My mother has cancer and is going to die

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Thank you for the advice and sympathy everyone. There is a cancer center that will try to help her. She has many other serious illness's that are worsened by cancer. All we can do is do the best we can do to make her feel loved and cared for. That's what she wants, other than to keep living and be in less pain...

Just trying not to cry today. I haven't seen my mom yet. She may come back home today, from the hospital, and I don't know if that coming home right now is a good thing considering her health.

I fear to see her face, it is sure to be a look of strong sadness, possibly some confusion. I want to see her face though, so I can see how she is doing, show her that I'm here for her, and hug her.

My mother will not be coming home today, it will be a little while longer.

She has cancer that has spread from her lung to her bones and her brain.

My family that has come back home from the hospital told me that she is thinking more clear today, and is taking the diagnosis really well since she was told. She still cries from time to time, but that is normal, it happens. She is getting a lot of tests done on her and lots of medicine given to her so that's helping her feel better for now. She may be getting things like radiation treatment, but it is not known yet whether that is likely to happen.

I'm sorry....I can only imagine the pain and fear you're feeling. I hope you get to see your mom soon.

I think I understand what you are going through. You must feel terrible and the tears and shakes are nothing more than normal.
My mother is severely ill as well and her health is declining. Losing my mother is one of the worst things I will ever experience. We get on each others nerves sometimes but that doesn't take away the fact that we have a very strong bond. We can talk to each other about pretty much everything. I don't know for how long she will be around and I don't even want to think about it. She is still here at the present moment and that is all that matters. I have no idea what is going to happen to me if she dies and how I am supposed to deal with that. My mother is an only child and so am I. That means that I will be all alone if she is gone since I have no brothers and sisters, aunts uncles, nieces and nephews. The only living relatives that will remain are my grandmothter and her sisters. They are all in their nineties but they are mighty women with dominant personalities. Anyway, I'm glad their still around. I live alone and I haven't got kids myself. I think I am just going to sell my appartment and belongings, pack my bags, leave the country and start travelling for a prolonged period of time. I am determined to disappear without a trace after I'm all by myself.

I wish you all the best and I mean that!

She had another scan . She has many tumors in her brain. She needs to get radiation ASAP to shrink them.

Though they probably have more time with their mother than you do, my kids and grandkids are going through the same thing. When you hug her and tell her that you love her, that means so much to her. And when you get wrapped up in your life and forget to give a few of those hugs, she is happy that you are able to do something other than agonize over her. Really.

Some of my kids and grand kids are also autistic [inherited from me] and what has given me the greatest comfort is when my youngest son [most severly affected] has told me he WILL be okay again, eventually, after I am gone.

I am so sad for you and hope that you have a good emotional support system.

I am praying for you.

I'm sorry to hear about your Mom, Pondering. I'm at a loss for words and there's nothing I can say to make it better, obviously.

I hope you feel better, and you and your Mom get the support you need.

*Hugs* I am so sorry... My father is fighting cancer currently as well, and my family prays the treatments will work. Everyone has a brave face on and my father is even making jokes about it, but I've cried myself to sleep several times.

There's no way to prepare for such thing Just to show your love and support for them and make the best of your time together.

I spoke to her on the phone for a couple of minutes. I'm too sick to visit her, I could spread what I have to her. The doctors seem to be taking care of her and she gets lots of visits from family and friends. She is going in for surgery today. I choked up a little when I was talking to her. After the call I cried like a child. The combo of me being pretty sick right now and her being extremely sick is so stressful. But I am glad I at least got to talk to her.

Hugs and "I love you" are WONDERFUL ideas. Good for her, and for you.

Both my parents are gone. Hugs and "I love you" are perfect. Priceless.

From someone who's been there, and out the other side-- Look, it is going to hurt like f*****g hell. I'm sorry about that but it's true. Hallmarkifying it isn't going to help-- it HURTS LIKE HELL.

But IT IS GOING TO BE OK. I promise. I SWEAR. YOU WILL BE OK.

Not right away. Off and on, not for a while. But you WILL be OK.

Hugs

My mom came home just a few minutes ago. I am not sure how, but she no longer needs her oxygen machine and tanks, so it seems thus far. She is also a lot more alert... Very strange! I am glad she is back home and in better health.

I hope you are also feeling better.I'm happy to hear she is home with everyone that loves her.
It's always good to be home.

Thank you

Feeling a bit better now. Going to the doctor tomorrow, fourth time in the past two months. Very frustrating.

Yeah, my mom is going through a very tough time still. I can tell by looking at her and hearing her in pain. It is very sad to see her that way, and I don't know what to do all of the time. I told her that I missed her, love her, gave her a hug, and help her when she asks and sometimes when she doesn't but still could use some help. Tomorrow she goes in for Radiation again to shrink the tumors.

Wow, man I'm really sorry to hear about your mom. I watched my mom die of lung cancer and I understand you're frustration at not knowing what to do...

The sad truth is, there's really not much you can do. Just be there in case she needs you, and let her know she's loved.

Again, I'm really sorry. This is a hard thing, but you and your family will get through it just like so many other families have.