Phrases you hated growing up

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Thanks. Let's just say my mother and I don't get on very well.

My dad was a sweetheart. His side were all ASD-types.

Hugs back to you, for your experiences.

"if you work hard you can be whatever you want to be when you grow up"

Sigh...


"Just smile!" I would if I were very allowed to punch someone on the face and free of guilt.

"Life is not fair." Because everyone is hypocritical and I wanna to have the same hypocrisy that most people can afford having.

"Don't go out alone/in the dark/walk late/etc." I'm one ungrateful child.

"Where are you going?" Out. Away.

"Just get along with others/You have to get along with others." Please, please someone tell me one can distinguish able to adapt from others as opposed to having to be with others...

"Join them!/Join us!" If I were a social kind of aspie, I'd be in paradise already. But oh, fate, odds and probability or whatever higher being and god placed me here; why did it not had to be one who would've wanted this??

"Stop playing dumb!" Can I tell by body to stop fluctuating and stop being reliable to myself then?

"You should've known that." Know what exactly? What you're thinking?

"But the greatest goal in life is (romantic) love!"

"Change your attitude." What attitude? The fact that there's a huge intention and action gap and people assumes what I do is all from intention and so is attitude????!

"It's just you." Then no further discussions needed nor you don't need to know.

"So is everyone/everyone deals with it too/it's not just you/etc..." Then there's no need for any discussions at all since so is everyone meaning you ought to 'know' while assuming entitlement and self-centeredness.


Again -- I wish I can get away with hypocritical rights as some people who can do better definitely. Wish, only so far to desire it but never demand.


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Reading some of these phrases, makes me think I'm quite lucky to have a family that accepts me, even if they don't understand me. Fnord and Isabella, I hope your lives have improved since those awful times. Best Wishes.

Other than those phrases, I've heard the others often enough.

My grandmother's romantic attitude...
"Look with your heart" - what does this even mean?
"You have no heart, only brains" - well, that may explain why I failed with the above, I guess.

Also being consistently called selfish, lazy, hysterical, narcissistic... and then, out of the blue, "my only child of any value" So. F-ing. Confusing.

But I think I'm finally slowly healing. It's the past now.
And some have to live with the scars (ingonyama nengw' enamabala)

"Stop moaning" - I was told this so much as a kid that in the end people said it even if I wasn't moaning. So it got difficult to express my feelings without being told those two words.

Now is not the time!
You have such bad timing!
I can't help you with the kind of problems that you have.
Go ask a prostitute.
Why don't you run away from home.
I just "tolerate" you.
I should've killed you a long time ago.

You can't feel XYZ, you have no reason to feel XYZ.

"Someday ... I promise."

"Stop following me"
I felt like punching kids when they said that. I hated being seen on my own and I so badly wanted friends.

Dividing up the class into teams for dodge-ball usually involved a conversation like this.

"HAH! You got Fnordie!"
"No, YOU got Fnordie!"
"I got him last time!"
"So? You got him again!"
"No way!"
"Way!
...

I hated dodge-ball.

I didn't have much social rejection in sports at school, although I wasn't the best at sports but I was hyperactive so was very fast. It was usually the fat kid that got rejected on teams.

But in the playground (at high school) I often had this kind of behaviour:-

Girl passes her sweets around the group but when she gets to me she just gives me a funny look and skips me. But when I'm eating sweets or crisps or whatever, the same girl would politely ask if she can have one. I wish I'd stood up for myself back then and said "no, you never give me any of yours."

"We're adults, so we can do and say whatever we please." And I STILL hate that phrase!

Sorry, I'm just feeling really disillusioned about adulthood.