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Mark198423
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06 Mar 2011, 11:06 am

emlion wrote:
yes. but i said no.
i don't like things like that.
i've never used them before.

emlion wrote:
change is scary, but can be exhilarating too.


Maybe exhilarating doesn't fit in this case but useful/helpful could.



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06 Mar 2011, 11:09 am

emlion wrote:
thanks guy.
i really appreciate all the advice given.
especially the talking to Stefan stuff.
i feel a little better already and i'll get through this.
i hope one day i can help you all like you helped me. (:

You already have for me, I actually owed you. D: I still do.



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06 Mar 2011, 11:10 am

Mark198423 wrote:
emlion wrote:
yes. but i said no.
i don't like things like that.
i've never used them before.

emlion wrote:
change is scary, but can be exhilarating too.


Maybe exhilarating doesn't fit in this case but useful/helpful could.


I don't know.
I'll see how I go.
I'd rather stick to the therapist I know, than a new one.



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06 Mar 2011, 11:13 am

emlion wrote:
I don't know.
I'll see how I go.
I'd rather stick to the therapist I know, than a new one.


I didn't know you already had a professional you spoke to, just make sure you bring it up with them.



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06 Mar 2011, 11:13 am

Mark198423 wrote:
emlion wrote:
I don't know.
I'll see how I go.
I'd rather stick to the therapist I know, than a new one.


I didn't know you already had a professional you spoke to, just make sure you bring it up with them.


I kind of see her on and off, when i need to.
i'm known to cancel on her a lot.
but i will see her at least once this week.



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06 Mar 2011, 11:16 am

emlion wrote:
I kind of see her on and off, when i need to.
i'm known to cancel on her a lot.
but i will see her at least once this week.


Make sure you do, I've never seen one personally but am due to soon and think it could help with me so should definitely you.



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06 Mar 2011, 11:17 am

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i told them everything i know.
they said they'd 'update' me on monday.


You should demand that he gets put in custody.


and until this happens , you should demand protection? he might try to come again if nothings is fearing him.



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06 Mar 2011, 11:22 am

i don't like other people.
it'll be okay.



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06 Mar 2011, 11:38 am

Mark198423 wrote:
emlion wrote:
I kind of see her on and off, when i need to.
i'm known to cancel on her a lot.
but i will see her at least once this week.


Make sure you do, I've never seen one personally but am due to soon and think it could help with me so should definitely you.


It is helpful, it's easier sometimes to talk to someone who you kind of don't know that well.
And she never judged me once - although i've had a bad therapist in the past, so i guess it's just finding one that suits.



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06 Mar 2011, 11:41 am

emlion wrote:
i don't like other people.
it'll be okay.


No no no no no no ...listen emlion , and you'll listen well. If you don't take any pre-cautions such as a self-defense weapons or asking for a police guard, this might happen all over again. Put your anti-people's side of your character aside for a while.

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Protection > therapy for now , or you can do them both but protection is first priority until he's behind bars.



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06 Mar 2011, 11:41 am

emlion wrote:
It is helpful, it's easier sometimes to talk to someone who you kind of don't know that well.
And she never judged me once - although i've had a bad therapist in the past, so i guess it's just finding one that suits.


Get yourself an appointment booked ASAP then, maybe go for a few.



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06 Mar 2011, 11:43 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
emlion wrote:
i don't like other people.
it'll be okay.


No no no no no no ...listen emlion , and you'll listen well. If you don't take any pre-cautions such as a self-defense weapons or asking for a police guard, this might happen all over again.


okay, boss.

& i'm not going to go out by myself. i'll get someone to pick me up and take me home, really.
seriously, the guys i work with are pretty threatening.



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06 Mar 2011, 11:44 am

Mark198423 wrote:
emlion wrote:
It is helpful, it's easier sometimes to talk to someone who you kind of don't know that well.
And she never judged me once - although i've had a bad therapist in the past, so i guess it's just finding one that suits.


Get yourself an appointment booked ASAP then, maybe go for a few.


i'll definitely go once and see how it goes from there.
she's very nice. but, i'm a coward so i usually chicken out. D:



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06 Mar 2011, 11:49 am

emlion wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
emlion wrote:
i don't like other people.
it'll be okay.


No no no no no no ...listen emlion , and you'll listen well. If you don't take any pre-cautions such as a self-defense weapons or asking for a police guard, this might happen all over again.


okay, boss.

& i'm not going to go out by myself. i'll get someone to pick me up and take me home, really.
seriously, the guys i work with are pretty threatening.


and buy some shock gun or flash torch.

Or I'll ask Jonsi to keep nagging on you till you show us the weapon's receipt.



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06 Mar 2011, 11:49 am

i work in a garage, will a spanner do? :wink:



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06 Mar 2011, 11:51 am

emlion wrote:
i'll definitely go once and see how it goes from there.
she's very nice. but, i'm a coward so i usually chicken out. D:


I may sound harsh at the minute but face it! It's hard to talk about the feelings and memories you deliberately repress, I'm dreading doing it myself but I think it's essential to truly move on. Burying things inside only saves them for later, as I'm currently discovering.