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I just feel really stupid. I genuinely thought he liked me, but as time has gone on I've realised he's really not that interested. He's just being nice. There's nothing else there. I just feel stupid for being deluded.

Lady at work seems the same. I thought she liked me maybe, but nowI think I was just something to pass time.
I'm going unfriend her.

I dont know how we are suppose to tell interest from just friendly. I've also had this happen many times.

Why would you unfriend her? You do that to people you really don't like.

Keep yourself open to possibilities, Sly.

Are you a musician, Hurtloam? I had a crush on a classical musician-lady once.

Treat others how they treat you.

I have no interest in having none friends on my fb friends list.

Possibilities of what? She ignores me just like the lady my sister introduced me to . I don't think I'm going add women to my fb anymore. I'm very selective on who I add. I added them because I was interested in them and thought they were too. I don't want to have to be constantly reminded their fakiness every time I go on Facebook or fb messenger which is multiple times a day. It hurts

I can't really play anything my much, I just enjoy all sorts of music and going to concerts.

I can't play anything at all.

I like many types of music.

I tend to lean towards the 50's-70's, and classical, too.

I'm so sorry you're in pain. A while ago you seemed so upbeat and cheerful, it makes me sad to see life bringing you down.

It's a messed up world

That's why the crash is so hard, I was enjoying spending time with this person. But I'm not getting any reciprocation. It's only me that arranges things and makes the effort to.go.over and talk to him.

My friend says he obviously likes me, just not a much as I like him. He's happy to be just friendly acquaintances.

I'm feeling a bit better now. You get to a point where you can't cry anymore.

I have a new special interest. I watched that documentary on Netflix about digging up the landfill where Atari dumped their excess stock. Now I'm watching all the youtube videos I can find on the history of Atari.

I used to play Atari games in video game arcades. Games like Centipede, Donkey Kong, Punch out. I was in my late teens/early 20's.

I was obsessed with Ms. Pac Man for a time around 1983.

You should research the "Golden Age of Video Games."

It's ok to feel sad when a romantic interest goes south, but it's not ok to decide to give up. You can take a break from dating if you like. But the conclusion "no one will ever love me" is giving up.

Also I'm not the first to observe, often the right person comes along when you are not actively looking.

It might be true though. I'm basing this on previous experience. No one likes me enough to want a relationship with me. I'm still me. Is that really going to change?

I've met all sorts if men from different backgrounds in different circumstances and none of them want to date me.

There is something unattractive and not relationship material about me.

Also I have female friends on the spectrum who are in their mid 40s and they still have never had a boyfriend. The future looks bleak.

It's sad that we have so many lonely men and women without them being able to find each other, there are people out there but it's seems so often we're trapped in our own bubble and can't trust our senses that seemingly come natural to everyone else to know what is real and what isn't. I've had similar thoughts about ending up alone which are unpleasant to say the least, the fact I have so much to work on with myself is kind of a distraction and way for me to rationalize my situation but it does kind of set you up for this Sisyphean task where you work so hard and put your hopes into things only for it to blow up in your face. Sometimes it feels it doesn't matter what you do but maybe I'm projecting, I dunno but it's certainly is tough regardless. I just try to work on myself and make myself better, to try to be more open and more social but it is very tiring when you have no recourse.

Hey just wanted to say that im in the same boat. Found a girl who I thought can tolerate my behavior and I did warn her in the beginning of the problems of autism specially somebody that found out about it in his late 20s and now has to tackle and manage my aspie brain right instead of being mis guided. She excepted me then stress of school trying to support her because she never told me her financial situation while going broke so I melted down a lot. She left screwed me out of my lease and told me if I did not sign her off she would file domestic which I never laid a hand on her. So I lost a person who I thought was excepting of my condition and for the most part made me happy. Those issues I was worried about her finances ,me melting down regularly could of been fixed and I could of fixed myself. She came from a sheltered life under her folks roof intill I moved her out 4 months ago after dating for 9 months and she is 28. Now I find nothing wrong with that I need my folks help to but try to live ad dependent as I can. This happen last thursday went to a scheldued weekly appointment with a councillor and was hospitalized not more then less then a hour. Im sorry and I feel for you I really do. I know where you are coming from. The feeling of rejection depression frusteration and anger. But I hope you do better. I hope this helps that your not alone.

Have you and they tried dating websites just wondering? I've not had much success with them couple of dates.

I like you, Hurtloam.

And I do believe you will find somebody.

Honestly. No bullcrap.

I know of plenty of Americans who would be absolutely aroused by your English accent