Still so Lonely and added stress of work and threat of losin

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you'd be all like 'yo, i'm da biznatch batch of awesomeness'.

that's a funny phrase!

Yep, I think liking yourself is half the battle. If you can like who you are, then you'll be able to understand why someone else would too. Personally, I think I'm pretty freakin' awesome, and if the rest of the world disagreed, I'd say "to hell with those losers."

They can like you.

Is it possible you are stuck in the negative and not liking yourself deeply enough that you couldn't accept or see it if they did?
That kind of stuff can create a self-fulfilled prophecy where we are so focused on the potential bad that we miss the good and unintentionally, end up making sure the bad happens.

For example, a girl likes a guy and she is so down on herself and convinced he's better than her that she keeps saying things to him about how crappy she is, and he keeps saying 'you're not!' And maybe she starts thinking surely he'll start looking at other girls, so even though he wasn't, she starts asking if he was. Repeatedly. And she keeps saying how he's going to break up with her and he tries to say he won't, but she keeps on.

And in the end, they break up...but it had nothing to do with her not being good enough or him liking someone else..she created a self-fulfilled prophecy and pushed it and as a result, no matter what he did or said, she remained down on herself and suspicious of him and other girls and convinced he'd break up with her, etc etc and he finally had to end it. Meanwhile, had she gone into it with a completely different positive and open perspective, they might still be together.

But the girl doesn't see that. She sees the breakup as yet more proof of her original mindset. Thus not only self-fulfilling, but also self-perpetuating, she becomes even more certain that the next guy will dump her - ~if~ one ever even goes out with her again and she's yet more convinced that she will never be happy. And sadly, unless her mindset changes, she probably won't.

This kind of stuff happens a lot. I don't know if we can self-fulfill the positive, but i definitely know we can the negative. I've done it before. And all along the way, it feels like crap.

Got my purple swirls brush and sheep milk soap with cute drawing of a sheep on it

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For shaving purposes, perhaps?

For shaving purposes, perhaps?

Another lonely night, along with worries and a scary situation on way home

I'm sorry, what happened?

I was in bus and they had every get off saying it was a mechanical issue. The guy who got off right before or after me the police waiting right outside grabbed him.