a 24 yr. old good for nothing

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You are smart you just have to believe in yourself!

When I started working on myself I was the mental age of 12 and I did it. You can too ! I believe in you! Also if you want any help I'm more then willing to lend a helping hand .

I could come in here and say look at the positives. But i'm not going to.

I am really sorry that you feel that way, and I think it happens to all of us. You just need to know that we're here to listen when you need it.

but is it acceptable for other people to insult you for your harmless religious beliefs & and for them to think of me being a huge fan of a music group is no importance to see them in person?
FYI - this music group mean the world to me and i never a shot to see them in concert. like i said, they don't know what's it like for me to just sit there just listening to their music, seeing them in videos & books for 16 years. i have the right to see them in concert, don't i? WHO'S GONNA STOP ME HERE? NaturalTrapist? LePetitPrince? NOBODY! NOT EVEN A DAMN SHRINK CAN TELL NOT SEE THEM! i need a full-time job to get me to Europe to see them play, but i can't get it because i have Autism!

Don't blame autism for the fact that can't get a job. I've held down two jobs in my life and I have autism. As for the concerts, I'm not stopping you. All I'm saying is that it's really hard to sympathize with you on that. I think the only thing stopping you might be an unwillingness to get a job.

As for those two, yes I had to be interviewed and it was intimidating. But I needed the money and the experience.

Obviously it is a big deal that ttqs84 never got to see her concert. Even though a lot of you have said that shouldn't be that important, it does seem to be important to her.

A similar thing happened in my life. I am a roller coaster enthusiast---actually obsessed with them. I had the chance in 1983 to go to Idora Park in Youngstown, Ohio to ride the world famous Wildcat (wood coaster built in 1930). My parents had taken me to Kennywood Park in Pittsburgh and were going to drive me to Idora. But I said, let's spend more time at Kennywood and hit Idora next year. Next year didn't come---Idora Park's Wildcat burned down. It was never rebuilt. It's gone forever. I have regretted that ever since---because I had the chance.

I believe in consolation prizes to ease these situations, so I went on the hunt for the blueprints to the Wildcat---and I found them. They cost me 250 dollars, but I got them. Now I can build it myself. Well---not in full size---but in HO scale model railroad scale. But I have felt better ever since and no longer dwell on not having ridden the Wildcat.

I think what I am trying to say is, I sympathize with ttqs84 for her missed concert. But, I do encourage ttqs84 to try to find a consolation prize---because nothing can bring that moment back. You cannot dwell on it anymore to the extent that you have. Yes, you can always say, "I wish I had seen them," but try to put it out of your mind as much as you can. But you do have my sympathy on it.

Well, my post posted twice, so I had to edit and delete the text and write this in its place to explain.

I don't though, and you can't convince me to. I don't care if the band was her obsession or not. You don't list not seeing a band as being one of the reasons your life sucks. Look, there have been plenty of missed chances in my life, like not seeing my cousin in Oregon a few months before he was hit by a car. He's dead, he's not coming back. I missed out and now I'm screwed on that one. To me, that seems a helluva lot more serious than a band. Even if they broke up. And another, even if my cousin's dead, my life is good, he would've wanted me to be happy anyway.

Hmmm. Take That, well of your 16 years of being a fan they were on an indefinite hiatus for 10 of that, seemingly with no liklihood of re-grouping. How did that make you feel? How did you cope then?

I'm sure you were elated when they reformed, focus on that rather than the negatives, at least they got back together eh? Perhaps they'll become more popular in the US now they've matured and tour there.

come visit me!! !! !! !! !! !

I live in Japan.

sometimes I get like this... because my self-worth is very much tied up in my studies and my work. If I am not working I can get depressed. I am not sure what to do to kick you out of it except to tell you to start flipping through the phone book and looking at places you might be able to contribute to. Donate plasma (hey, its money), collect cans for a little change, scooping horse crap, whatever... and start saving up to get yourself to where you want to be.

You life is a little rough just like mine.

My parents were separated when I was 5, divorced at 8
I got beat up at home, ignore at school. I skipped school for an entire year and no one noticed
I grew up in Taiwan convinced I was Chinese and had a mini-identity crisis when I came back to the States.
I failed the fourth grade due to not being socially adequate.
I have a hard time fitting in and making friends
And I am 25, currently unemployed (working on fixing that-student teaching starts in 2 weeks)
I live halfway across the world and my family is killing themselves with addictions and I can't convince anyone to do anything.
I might be an Aspie (undergoing evaluation)
And I am spending Christmas alone in a foreign country while my husband is deployed.



And somehow I can get through this.

So can you.

i don't know why God had the nerve to put me here in this world because of the following:
-my dad left me when i was 3. Not your foult in any way.
-kids made fun of me at school. Not your foult.
-i was put in a foreign boarding school where the kids & teachers were worse. Not your foult.
-i was put on Special Ed. thru middle & high school where they took me off Chorus & Theater. Not your foult.
-i had bad grades & didn't fit in with anyone...even thru fashion & beauty school. Not really your foult, depends on the situation. Though most people have sometimes bad marks. It doesn't make you a monster or anything. Not really something to hate yourself for.
-of all the music bands i saw in concert, i never got to see Take That on stage who i've been a fan of for 16 yrs. -Not your foult, maybe you should have taken more initiative, but is it that bad?
i'm 24 and unemployed. Happens a lot with aspies. Sollicitate or go to college, but don't stay home complaining. There is hope, move on and you'll see.
-i have no friends. I don't have a lot of friends, too. It's very logical you don't have any since you're an aspie. Do you really want them? Have you ever considered that, whether you need them? It is not that bad, and certainly not something to feel guilty about or resent yourself for. It's not really your foult.
-i'm not beautiful. Not your foult. I don't know what you look like, but there are many people who aren't that beautiful who still have a great life. Cheer up. It isn't the end of the world. It can make things more difficult, but not impossible. Happiness does not depend on looks. You can't help it.
-my mom hates me. Not your foult, but something you mother should be evry ashamed about.
-i can't do anything right. I can't either. It is not my foult. Neither is it yours.
-i'm going back to my country where there's no help for people like me. Where do you come from?It doesn't make you worthless.
-and finally, i'm an Aspie. So am I. Why does that make you a worthless person?

is there a reason for me to exist? Yes, if you create one. Start doing things, discover what you like and can, discover your abilities and possibilities. You seem to have a view of yourself as if you are worthless and not much more than crap. Why? Most things you named in the list aren't your foult so they don't make you less valuable. When I look at your list, I think I can consider myself worthless and meaningless too. Many bad things happened to me without me making mistakes. Sometimes I made mistakes, sometimes not. Try to improve your situation.

1) take initiative? i've entered competitions to see them and lost. they don't take American-based TT fans for winners. i asked my mom if i can see them play in their UK reunion tour, but no dice! i'm unemployed and can't afford to go to Europe. if Take That came to North/South America, i'd see them in a heartbeat!
2) i've went to Fashion & Make-up school & left with 2 certificates. no companies will even look at me and rejection has played a big part in life.
3) i'm Colombian and nobody there wants anything to do with people with both physical/mental disabilities.

Last edited by ttqs84 on 23 Dec 2008, 1:59 pm, edited 1 time in total.

finally! somebody here knows what i'm talking about!
i became a TT fan when i was in Europe. i couldn't go to their shows back in the day because i was stuck in this god-forsaking Swiss boarding school for 2 and a half years. when they broke up, i thought it was a joke. but when it was true, i thought i'll never ever see them again together. then i found out Gary, Mark, & Robbie went solo, i was kinda happy for that. i only saw Robbie Williams tour here in the US and he never came back (despite the fact that he's been living in LA).

as for TT's reunion, or course i'm elated! i wanted to go to their recent shows so bad but like i said, i'm unemployed and i participated in contests but i lost because i live in the US. i heard rumors that they'll come to Canada ast year but they never came. no word on them crossing the Atlantic yet.

My nickname is in bold...cool!

You can go and see them ... start that by searching for a job .

LePetitPrince, you told me in a PM you're a male. why is it that in your profile it's says "female"?

some people are posting good advice and you seem to ignore it.

I wish people would be direct enough to state whether or not they want valid advice or smoke blown up their butt before I go to the trouble of attempting to help them.