I AM A PATHETIC PIECE OF ****

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Yop, they can do that, and its their right to freely think what they want. But you are a free person as well, so they cant harm you with their thoughts. Its simply silly, dumb thoughts and lot of people have silly, dumb thoughts, so why bother about it as long as they cant harm you? I have a IQ of more than 130, but when I talk to people they handle me like a moron. Its not because of them being bad and evil, but simply because normally having high intelligence also means an "active face and bodylanguage" when talking. I am fully concentrating on listening and forming words, my eyes are normally staring meanwhile on a blind spot, my face is without movement, and my body language is not existing. I simply am and look mentally disabled when it comes to verbal communication, and people can see that. People that know me, sooner or later recognize by themselves, thats its only that minor part of me affected, and that I am not generally "slow" but only when it comes to verbal communication. And people that dont know, simply cant know of it. I was sadened by that too, but generally: The main thing is, that the people you spend time with, know about you. When it comes to people you rarely have contact, its simply sufficient to get what you want. I dont care if a worker in a butchery thinks of me being slow or ret*d, I only care if I get my 100 gramm sausage in the way I ordered it. As long as they stay friendly, but simply start to talk slower or whatever, its ok for me, because when he dont know me yet, I cant blame him for not knowing that my ret*d behavement at social contact, doesnt mean of me being completly ret*d. And I dont want to wear a sign, telling everyone. ^^ So I dont care if unknown people treat me as ret*d, but what I do not accept is being treated in a bad way. So slower speaking or speaking as I was a child: Its frustrating but ok, they simply dont know. Treating me as I had lower worth: Not ok and I dont accept that behavement.

For many people the wish to socialize with someone is the same with liking someone. So many people will think, that because you dont want to spend time with them and share their gossip, that you dont like them and are not interested in them. You personally wont be able to change that when it comes to the broad mass of people, but along your contacts try to grab chance to show that you are interested in the welfare of people, even when you are not interested in spending time with them to gossip. So my neighbor first thought that I would avoid him because of him being serbian, until he learned that I am simply completly shy to everyone including my own parents. But if he needs some help as a neighbor, I am always willing to help and lucky for chances to prove people that I dont dislike them generally. If they need someone to chat, I cant help them, but if they need some special gardening tools, a taxi for an old female neighbor without car or car license to the local doctor, some heavy stuff they have forgotten to buy when their relatives where there to do their great shopping tour with them, ... its ok. I am a bit cranky sometimes, if its too sudden, but generally I dont mind for such things.

Yop, I agree it sucks. But I cant help you. Simply try and try and try and try and try... until it works. I also had big problems at that topic. You simply need luck. The job I now have, I only got because the person that was doing my job before me, had to leave the company so fast, that they couldnt to propper job interviews with many people and additionaly I offered them to work for really low money in the first year. Its simply: Why give the job to someone, that seem to be ret*d, when you can give it to someone that seems to be more able to do the job? Simply try to catch every chance to show someone, what you really can, when you are not forced to communication. They accepted me, because I offered them to work for very few loan, so they wouldnt have lost much if I wouldnt have managed the job and would loose the job again. And then I showed them, that I can do that job in a good way. There is no manual how to acchieve a job: Simply grab every chance and hope that you will get this time that damn extrapiece of luck, you need to acchieve a job. And simply accept, that sometimes their will be an extrapiece of bad luck also.

When it comes to "normal" friends I also lack competence, but at least around my interests I was able to find "friends". Whatever your hobbies and interests are, try to find friends by them, even if you only talk to them over internet or whatever.

Same like the job, try your best and hope for luck for finding a romance, but no guarantee for it. But generally a romance wont help you for being happy. Either you are happy yourself or you are unhappy yourself, but there is noone else responsible for being happy then you.

Try to acchieve more special knowlege for jobs. The more advantages and skills you can offer, the less will your misadvantages count.

Simply eat less and do sports. I could try to cuddle you with emotional stuff and tell you lies but if you have overweight the only thing that really helps you is changing the stuff you eat and doing more movement. There is no gear needed to do so, you can simply start by trying with doing more normal walks around your neighborhood. Or doing some easy gymnastics before the television. No need for expensive gear or sports clubs or whatever, simply start slowly to enhance the time you move yourself, in which way ever.

No, we are only socially total loosers. ^^ But being a looser cant prevent you from enjoying your free time. I am socially a total looser, but that wont affect me having fun playing computer games this evening.

[quote}THE BULLIES FROM HIGH SCHOOL WERE RIGHT. I SHOULD HAVE LISTENED TO THEM.