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13 Jul 2009, 11:58 pm

It's not happening, is it? Oh, well, at least I can search for punishment, as I will NEVER feel human.



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14 Jul 2009, 10:50 pm

Really you should'n be ashamed to got feelings, it's a great quality and that's what make you human. It can make you feel pain, of course. But it can also make you feel joy.
By the way NTs can sometimes feels more than they let show.

I also seen a post on another forum (gifted haven a forum for gifted teens) where they say some interessing things on this subject, as well as a nice poem about that from orngjce223...

url=http://www.giftedhaven.net/forum/showthread.php?tid=1750&page=1 // For you Fickle Pickle

You're not the only person with overwhelming feelings Pickle. YOU'RE NOT ALONE.

And who know, maybe you will find someone in your life who is supportive of your feelings. We're never know what life got in reserve.



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14 Jul 2009, 10:51 pm

Really you should'n be ashamed to got feelings, it's a great quality and that's what make you human. It can make you feel pain, of course. But it can also make you feel joy.
By the way NTs can sometimes feels more than they let show.

I also seen a post on another forum (gifted haven a forum for gifted teens) where they say some interessing things on this subject, as well as a nice poem about that from orngjce223...

url=http://www.giftedhaven.net/forum/showthread.php?tid=1750&page=1 // For you Fickle Pickle

You're not the only person with overwhelming feelings Pickle. YOU'RE NOT ALONE.

And who know, maybe you will find someone in your life who is supportive of your feelings. We're never know what life got in reserve.



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15 Jul 2009, 4:50 pm

Funny thing is, I hardly ever feel joy. I always want to crawl away into a safe place (it's usually my bed) and I'm always being threatened and everyone is always trying to scare me.



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15 Jul 2009, 7:00 pm

Fickle_Pickle wrote:
Funny thing is, I hardly ever feel joy. I always want to crawl away into a safe place (it's usually my bed) and I'm always being threatened and everyone is always trying to scare me.


I'm no psychologist, but your posts indicate high levels of anxiety and possible delusions (you seem to feel threatened even though the threat isn't in front of you). As I meantioned earlier, I take medications myself. Zoloft has been effective in managing my depression and anxiety to a functional level. I think you'd benefit from some type of medication yourself, you'll still have things to worry about, but you'll feel less overwhelmed by them.



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15 Jul 2009, 8:15 pm

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Fickle_Pickle wrote:
Funny thing is, I hardly ever feel joy. I always want to crawl away into a safe place (it's usually my bed) and I'm always being threatened and everyone is always trying to scare me.


I'm no psychologist, but your posts indicate high levels of anxiety and possible delusions (you seem to feel threatened even though the threat isn't in front of you). As I meantioned earlier, I take medications myself. Zoloft has been effective in managing my depression and anxiety to a functional level. I think you'd benefit from some type of medication yourself, you'll still have things to worry about, but you'll feel less overwhelmed by them.


There we go, with the talk of anti-depressants again. :roll:

I've taken Zoloft, all it did was make me nauseous. So, no. Anti-depressants aren't the way to go in this situation. Unless... my mom is wrong again and I'm completely different this time around compared to 3 years ago.



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15 Jul 2009, 9:45 pm

Well, I can suggest other anxiety reducing measures, but there are just too many to list. There are other antidepressants on the market, I can tell you that celexa makes me feel sluggish and lazy, but it might calm you down without those effects, it all depends on you. I think your mom is being unreasonable to rule out all antidepressants, are there any reasons other than nausea?

Perhaps overstimulation is leading to anxiety though. I get the impression you're trying to redefine your character/persona so completely that you consider every factor. I can say from experience that if you try to weigh every possible factor on a subject all at once, you can go insane / feel pretty stressed. I personally redefine myself as I go along.



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16 Jul 2009, 4:49 pm

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Well, I can suggest other anxiety reducing measures, but there are just too many to list. There are other antidepressants on the market, I can tell you that celexa makes me feel sluggish and lazy, but it might calm you down without those effects, it all depends on you. I think your mom is being unreasonable to rule out all antidepressants, are there any reasons other than nausea?

Perhaps overstimulation is leading to anxiety though. I get the impression you're trying to redefine your character/persona so completely that you consider every factor. I can say from experience that if you try to weigh every possible factor on a subject all at once, you can go insane / feel pretty stressed. I personally redefine myself as I go along.


Sure, but that will take forever, and I'm sure a great deal of forever has passed me by so far.



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16 Jul 2009, 6:37 pm

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Well, I can suggest other anxiety reducing measures, but there are just too many to list. There are other antidepressants on the market, I can tell you that celexa makes me feel sluggish and lazy, but it might calm you down without those effects, it all depends on you. I think your mom is being unreasonable to rule out all antidepressants, are there any reasons other than nausea?

Perhaps overstimulation is leading to anxiety though. I get the impression you're trying to redefine your character/persona so completely that you consider every factor. I can say from experience that if you try to weigh every possible factor on a subject all at once, you can go insane / feel pretty stressed. I personally redefine myself as I go along.


Sure, but that will take forever, and I'm sure a great deal of forever has passed me by so far.


Time is relative, sure you physically age, but would you rather physically age while doing nothing for yourself but ask for advice? My brother is in the same situation, he can't stay in the house without losing his mind, so I get him out (take him to the gym, to see a movie, and give him advice), in the end, he needs to leave the nest and see the world for himself, trying to see the world in his own house isn't going to give him any idea of how to deal with the rest of the world.



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17 Jul 2009, 4:26 pm

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Yea, fast food is a great place for sarcasm. You just have to watch out for the drama (you'll know who they are), you'll just be working your ass off when some pretty young thing comes in and starts whining that you aren't working fast enough because her customers have been complaining and they're not giving her better tips. That's when you go sarcastic on them.


What if I'm the pretty young thing that's whining? Doubt it because I intend to gain 28 pounds this season.



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17 Jul 2009, 4:30 pm

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Can anyone teach me how to be bitter, uncaring and sarcastic? Thanks.

I am speculating here. You are very emotionally sensitive, and your feelings get hurt very easily, and you are tired of your feelings being wounded all the time, and you think that if you could somehow just not give a rip, you could function in this world better, and I expect it looks that way from this side of the fence. (ie. the grass always looks greener on the other side etc.)

Well here is what I do. I too am hyper emotionally sensitive. I don't know if what I do will work for you. I try to keep my eyes off of myself. I try to use my emotional sensitivity to benefit others around me, look for ways to show kindness, or whatever, and try to refrain from whining, which I manage to fall back into from time to time anyway.


Sadly, there is no one else to care about that's worth caring about. Keep in mind, I have absolutely ZERO social life.

All I want is a quick route to self-emotional detatchment, no matter how lazy that sounds. I'm late and I'm in a hurry to catch up.



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17 Jul 2009, 5:35 pm

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What if I'm the pretty young thing that's whining? Doubt it because I intend to gain 28 pounds this season.


Think it'll work for you?



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17 Jul 2009, 6:55 pm

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What if I'm the pretty young thing that's whining? Doubt it because I intend to gain 28 pounds this season.


Think it'll work for you?


I've only gained about 12 pounds so far. I'm continuing to feel threatened and hurt from two weeks ago. The feeling isn't fresh, though. I'm just emotionally scarred by memories. Funny thing is I'm trying to get more traumatized, so those things will seem like nothing, and I hope I get it SEVERELY.



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17 Jul 2009, 6:55 pm

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But... I want to know what path to take. Also I'm too old for "something that you just have to work through, taking a lot of time and making a lot of mistakes", but I guess by the time I get to do ANYTHING, I will be old :cry: . I won't look like it anyway, since I currently don't look a day past 15. I'm also tired of feeling so young, I envy those who feel old.

What path to take to reach emotional detachment, or what path in life? You don't know ahead of time. Nobody does. You're too old to just work through it? You're only 18!! Ms. Pickle, you have your entire life ahead of you, plenty of time to go out and do things. Plus you're never too old to work through things, taking a lot of time and making mistakes. It's a lifelong process. That's how the rest of us do it. You'll learn in time that some things really aren't a big deal after all, and when similar small things happen in the future, you'll think it's child's play and not get so emotional about it. You may even laugh at it.

Besides, making mistakes leads to more interesting stories when you're older. :wink:


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17 Jul 2009, 7:10 pm

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You'll learn in time that some things really aren't a big deal after all, and when similar small things happen in the future, you'll think it's child's play and not get so emotional about it. You may even laugh at it.


Oh, but I wish I was already there. EVERYONE'S ahead of the game there. Even my 16-year-old brother!! (He's NT anyway, so maybe that's a factor) And I'm STILL looking for things to traumatize an 18-year-old. If not, I have this crazy idea to set up a babysitting service that involves scarring the kids for life without the parents knowing I'm doing it.



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17 Jul 2009, 7:20 pm

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Oh, but I wish I was already there. EVERYONE'S ahead of the game there. Even my 16-year-old brother!! (He's NT anyway, so maybe that's a factor) And I'm STILL looking for things to traumatize an 18-year-old. If not, I have this crazy idea to set up a babysitting service that involves scarring the kids for life without the parents knowing I'm doing it.

Don't we all wish that, heh...

It's pointless comparing yourself to other people like that. Only compare yourself to how you used to be.


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