Not Enjoying Living (Trigger Warning: Suicide)

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Yeah, they could both play cards and chat about the women they’re interested in.

Well, I think we have found your starting point.
When I was around your age, I did a hobby communications course.
I think you should do the same, when the vaccine comes along.



Auties generally don't have good coordination, but have you considered dancing classes?
You have a job. You can afford them.



Erm. Isn't your special interest looking for female companionship?
Leonard Hofstadter, from The Big Bang Theory, *always* did what Penny wanted to do.
Penny even stole his chips that he saved for later, and he didn't mind.
Look at the bigger picture.



Everyone does it.
Do you think I want to sit here and type to you?
No. I want to establish a relationship with you and *then* get into your pants, when the pandemic is over.

I think he will have to cross that bridge, when he comes to it. <boom tish>

Yes grand inquisitor. I would love to learn more about chess. And play cards. I am very competitive but have good sportsmanship. You can talk to me about the girls you are interested in and I can give advice and be a "wing-man" Girls are complicated but at the same time were not, we just got a hard time trusting. Other than that we are loyal companions. And unlike most I don't like drama. So friends?

TGI having a female friend/companion, when he goes to places, would make TGI more attractive.
This is human nature.
People want what other people have, sort of thing.
Go figure.

Lmao Pepe, you cant say that XD

Exactly. Girls can be very loyal companions, just like a labrador.

It is your choice.
A girl, or a labrador.
Labradors are cheaper, though.

i hope the OP is reading this thread still.

I bet your left testicle that he will respond sooner, rather than later.

How dare you Pepe. I am way cheaper. I am not indecisive. I know what I want right now. All you have to do for a girl is feed her and give her attention. Oh and say goodbye to your wardrobe. It's either take them shopping or you will have no clothes of your own. (Learned this the hard way) XD Still fighting for my clothes back. She got my hoodies, joggers,sweats, things I'm not allowed to say. Oh and attention. If you ignore her she gonna make you pay attention :') Was in the middle of a match :') Well we aren't cheap but heaped than.... Nvm I forgot about the chocolate to buy Lmao the list can go on. We are expensive

Pepe, XD really Lol

Make a goal to enjoy all of your life, and make girls part of it.

I dare.
I'm the kool skunk, remember?



Well, then you are the exception.



Told you.

And labradors can't eat chocolate.
It is very harmful to dogs.

I rest my case, me Lord.

My therapist suggested the same thing.

I've never played bridge, but I've heard that it shares some similarities with 500, and I've been playing 500 since I was like 6 years old.

I'm not opposed to the idea of giving bridge a go, but I can't imagine that there'd be a lot of young women who play it.

I'm not an expert at chess and I haven't dedicated the time to study the game, but I have played more than 5,000 games on chess.com since I started my account in 2012. In the category I generally play in, apparently my rating is in the 90th percentile of all chess.com players.

I was brought up on a card-playing family, so I've been playing for a long time. The games we tend to play are 500, pontoon (blackjack) and hearts, though we also sometimes play other games.

That's an intriguing suggestion. I'm not really familiar with what a communications course has to offer. What knowledge and skills are you supposed to develop from it?


This has also been suggested to me by a couple of people in the past. I'm self-conscious about the way I dance, because I get the impression that it comes across as 'autistic'. I get the feeling that if I did rock up to a dance class, the women there would actively avoid me.


If it is, I'm doing a pretty bad job.


I think that's a bit different. They're already in a relationship, where I'm trying to establish one. I'd think that doing something you don't really care for to appease someone you care about is different to doing something you don't really care for in the hopes of finding a partner. Additionally, if I'm meeting women at a hobby group for a hobby I don't care for, I'd think we probably wouldn't have a lot of commonalities to connect over.

Moreover, honestly, I'm at the point where I fundamentally lack confidence that anything I can do has any real chance of yielding me positive romantic results. If I go and do things that I don't enjoy in the hopes of establishing romantic connections or even just making female friends and it doesn't work out, I'm going to resent the fact that I wasted my time doing something I didn't want to do. At least if I'm participating in hobbies that I enjoy, I won't be as inclined to feel like I sunk my time in a fruitless endeavour.

All that said, I probably shouldn't be so hasty to dismiss the idea of trying new things, or things that I wouldn't normally do, but I seem to have an inclination to stick with what is familiar, and it probably isn't serving me here. Out of the hobby/interest groups you suggested, I find some more objectionable than others, so maybe I should make a list of possible things to try and then derive a short-list of the things I'd be most interested in/find least objectionable.

The elephant in the room is my complete lack of confidence in my ability to attract and interact with women in a social setting. I think that's what is really making me not want to bother doing anything, and I don’t really know how to neutralise it, given that it's a well-founded concern. If I felt like I at least had a chance of achieving a favourable outcome, whether that meant getting a girlfriend, getting a date or making some female friends, I'd probably be more inclined to put myself out there.


Well at least that's something to look forward to.

Yeah sure.

There currently aren't any girls I'm interested in, and that's mainly because I don't really know any, but also because I know that nothing good can come of letting myself fall for someone, because they'll never feel the same way.


It'd also serve as "social proofing". Women seeing that I have female friends, and that I have their trust would be more likely to judge me as someone who has some level of social competence, and who's safe to be around.

i was hoping you two could at least start from square one and possibly at least maybe be penpals perhaps? gotta start somewhere, they say.