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03 Jan 2017, 3:34 am

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First off I'm so tired of the oh you just think women are objects. Cause I never said that. Finding s gf/bf or finding s friend are common phrases and in no way imply women are objects.


Okay sorry,

I know nothing of women to be honest, I wouldn't want to find one if I knew how.

I am sorry you want one and can't have one, I have no need for one and evidently they have little need for me. If I have to disappear for eight hours a day then evidently a woman is more interested in getting rid of me then keeping me. Sounds shallow to me which is not far off from the expectation you have of yourself but whatever. I am sorry, I was trying help, I'll go away.

Did you ever ask that one that said sort of yes again? If it wasn't a hell no under pressure there is hope. Ask one more time and sorry if you have already posted about that, I only read about 70% of the forum.


Society values people based on how much they contribute. It's taught most people to value people like that as well.

No ive been avoiding her and her me.
I went there on my day off with my sister . And guess she was staring at us and then smiled when my sister saw her and walked away fast.
I've been told she isn't wanting a relationship so I've backed off completely. I don't want to harass her or seem like I am. Since I am mostly unable to read people. Avoiding her seems safe. I have no idea what to do. It's been two weeks now since I asked her



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03 Jan 2017, 3:38 am

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Keep trying... I don't have a job and nothing indicates that I will ever get one, but I'm not going to let that bring me down. A relationship is about loving one another for who they are, if she can't do that it would never work out anyway. There's so many messed up people that find a partner somehow, so if you're a nice person you already have an edge over most of the population :D

From what I've gathered relationships are more of a business partnership now a days. Two people combining their incomes to invest in a future. Which explains why when one loses their income they get divorced.

But the messed up people have a lot of stuff I don't



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03 Jan 2017, 3:39 am

I can help you with this if you answer a few questions for me. First off what is your hobbies are they social enough where you could meet potential partner. Secondly what do you look like are you over weight do you have an ugly face contrary to what society says looks do play an important role in first attraction.



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06 Jan 2017, 6:44 pm

Nephi wrote:
I can help you with this if you answer a few questions for me. First off what is your hobbies are they social enough where you could meet potential partner. Secondly what do you look like are you over weight do you have an ugly face contrary to what society says looks do play an important role in first attraction.

Video games, shaving, history, guns. So it very social. I'm not into parties or big groups of people.

I dont know a lot of women say I'm unattractive face wise.



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07 Jan 2017, 11:12 am

Both sides relax.

Sly279- Seems like every comment you write your trying to convince everyone you have no change of finding someone. That type of attitude will get you nothing. Regardless of where you work, how butt ugly you are, how awkward socially you may be- telling this s**t to us will do nothing, you understand this right?

There is a reason special forces soldiers are able to produce the results they do under any circumstance. Mental control and moral.

Keeping the glass half full is not easy for me (and im assuming you). Be confident, analyze yourself, and just live life my friend.

Practice makes perfect.


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07 Jan 2017, 12:41 pm

If you don't enjoy your job, why not look for a different type of work that you'd at least like doing regardless of job title or pay scale?


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10 Jan 2017, 3:24 am

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If you don't enjoy your job, why not look for a different type of work that you'd at least like doing regardless of job title or pay scale?

But if not for the women I'd like my job.



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10 Jan 2017, 3:45 am

Maybe you could set goals for yourself. Maybe try working hard and exercising for starters. That could lead to you climbing up the ladder and make yourself more appealing to those around you. Girls like women who are those things it shows that the guy is healthy and confident/able to provide.