I HATE MY STEPMOTHER

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Dear OP,

It has been brought to my attention that our rash judgments and criticism of your position may have scared you away. But my insight tells me that you'll be back to argue the point through. If you want to hear less harsh answers, then I'd suggest that perhaps you find a hobby. "GETTING BACK" and revenge are typically anger coming to the surface. I doubt you where told that by your stepmother while you where in your teens - and if you where your amount of patience to hold onto that anger for so long is outstanding. There comes a time in every child's life where you have to step up on your own two feet and pay your own way/let the past go. I was abused by a step-father and his family most of my life but I'm on good terms with them. His grandparents used to lock me in a back room and lay on a cot for 9 hours a day while they babysat me because they didn't want to deal with me. And if I was brought out to eat I'd have to eat it all/they'd give me atrocious portion sizes so I couldn't possibly finish. When I didn't finish they'd simply dump the food on my head - and push me out the front or back door.

But what I'm trying to explain is people are jerks, but we're all human. Obviously your angry - but you seriously have to understand your situation for what it is. Your dad is a grown man with an obviously a lot of a patience who has defended you from his new wife... And your step-mother is a woman who doesn't want someone hanging around all the time that probably doesn't put forth much effort into improving their lives. Whether she is "evil" or not doesn't matter, but what your dad wants is important. If he decides to be with her - then you should agree and back away...

I mean, seriously... his wife is probably wondering when your going to come around a corner to harass her and is probably afraid of you being around her kids. You need to refrain from causing personal and/or mental injury on others, if you expect them to want you around at all.

Sincerely,
Nim

Okay. No need to shout.

I had a couple of stepmothers in my life (hell, my dad's getting married for the fourth time this summer). One forced my brother and I to sleep in the attic, even though there was a perfectly good guestroom for us to use and she would say horrible things about my mother, whom she's never met. Dad was only married to her for 6 months. The most recent step mother was just a spoiled brat, as were her daughters, her son was a good kid and I feel bad for him. I lived with my mother most of the time anyway so I guess it didn't matter.

You're 28 years old, what are you doing with your life currently? You mentioned going to college? Are you still in school or are you working now? Instead of rehashing the past, I would focus on improving your future.

@Evilstepson: Which is more evil: The intent to harm others, or the act of harming others?

Thats a complicated question.

I am using the hatred for more productive areas. Like a lawyer to dispute him getting his money if he goes first

That's an evasive response.

probaly