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19 Mar 2009, 3:18 pm
Asmodeus wrote:
I had this problem. My mother, when I rarely contact her, will usually be negative towards me. She would say something was wrong with me as a child, then when I was given a diganosis she took no steps to help, simply was satisfied a label was in place. She would repeat herself on things if I disagreed, instead of accepting my input, I would be called lazy, all the time.
When I came home cut and bruised from school from being beaten by the class, and finally got her to come in to talk to the teacher, they both came to the conclusion it was my own fault, simply for not understanding others. It took me months to change school, eventually based on my only friend leaving himself.
I built my own self esteem, and it isn't based on other people's expectations, and for that I think I'm a stronger person.
When I came home cut and bruised from school from being beaten by the class, and finally got her to come in to talk to the teacher, they both came to the conclusion it was my own fault, simply for not understanding others. It took me months to change school, eventually based on my only friend leaving himself.
I built my own self esteem, and it isn't based on other people's expectations, and for that I think I'm a stronger person.
Your mother is a weak person and a coward who didn't protect her child when you needed support the most.
You're doing the right thing and yes, you are stronger now. And you will continue to grow.
Been there doing that...
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19 Mar 2009, 3:36 pm
JeffJ wrote:
My dad really seems to try to destroy my self esteem but I really refuse to allow it. My confidence has admittedly been shaken to its core over hte years, but I always try to keep my head up and in a good mood. I really try hard not to let it bother me. But sometimes I break down once it all comes to the surface again. But I wont give up.
"confidence has NO budget!"
- Dwayne Michael Carter, Jr. a.k.a Lil Wayne
psst!,... your dad is a little kid and a hardcore turd for doing this to his own child, you are officially bigger then your father. grats!
19 Mar 2009, 5:42 pm
Hi Ana54. Well my dad certainly destroyed my self esteem. I'm not gonna go into details, but I am currently under going therapy regarding my past with him and how it has shaped my present. Maybe therapy will help. One thing I can say, is that you must not allow what anyone did to control how you feel about yourself. Gaining an understanding of why such words were said and how one should deal with it will definately help. I hope things go well... 
20 Mar 2009, 12:18 am
SoulcakeDuck wrote:
Asmodeus wrote:
I had this problem. My mother, when I rarely contact her, will usually be negative towards me. She would say something was wrong with me as a child, then when I was given a diganosis she took no steps to help, simply was satisfied a label was in place. She would repeat herself on things if I disagreed, instead of accepting my input, I would be called lazy, all the time.
When I came home cut and bruised from school from being beaten by the class, and finally got her to come in to talk to the teacher, they both came to the conclusion it was my own fault, simply for not understanding others. It took me months to change school, eventually based on my only friend leaving himself.
I built my own self esteem, and it isn't based on other people's expectations, and for that I think I'm a stronger person.
When I came home cut and bruised from school from being beaten by the class, and finally got her to come in to talk to the teacher, they both came to the conclusion it was my own fault, simply for not understanding others. It took me months to change school, eventually based on my only friend leaving himself.
I built my own self esteem, and it isn't based on other people's expectations, and for that I think I'm a stronger person.
Your mother is a weak person and a coward who didn't protect her child when you needed support the most.
You're doing the right thing and yes, you are stronger now. And you will continue to grow.
Been there doing that...
Hence I live away from my family. Cheers.
20 Mar 2009, 3:09 am
SoulcakeDuck
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20 Mar 2009, 11:34 am
Asmodeus wrote:
SoulcakeDuck wrote:
Asmodeus wrote:
I had this problem. My mother, when I rarely contact her, will usually be negative towards me. She would say something was wrong with me as a child, then when I was given a diganosis she took no steps to help, simply was satisfied a label was in place. She would repeat herself on things if I disagreed, instead of accepting my input, I would be called lazy, all the time.
When I came home cut and bruised from school from being beaten by the class, and finally got her to come in to talk to the teacher, they both came to the conclusion it was my own fault, simply for not understanding others. It took me months to change school, eventually based on my only friend leaving himself.
I built my own self esteem, and it isn't based on other people's expectations, and for that I think I'm a stronger person.
When I came home cut and bruised from school from being beaten by the class, and finally got her to come in to talk to the teacher, they both came to the conclusion it was my own fault, simply for not understanding others. It took me months to change school, eventually based on my only friend leaving himself.
I built my own self esteem, and it isn't based on other people's expectations, and for that I think I'm a stronger person.
Your mother is a weak person and a coward who didn't protect her child when you needed support the most.
You're doing the right thing and yes, you are stronger now. And you will continue to grow.
Been there doing that...
Hence I live away from my family. Cheers.
so do I, moved to another country to study. I'm alone and more independent, feels goouuud.
*spreads wings*
20 Mar 2009, 11:37 am
Asmodeus wrote:
SoulcakeDuck wrote:
Asmodeus wrote:
I had this problem. My mother, when I rarely contact her, will usually be negative towards me. She would say something was wrong with me as a child, then when I was given a diganosis she took no steps to help, simply was satisfied a label was in place. She would repeat herself on things if I disagreed, instead of accepting my input, I would be called lazy, all the time.
When I came home cut and bruised from school from being beaten by the class, and finally got her to come in to talk to the teacher, they both came to the conclusion it was my own fault, simply for not understanding others. It took me months to change school, eventually based on my only friend leaving himself.
I built my own self esteem, and it isn't based on other people's expectations, and for that I think I'm a stronger person.
When I came home cut and bruised from school from being beaten by the class, and finally got her to come in to talk to the teacher, they both came to the conclusion it was my own fault, simply for not understanding others. It took me months to change school, eventually based on my only friend leaving himself.
I built my own self esteem, and it isn't based on other people's expectations, and for that I think I'm a stronger person.
Your mother is a weak person and a coward who didn't protect her child when you needed support the most.
You're doing the right thing and yes, you are stronger now. And you will continue to grow.
Been there doing that...
Hence I live away from my family. Cheers.
Not to be mean but only you can base your self worth so in the end don't let your mother affect you. My mother is sick and dieing and she hasn't been near as cruel as yours was but furthermore she has done things that caused issues what she feels about me whether or not I love her is her opinion. I know I'm awesome and that is the only person who needs to have a positive opinion of me is myself.
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20 Mar 2009, 12:12 pm
Abangyarudo wrote:
Asmodeus wrote:
SoulcakeDuck wrote:
Asmodeus wrote:
I had this problem. My mother, when I rarely contact her, will usually be negative towards me. She would say something was wrong with me as a child, then when I was given a diganosis she took no steps to help, simply was satisfied a label was in place. She would repeat herself on things if I disagreed, instead of accepting my input, I would be called lazy, all the time.
When I came home cut and bruised from school from being beaten by the class, and finally got her to come in to talk to the teacher, they both came to the conclusion it was my own fault, simply for not understanding others. It took me months to change school, eventually based on my only friend leaving himself.
I built my own self esteem, and it isn't based on other people's expectations, and for that I think I'm a stronger person.
When I came home cut and bruised from school from being beaten by the class, and finally got her to come in to talk to the teacher, they both came to the conclusion it was my own fault, simply for not understanding others. It took me months to change school, eventually based on my only friend leaving himself.
I built my own self esteem, and it isn't based on other people's expectations, and for that I think I'm a stronger person.
Your mother is a weak person and a coward who didn't protect her child when you needed support the most.
You're doing the right thing and yes, you are stronger now. And you will continue to grow.
Been there doing that...
Hence I live away from my family. Cheers.
Not to be mean but only you can base your self worth so in the end don't let your mother affect you. My mother is sick and dieing and she hasn't been near as cruel as yours was but furthermore she has done things that caused issues what she feels about me whether or not I love her is her opinion. I know I'm awesome and that is the only person who needs to have a positive opinion of me is myself.
very true, but I do not have any ill intent or bad feeling towards my mom/dad. Sure they were misunderstanding, pushy and condescending but as a little kid I never absorbed their comments nor others since I quickly realized that they themselves were very unsure of things and what they said to me was just one persons opinion. A little child sees his/her parents as "almighty" beings, while growing up I saw mine as equals. Nobody could tell me s**t, but fact still remains, my mother gave me life fed me and took care of me even if she did this in a very messy and confusing way I would never have it any other way since that is what shapes me to become who I am and who I will become. I do not reject my parents but i know I am doing more than fine on my own but they are forever welcome into my life, I have come to terms, forgiven and forgotten all bad history, I'm moving forward.
I do not ponder over my past and think what if... nor blame anyone.
It isn't easy finding inner peace with a childhood that was shook so hard, but when you do find it and let go you will become an unstoppable force.
Forgive and forget is one of the strongest things you can do. Let go of the grudge.
