My Future Terrifies Me.

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I'm 20, and every time I think I'm making it on my own, I have a breakdown and fall back to my parents. The idea of never being fully independent consumes me. But at the same time, I have come further than I ever have before, and each year I get better at looking after myself.

I am well past the food and basic living stage now; I can live at college fine, but the financial and paperwork stuff is what breaks me.

I am forcing myself to be independent. I am doing my own clothes, washing up, ordering my own food in restaurants, most things my parents do for me i offer first. You HAVE to force yourself.

Yeah, you do. I'm over 40, and still have to force myself to do the routine stuff much of the time.

Fortunately, forcing yourself to do it becomes routine, too.

Sometimes I stop, and things break down a little. Then, I get back into gear and clean stuff up. No big deal, if you catch yourself in time.

The way things start to go downhill when you stop forcing yourself, motivates you to keep doing it.

As an aspie, you can apply your intellect to this problem just as you do to more abstract questions. Think of different ways to approach it, and keep trying until you find ways that work for you.

Keeping your physical stuff organized is key. I'm huge on shelves and baskets.

Get an alarm clock, the alarm will help you know when it's time to eat.
Also get a full year wall-calendar, and write on it "bath" after you bathe, so you know if you bathed the day before.
Also you can put there other things like "haircut day" (like every 4 weeks).
Hope it helps (:

And everyone is right, you will become better with time, just let the improvements become part of your daily routine (: