Death in the family, the cat has to go, and other stuff.

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according to this article, OOM, you have the right idea of what to do with your inheritance.

http://www.usatoday.com/story/money/per ... /72673762/

are you not speaking to me, OOM? i apologize for whatever.

OliveOilMom, face it. We all get accused of being horrible people when we air our dirty laundry online, which is kind of like what happened in the threads about my support agency doing a "dirty" on me as well. But there's nothing we can say to change other people's minds sometimes. They read our posts and identify that we are the potential culprits and bomb the threads. The thing is, they don't feel what we are feeling until it is them who are experiencing something similar. It's nice of others to be highly critical but then not see it from the point of view of the OP or victim.

Hey, OliveOilMom, are you ok? It seems you have a lot on your plate, and it can be rough to deal with nasty comments on top of it all. It seems that someone forgot that the cat is alive and crapping, while your mother in law is in fact dead.

Anyone would be overwhelmed in your situation. Hope things are calming down, and that you and hubby will be able to lay some worries to rest.

I second this about the cat. Keep it confined to one place even if it has to be for several weeks. The cat is too old for a new place. It will be traumatized. When Waldo is throwing up everywhere I keep him in one room to calm him and for easy cleanup of the mess.

I'm saying this to anyone with an animal - people are too quick to get rid of their animals when they start doing something they don't like. I wish I could get rid of some people and kids that do the same crap. Animals know when things are happening in the household and feel the stress and act out just like any person would - they need routine. When I was sick with pneumonia, Waldo kept acting out and howling to the point I wanted to get rid of him, but of course I never would. I put him in one room and he stayed there for literally a month 24hrs a day and I let him out into the living room for a few minutes a few times a day. I have an automatic feeder and he hardly ever saw me - I couldn't be around him much because I'm allergic to him A LOT, but instead of getting rid of him I don't let him in my bedroom and I just bought 2 large air purifiers (which he hates but I'm sure he would hate the pound more). My point is there are many things that can be done instead if getting rid of an animal.

One source that might help is the show "My Cat From Hell" with Jackson Galaxy. I learned a lot of things from that show and I even went to see him in person hoping I could woo him into becoming Waldo's new daddy - I was desperate. I wasn't able to hook him, but at least I still can watch the show for tips.

So are you keeping the cat or what?

How about some compassion for the human in this thread? You should try it sometimes.


So did OOM, what's your point?



OOM, try to take care of yourself these days, all the problems you mentioned will take some time to get sorted out, but at least they seem to be moving in the right direction.

I've always been amazed at the amount of stress you manage to cope with on a regular basis, so I'm very glad to hear about the money. I hope you'll use some to do something nice for yourself, you sound like you could really use a break!

Cats have feelings too.

I'm actually a cat person. When OOM's cat starts in thread in the Haven about not being allowed to take a dump where the family eats, I would gladly offer my sympathy, advice and support.

I haven't been on the internet for a few days. The vet is finding someone to take her. It'll be ok. Been putting her in the spare empty bedroom at night with the litter box and water and she's going in the box. Still though, she went on the dryer today in the middle of the day. The vet lady needs to hurry the hell up though. We have a party tomorrow and if that cat s**ts on something during the party I'm gonna be way more pissed. This is the theme party for my son's gf. We are cooking out and I'm making a few things and it's gonna be before the ball game then folks are staying for that.

I just got my meds back, the Welbutrin and Lexapro. They work great and I need some energy. I don't get a buzz or anything from them but after a few weeks I"m like Martha Stewart on speed when I take that stuff. I sleep just fine too, and eat well and stop smoking. I'm just very energetic and happy and s**t. So that'll be all lovely for the holiday season. After all, it's always Halloween in your heart ain't it?

But the meds have given me horrible headaches and insomnia like they always do for the first couple weeks while my body adjusts and then it goes completely away. I asked this new chick for something for that, Ambien and either Tramadol or some 7.5 mg Norco's, because that's what works for this. Chick gives me f*****g Ibuprofin and Melatonin! I have that s**t at home and it doesn't work for REGULAR headaches and insomnia so it sure won't for this drug pumped up side effect insomnia and headaches. I just suffered through it. It's almost gone though, the headaches are better, and that's actually good because if she gave me ANYTHING it would be Tramadol (non narcotic no matter what the DEA now says about it's classification) and I'd be really worried about Seratonin Syndrome combining it with the other meds (hint - the "buzz" folks think they get from it is a mood lift caused by Seratonin, it's completely non narcotic but the DEA has changed it to scheduled because people sell it) So I go back and see her Tuesday. I'm gonna have a word with her about it. I get it because the economy in this town is based off of crystal meth and Oxycontin and they see tons of drug seekers but that isn't what I'm doing. My best friend is a f*****g heroin junkie, if I wanted to get high I'd just have to make one phone call. I'm gonna point that s**t out to her Tuesday. I asked for them because they WORK, I use OTC crap as a first line treatment anyway and when it doesn't work I need something stronger. Sorry if they want to treat everybody based on some people's problem with drugs but if they do that then they need to stop prescribing anything that anyone is allergic to at all. I'm pointing that out too - same principal.

So, I been just laying around in bed, watching NCIS still and dealing with headaches and sleeping about two hours at a stretch. It's sucks but it is what it is and it won't kill me but if I get really depressed that just might so I can just suck it the hell up and get through it. Which is what I'm doing. I've had several energy drinks tonight and have oh, about 14 hours to get this party together before people get here. I didn't get the money from my son for it until yesterday and didn't have a way to go get s**t till today so it's balls to the wall tonight. I got a couple four packs of Monsters in there so I'll do fine. Coffee and energy drinks work well, especially on sleep deprivation.

I'm also doing something to make myself feel like getting the hell up out of the sack and getting dressed and putting forth an effort most days. Since I got my new smart phone (29.88 at Walmart and 45 a month with Straight Talk service card) I been taking selfies and posting them on FB. I wore vintage and retro crap most of last month and put up a selfie most days, with the hair and pinup makeup and outfit, and I'm doing another theme for this month too. All Black October! I have tons of black clothes. I actually could pull off being a goth if I felt like it I have so many. So, every day I'm going to wear all black or mostly black or black themed (with red or white, etc) and put up a selfie. It's just something to do. Kinda gives me a reason to put on makeup and fix my hair when I'm not leaving the house and seeing nobody but my kids and husband. Mindsigh always "likes" them, and I think AuntBlabby sometimes "likes" them too, as do some other folks. And it's fun. Found a lot of eye tutorials and foundation tutorials to do this month and some hair crap too. So, it's something to do, huh?

I do have a lot of s**t on my plate but it's feast or famine for me usually. Either absolutely NOTHING is going on and I'm bored s**tless and it's the same old s**t day after day after day or some s**t is going on and it all goes on at once, this one and that one and the other one etc. That's just how it works I guess. I enjoy the boring part for a bit but then it gets old. I don't like the drama but it does get my adrenaline going and I'm good at it so I guess it keeps me on my toes. I'm sure tomorrow will be fun. Maybe. We have the party at noon and then the game starts at 2:30 and it's SUPPOSED to be alcohol free because the guest of honor has quit drinking but I know my son and husband and a couple other folks will get shitfaced and I'm so hoping that won't start a fight between my son and his gf and she leaves him here because I don't want to deal with his drunk ass all night. He has a HUGE capacity for booze and can drink for close to 24 hours before he passes out and I'll be damned if I'm gonna deal with that. I'll f*****g knock him the hell out with something first. Benadryl will actually do it for him believe it or not, he has no drug tolerance at all. He's 26 years old but I'll dose him up like he's 6 and it's past his bed time and he's hyper. My husband REFUSES to not drink but it is his house and it is the Alabama game and I believe Auburn is playing too so it's kind of a big deal. He's working tomorrow but only half a day cause of the game.

My son got her a tattoo thing. The machine and gun and all the s**t. She used to do tats in her home state. She's from California. She also has an art degree. Maybe she will fix my other son's Bean Curd tattoo that he thought meant Tiger or some s**t like that. I'm thinking that's the very first thing she needs to do. My son is planning on me and her drawing him some epic back piece tat that she will one day put on him that will involve that wizard guy from the inside of the Led Zeppelin album that has stairway to heaven on it, the road on Jackson Browne's Running on Empty album, a badass car, a grim reaper, and our coat of arms from my husbands family. Maybe some flames too. I don't know. I think it may possible be the redneckest tatt in the world. Oh yeah, and a rebel flag. For Skynerd. So, there ya go. And a big pheonix bird kind of like on the Journey logo. I cannot think how ANY of this s**t would fit together in any context what soever unless the artist had dropped acid. I really cannot. But I bet that somebody is gonna go home with a very unfortunate tatt tomorrow if she gets to drinking again since other folks won't be polite.

So, that's whats up with me. Soon I have to start decorating and making the devilled eggs and tater salad (Without Ron White though ). I'm gonna look around a bit first though. Got to get motivated. Maybe one more glass of very sweet tea first.

I think putting the cat down is the best option. It is probably suffering from some physical problem or trauma from being rehomed at an old age. I think it is the humane option. Prolonging it's life with expensive medications or even rehoming it again will only drag out unpleasantly what is inevitable.
The tattoo your son wants sounds like it is still evolving. You never know, it might turn into something okay.
Good luck with the inheritance. I hope it goes smoothly.

My sister lives in a stair and there was a cat I saw one day. I'd advise OliveOilMom not to terminate the life of such a nice animal though, just because she feels she currently cannot care for it. The cat does not deserve the death penalty.

Why do you say that? Death comes to everything living. A good death at a good age is better than a bad death at a greater age.

What does "living in a stair" mean. In the US, that would mean the person is probably homeless and lives in a stairwell of an apartment building.

I read most of the OP.

I had a Calico cat for 13 years and she also started to piss in the house and not use her litter box when she was around eight years of age. I just started to keep her outside most of the time. I think the cat has gone senile so they start to act weird. That is what mine did. Sure she was fit as a fiddle and looked in good shape but her brain was going out which would explain why she would act weird in new situations and why she started to miss her litter box and why she quit burying her s**t and why she started to just go outside her litter box. She was even pissing in my parents storage spaces in the rec room when I moved and they had her for me.

It must be a tough decision to put a animal down over this when keeping them outside isn't an option. Just too bad they can't wear diapers unless they are a dog. http://www.walmart.com/c/kp/dog-diapers

When we first moved, we had a big cat on our land and he was mean.He would harass our cats, hiss and snarl at my mother, all our cats were afraid of him and it was affecting them. One of our cats was putting her kittens under the garage and I think she did that to protect them because the cat would be too big to fit through the hole. Then finally my dad shot the big cat after we saw him trapping one of our cats on one of the cattle things and she was pooping as he got closer and closer to her.

The sad thing is he may have been a house cat to our previous renters but had left him behind. But if he was so mean, that could be why they left him.