I'll never find someone to marry

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Your have no idea about my other problems, f**k off

how am i gonna know something you haven't told me

moved from Love & Dating to The Haven


sweetcupcake, i hope that you don't end your life for this reason (or for the other reasons you are talking about). people here want to support you but they really don't know what is going on in your life except exacly what you've told them here.

Listen, to the power of nature that is all around you, and deep within you.

Take heed of my voice.

Our race is social, we hunger for that companionship, we all do.

Many, if not most, "think" they know what they want, when they don't really.

Many times they think they want something only to find after experiencing those things they spiritually grow and then become ready to move on. finding its not what they wanted in the first place. when the truth is its what they needed at that time in their lives.

Many people seek that spark they feel when they meet someone new and exiting.
and if it becomes gone after the honeymoon time (it being the honeymoon time), then their hearts get restless and they get board.

Many when their hearts gets cut short, with no closure, no answers, no second chances. they feel they lost the best, that they are broken and unworthy, that something was wrong with them. that a true love was just lost, along with all their hopes and dreams and fears. when that is far from the truth. the truth is that you grew, or it wouldn't hurt so much. you had something special, and the other person was just not ready, or was tainted by a previous relationship gone sour (baggage issues), or you your self are not yet ready for that growth. and even if you don't want to believe in it, sometimes fate and destiny does play its hands.

Many times people don't understand that excitement they start out with. its caused by personal growth and sex, something you may feel you need for your self in your life. and we call it the need for love. to be understood and held and cared for, or the need to care for and love others, or both.

True love is not a set deal for we all change over time. but it is all the best of our human natures.

The willingness to see past our selves, the willingness to give without expecting in return, the willingness and heart enough to be strong enough to let that bird in that cage go and pray that she comes back, and if she never does, then if you truly love her then you will wish her well, as your own heart breaks and must then move on. the willingness to see and understand what you need is not what she needs, nor to think you know what she needs when she may not even know her self.

To respect honer a heart and person for not only what it is, but who it is.
To have patience, when you your self is feeling like your going to die inside.
to sacrifice your own needs and ego, for those whom you love and believe and hope in.

but its also our voyage to understand, to learn when its best to let go.

sometimes life seems oh so empty,
when its what we make of it.

let the hurt go, and just remember the moments shared,
for in the end, what do you want to remember?
the peaceful experiences you were lucky enough to experience and know, the joys,
or the pain..

I know your feeling lonely
just you need to understand.
your not alone......


you cant hide in your room and expect to experience love.
expect to be held.

you have to play the numbers to find the right one(s), and expect your heart to be broken, if not even disappointed now and then. I know its hard, I been there and I am still there. but i know more of what to do now then i did 30 years ago (i am now 50).. i have discovered that f i wanted just p**** i could find and get all i wanted. but also I am learning that you have to play the numbers in order to win at this game of love, not just to find the right one, but to also discover and realise what your honestly looking for. sometimes you just don't know what you want until you experience it. and that's where I am at, I am getting ready to run the gauntlet of self discovery so to find my own direction. especially since I figured out how for my self, to meet many lady's enough to play the numbers.

I am NOT going to give up, no matter how much my hearts been broken.
I deserve to be happy. I am a good man.

Well neither will I if that helps. Sorry.

Hey I fail in the workplace due to my social issues and schizophrenia and I still found a wonderful woman to marry. (I met her on aspie affection!) If I can do it I know you can too.

Well, tell me what's going on, but please don't die.

Been there, done that, felt that way. Honest.

Please don't die.

Check out a book-- Asperger's and Girls, by Tony Attwood, Temple Grandin, et al. I wish someone had given it to me to read when I was about 16. It would have been immensely helpful.

Lucky me, I had an Aspie Dad (who hadn't a clue there was anything wrong with him, just wondered what the f**k was wrong with other people) who taught me a lot of that stuff anyway.

Ended up meeting a pretty swell guy. It has not been easy and sometimes I wish someone had told me to look for friends, not a spouse.

Best advice I can give is, Don't try to "catch" somebody. Don't try to "be normal." Do the best you can to enjoy being you, and sooner or later you will find people who enjoy things you enjoy.

I met my hubby waiting on public transportation. I thought he looked like a lonely dork. I said, "Hi." He said, "Hi." We cut class together. A couple days later, he called up while I was bawling uncontrollably. He came over with Les Miserables and hot chocolate. A couple weeks later, he was sad and lonely. I took him out to look at fall leaves. Three weeks later, I took him out to look at stars. He spent the night and never left.

One Aspie, one nerd, one marriage. Thirteen years, countless fights. Three kids.

Did we live happily ever after? No, we did not, for no one ever does. But there is happiness, and we do live.

We STILL haven't been out on a "date." Never. Not one. We tried a couple times. Ended up talking about the kids.

I reiterate: PLEASE DON'T OFF YOURSELF. PLEASE.

Post reply, PM, whatever. TALK TO SOMEBODY.

STICK AROUND, KIDDO.

hey man, i didn't get laid by a woman until i was 28, almost 29.
where i was raped by a gay man when i was in my late teens, and many gay guys hit on me in the mean while. my ego was shot.

you just need to get out and play the numbers. prove to your self that your desirable.
and you never really know what you want until you experience others.

if you don't know how to do that, then its because your living behind your computer instead of getting out there and doing something about it.

woman wants a strong ego in a man, not a worm.