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14 Dec 2012, 1:03 pm

OliveOilMom wrote:

We have all tried to help you here. Now, I totally understand being at a point where you can't take it anymore, don't want to listen to anyone else and just want to vent and scream and all that. I totally get it. But there comes a time for that sh*t to stop and for you to get off your a** and do something about the problem. You are the only one who can fix this.

I am not pretty either. Trust me on that one. My looks are something that I would honestly kill to change if I could. But I can't. So, I developed other parts of me so people don't notice my looks so much. You are not helpless. You are not ever going to have someone swoop in to fix stuff for you. Life doesn't work that way. You have to do things yourself, and most of the things you have to do to fix it, suck. But, it's either that or stay how you are.

When you are ready to actually do something, hit me up. Otherwise, this is my last word on one of your threads. I'll be glad to help you if you will do something, but otherwise, I won't even read the whine. I'm sorry if that sounds harsh, I don't mean it to, but sometimes people need to hear that. I know I have before. So, I'm just passing on what I know to work.

You are 26, in ten years if you do nothing, you will still be in the same situation, same as if you try and fail. There is a chance you will succeed if you try, which is better odds than if you do nothing more than feel sorry for yourself. A pity party is great from time to time. I have them myself. However, the time is over with for that, son. It's time to get up, put on your boots and go do something about whats bothering you! Or you can wallow in it. The choice is yours.

You're a meanie. I've had a hard enough life w/o people like you being mean to me. I hate people with the "get over it, toughen up" mentality.

I can't just "get over it" and do stuff. I can't become smart, or less slow and learn how to drive. I can't be less ugly. I can't force people to like and respect me. I can't force women to go out with me.

I am a pathetic loser that's not capable of anything

How about offering sympathy instead of dismissing all my problems.

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14 Dec 2012, 1:13 pm

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I'm not a meanie by a long shot. I'm offering help. Nobody expects you to know what to do and how to fix it on your own. I offered to help you by telling you what to do to fix it. While I may make a huge teetotal mess of my own life, I'm pretty good at fixing other's lives if they listen to me.

If you want help, I've got it. I can tell you what to do and how to do it and all, but bottom line is you are the one whose got to go the distance and do the work. It's up to you.

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14 Dec 2012, 1:30 pm

I'm really sorry about the abuse you have suffered. That is a lot to deal with. Don't give up, work on changing little things one at a time. If you look at the big picture it will be too much for you to cope with. Perhaps start with the fungal infection. I imagine that could be dealt with quite easily with the right medicine.
I get that you need to vent; I do that myself sometimes.

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14 Dec 2012, 2:35 pm

Y'know, you can't honestly accuse people of dismissing your problems if you are not making an effort to take care of them yourself.

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14 Dec 2012, 5:18 pm

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Y'know, you can't honestly accuse people of dismissing your problems if you are not making an effort to take care of them yourself.

Why do you mean? It's my "problems" that keep me from being respected, liked, having friends, etc. There's no way anyone should dismiss that.

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14 Dec 2012, 5:39 pm

Everybody has problems. That's a part of being human.

And there are always going to be people out there who can't accept that. I am aware they are out there.

As a recovering alcoholic/addict, I carry my load of intense social stigma. I was quite the revolting person when I was choosing to wallow in how much my life sucked. But will I allow that to define my entirety? No. Not anymore.

If I can build myself up, you certainly can.

Nobody respected me until I took the steps to respect myself first. Yeah, I still have a lot of problems. Yeah, I still have self-doubt. Yeah, it's a work in progress, and I'll be working on it the rest of my life.

But feeling self-pity is easy, and feeling happiness takes work. Simple enough.

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14 Dec 2012, 6:52 pm

KagamineLen wrote:

But feeling self-pity is easy, and feeling happiness takes work. Simple enough.

Yep. We care enough to help you get off your duff and guide you to self-improvement. Everyone else in the world will scoff, hurl an insult and walk away.

There's nothing more revolting than unwavering self-pity.
We're all in the same boat... if we want people to like us, we have to me likeable!

You can't expect people to like you if you're purposely pushing people away with self-generated repulsiveness.

If you smell bad, clean your body and mouth.
If you look shabby, take some pride and clean your clothes, cut and do your hair.
If you're penniless, get a job. ANYTHING is a step up from nothing and more respected.
If you're overweight, stop eating junk food and get some exercise.

EVERY baby step taken is another step forward - keep making them even if you don't see any major breakthroughs (you likely won't because it's such a gradual process.)

You won't be as popular as the prince of Nigeria, but that forward momentum will bring good things!

Hang in there and take OliveOil's awesome offer instead of pushing it away.

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14 Dec 2012, 6:59 pm

MR20 wrote:

OliveOilMom wrote:

We are doing our best, and would like to help you.

However, I think you need to take the next step.
You have said how unhappy you are with how your life is going and how you have a lot of long term problems.
The next step is to begin changing it. take it one step at a time.

I think you need to get your foot on the ladder to recovery, and I guess you're in the right place to do that, now you've got people here who really do care about you. Feel free to PM me if you want.

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14 Dec 2012, 9:20 pm

Baby I'm gonna say this, if that's you in our avatar (you know who you are) then DAYUMMMMM! is that one really you? Cause it's so much better than the one in the sweater.

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15 Dec 2012, 9:58 pm

Just how the f**k can I turn my life around, huh? I'm TOO f*****g ret*d and slow to learn how to drive. I am so stupid that I dropped out of high school after repeating 9th grade twice, AFTER being in special ed for my entire school life.

I know absolutely nothing about anything worthwhile. WHO THE f**k WANTS TO TALK AND SOCIALISE WITH SOMEONE AS CLUELESS AS ME? HUH?

I am f*****g pathetic. I have no special skills or talents. My face looks like s**t, When I talk it sounds like I'm choking on balls and I stutter ALOT. Combine with the fact that I have a severe odor problem that I smell even when I shower, It's no wonder people treat me the way they do.

It's like I'm a walking ridicule magnet. How can you respect someone with my appearance and features? How can you take someone like me seriously?

I'm f*****g 26 years and I can't even do simply tasks effectively such as bathing properly or washing my own clothes. I am sick of this s**t!! !!

I'm tired of feeling this way. I hate myself so much. I wish I could just off myself, but I don't have the courage to do so.

Why should I should I keep on living? I have no friends, never had nor will have a GF. There's nothing in the future for me but more depression, sadness, emptiness, and loneliness.

The only way I can get over all this is if I kill myself.

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15 Dec 2012, 10:03 pm

MR20 wrote:

The only way I can get over all this is if I kill myself.

Please go call an emergency help line, hospital or mental health professional in your area RIGHT NOW if you feel this way.

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15 Dec 2012, 10:08 pm

deltafunction wrote:

MR20 wrote:

The only way I can get over all this is if I kill myself.

Please go call an emergency help line, hospital or mental health professional in your area RIGHT NOW if you feel this way.

If only I had the courage to.

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15 Dec 2012, 10:11 pm

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MR20 wrote:

The only way I can get over all this is if I kill myself.

Please go call an emergency help line, hospital or mental health professional in your area RIGHT NOW if you feel this way.

If only I had the courage to.

Ask someone else to do it for you if you have to. ANYONE else. What area do you live in? Maybe there's a hotline

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15 Dec 2012, 10:14 pm

deltafunction wrote:

MR20 wrote:

deltafunction wrote:

MR20 wrote:

The only way I can get over all this is if I kill myself.

Please go call an emergency help line, hospital or mental health professional in your area RIGHT NOW if you feel this way.

If only I had the courage to kill myself.

Ask someone else to do it for you if you have to. ANYONE else. What area do you live in? Maybe there's a hotline

That's what I meant by that. I wish I could off myself. Fear and cowardice are probably the only things keeping from doing it.

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15 Dec 2012, 10:18 pm

MR20 wrote:

deltafunction wrote:

MR20 wrote:

deltafunction wrote:

MR20 wrote:

The only way I can get over all this is if I kill myself.

Please go call an emergency help line, hospital or mental health professional in your area RIGHT NOW if you feel this way.

If only I had the courage to kill myself.

Ask someone else to do it for you if you have to. ANYONE else. What area do you live in? Maybe there's a hotline

That's what I meant by that. I wish I could off myself. Fear and cowardice are probably the only things keeping from doing it.

Call someone! You are obviously depressed and having suicidal thoughts. This is an illness that can only be solved by mental health professionals. No one on Wrong Planet can say something that will cure your depression. Go get help now.

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15 Dec 2012, 10:22 pm

Hi there

Have you been to a dermatologist ?

Also have you tried a food exclusion diet? You may find that your body has difficulty processing some food(s) which can cause odour.

You don't have to be good looking to get a girl. Not all girls are looking for a super handsome guy - they can be high maintenance, just like girls.

You just need to meet someone that enjoys the same things as you - no point trying to make friends with people that you have nothing in common with.

As much as I hate doing it, you really need to practice small talk on people that don't matter.

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