was extreme so it wasn't a get over it thing. It's just people kept mentioning typo and I was thinking JUST GET OVER IT. My apologies and empathies Friskey. I'd give my sympathies but of course never having gone through the experience myself I can't really do that. Hope you stick around, just ignore my previous comment. Thanks Invader for that. And just wanna add, nice one Deacon.

I also laughed when I read the joke. I think he was just making a joke about the typo itself. Does that make me cold? I couldn't help it. I knew she meant stalker.

Laughing where no one can see you in such circumstances does no one harm.

Joking about someone's rape does extreme harm. I felt sick when I saw it -- that is damn cold.

I really think it was a TOM thing. I almost cracked a joke about the typo but I'm a word nerd. I didn't because I realized she would feel like her account of her rape was trivialized, so I didn't. Willard obviously didn't think that far. That's not the same thing as mocking someone's rape. You'd have to go back and get to know him to know that he is definitely not a person who thinks rape is funny.

I didn't thrive at first, but eventually, I found some interesting people here who I enjoy being around, some of them are gone, but I thrive more the longer I'm here.

I know that I can be real sensative but I learned a lot since I've been here. I've mainly learned that part of my problem is not only projecting but reading out of context. When I see someone respond to me in a seemingly mean way, I try not to react. Sometimes it's not that they were intentionally being mean but that I misread the context in which the person was speaking to me.

You see Friskey, on the internet we can't hear or see the person when communicating online. The problem with that is, they could be innocently joking to you and you might take it out of context to think that they are intentionally be cruel. I'm not saying you don't have every right to feel the way you do but not everyone is out to get eachother. In fact, I felt the same way you did many times. I find that this place has been more of a learning tool than a place of insensative ppl. Sometimes it's easier for me to dwell on the ppl who actually get on my nerves and forget the ppl who have been there for me through thick and thin. It's those ppl I shouldn't forget about.

Just a thought.

This is something we can all take as a lesson. Never make a joke about a typo when someone talks about rape.

In fact, over at I2, I was talking about my miscarriage and I wrote "rod" instead of "rid" and someone made a joke about it and then I get a PM from him apologizing for upsetting me and told me but I do have to admit "rod" was funny. I had no clue what he was talking about so I view my posts and see the post and see his joke. I reply back telling him I wasn't hurt because I didn't know about it until he told me. What made him think I was hurt by it and he said he got a PM from a mod there telling him that it might be hurtful. Okay, so never make a joke about a typo when someone was talking about their miscarriage. In fact, how about not making any jokes about any typos when someone is talking about something tragic. Better safe than sorry.

Well said, and cannot be repeated too often.