I've just made another mistake again :(

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I will when I next see her, which is no telling when because I see her at random times. I don't have her contact number, or his contact number either, so I suppose I've just got to bide my time. I'm not worrying about me in all this, I'm worrying about him and how he might feel.

Well, he flirts with you, so he has a part in this, too. That is what happens when you flirt. It seems to be kind of 50-50 responsibility. If he flirts with a lot of people, he probably runs into this frequently.

This sounds all too familiar. I once had a crush on a woman, who was well aware, and who flirted with me whenever she felt like it. She knew because it was written all over my face every time she'd walk in a room I was in.. can't hide a red face. She too was/is married and with children. She was completely out of bounds and for more reasons than one but it was hard to ignore those pestering feelings! What I discovered is this, all those emotions, anxieties, worries, akwardness, butterflies, etc were felt by me and only me. Despite the fact that she flirted (heavily, in my opinion) it was simply "just" flirting to her. She never had any intentions of crossing that line, nor did she care too. I was just this "cute girl" who stroked her ego.

My advice to you - your crush is unlikely going to care about what you said to your mutual friend. This is more played up in your own head than his. Forget about it .. the worries and anxieties. It's easier said than done but your story is not going to have any impact on him, his wife or your friends. Sorry to say (been there).

I agree with what most people have said. I think if anything, he'll probably be flattered about how you feel towards him.

Thank you all for supporting me. As luck would have it I saw the female friend today and I told her about how worried I was, and she said she hasn't seen him since she last saw me and she said she won't tell him, and that she wasn't intending to either. I know Aspies on WP think that whatever comes out of an NT's mouth is a lie, but I just know this isn't, and she also said that she herself don't trust people so she doesn't like to go around gossiping. And she said I'm a good friend too and that she will ''leave me and him to it'' .

So hopefully that worry is over, along with my other two worries that were worrying me but are over too (they were nothing to do with this worry).

I must admit I do worry too much about what others think of me. Way too much. I think it comes from social phobia. The thought of being defined as odd really disturbs me and makes me feel so desperately depressed.