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Claradoon
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21 Oct 2018, 2:27 am

blazingstar wrote:
https://www.cba.ca/powers-of-attorney-what-consumers-need-to-know

"Remember that you can revoke an existing POA and appoint a new Attorney at any time. You may want to do this if you have concerns about the way your Attorney is acting for you, or if your situation changes and you think the person who is currently your Attorney is no longer suitable. Or the current Attorney may no longer be available to act for you. If you revoke your POA, you need to tell your bank so they can update your records to reflect your choice. If you move to a different province or territory or outside of Canada, your existing POA may not be recognized in that new location.

This text only provides general information and does not constitute a legal opinion. Since the POA rules vary between provinces, the CBA strongly encourages you to seek advice from a legal expert before making any decision in these matters."


The above is from a Canadian website. You can probably google some more to get forms and do it yourself.
Thank you, but as a former paralegal I already took a stab at it and wrote one. I need a witness. But then I couldn't decide what I wanted and dropped it for a while.

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Claradoon, it is so difficult as we age and start suspecting we may be losing our minds, getting dementia and others see us elder women as easy marks for fraud and abuse.

Is there anyone you can trust? You need a trusted person to review your paperwork, help you get the POA revoked and maybe a new doctor if the one you currently have is focused on showing you are having blackouts. It is of course possible you have a medical condition and that would need to be addressed. I don't know much about services available in Canada, but maybe someone here does. Is there any agency for assistance for the elderly?


Can we make a Topic out of this? You've hit it bang on and I don't think I've ever discussed it before. (But then, how would I know?) Maybe we could explore all these things.

No, there is nobody to trust.

Definitely need help with paperwork.

I think getting POA revoked will be as simple as asking for it. I mean, with my experience, it's familiar territory.

Doc is not trying to prove I have blackouts. I was but I didn't know the magnitude. All doc did was mention our last appointment during what I thought was our first appointment. I said, "You mean we've met before?" She nodded and the social worker nodded. I still don't remember any of it. Although I now have a vague memory of a woman signing papers. The papers on my kitchen table signed by her and dated on the day of the blackout.

Blackout could be a stress issue. That's why I cancelled dentist.



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21 Oct 2018, 8:46 am

I can imagine meeting a new doctor and SW and not remembering their faces. I have poor facial recognition and someone I only met once, pfff. Easy to forget. Not remembering the appointment at all is a bit more scary, although again it can happen. And stress certainly can be at work. I used to work in an emergency room and instructions and directions and information were given to patients and families and then they would ask the same question again. Or call back and say, nobody told me! but we would have a signed paper.

Like you, I try to not make decisions or tackle unusual situations unless I am in good shape mentally. Working in the garden, paddling the canoe, meditating, playing music are all ways for me to regain some mental clarity. I wish you well in your efforts.


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