21 Mar 2007, 3:23 am
21 Mar 2007, 3:32 am
21 Mar 2007, 6:25 am
aylissa wrote:
I am a b***h magnet.
I attract the nasty, mean, evil people to me, like I have some kind of sign on me that says "Be mean to me".
I started to explain in detail, but thought it would bore everybody. I don't know. It just seems like I get more than my share of crap from others, no matter how much I smile and try to be nice. And the people I know who are rude and narcissistic seem to get people to cowtow to them. Maybe I should just stop being so nice to everybody.
I attract the nasty, mean, evil people to me, like I have some kind of sign on me that says "Be mean to me".
I started to explain in detail, but thought it would bore everybody. I don't know. It just seems like I get more than my share of crap from others, no matter how much I smile and try to be nice. And the people I know who are rude and narcissistic seem to get people to cowtow to them. Maybe I should just stop being so nice to everybody.
Yes, I can empathise with this. The only thing is, is it the fact that we attract the specifically nasty, mean people, or is it that people generally feel that they can be like that with us, because of our personalities?
For example, I generally get on OK with my staff at work, but if it comes to a question of doing things they don't like, they will invariably challenge my authority. This doesn't happen with other managers (like my boss is as soft as heck when it comes down to it, but I rarely see him being challenged like I am). For me, it's a constant battle to keep them in line.
Even students (I work at a university) seem to think that they can constantly undermine me. I can be as polite & helpful as anything, but I always get the back-biting and complaints, far more than my equivalent colleagues in other departments - in fact they seem to get on better by being rude and off-hand to people themselves.
Sometimes I also think I have a sign over my head saying "Soft Touch - Please Hassle"
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21 Mar 2007, 10:36 am
aylissa wrote:
Fizz gets my vote for rant of the day. Wow! I wish I could fare so well. I tend to attract the more passive-aggressive types, unfortunately, the kind of people that are evil but in a way that is really hard to describe. Underhanded kinds of behavior, where you know you're being screwed with but they're smart enough not to be obvious about it. Like my current boss, who keeps telling me "Let me know if there's anything I can do to help" - then criticizes me because I don't know everything about my new job.
Well I like to entertain
Oh and you know how you talk about people who are evil in a way that's really hard to describe? That's what sweaty bastard and b***h from Northampton were kinda both like, hence the brief descriptions. Whereas the other ones that dared to try and tarnish my life were sad with no lives (making them a little bit similar to the idiots from Northampton) or attention seekers that were, in my opinion, clearly going about it in the wrong way. As I said about two of them, I don't have to treat others like s**t or flirt with my exes to be noticed, I can just be myself.
21 Mar 2007, 10:44 am
21 Mar 2007, 4:19 pm
21 Mar 2007, 5:46 pm
Cernunnos wrote:
Yes, I can empathise with this. The only thing is, is it the fact that we attract the specifically nasty, mean people, or is it that people generally feel that they can be like that with us, because of our personalities?
For example, I generally get on OK with my staff at work, but if it comes to a question of doing things they don't like, they will invariably challenge my authority. This doesn't happen with other managers (like my boss is as soft as heck when it comes down to it, but I rarely see him being challenged like I am). For me, it's a constant battle to keep them in line.
Even students (I work at a university) seem to think that they can constantly undermine me. I can be as polite & helpful as anything, but I always get the back-biting and complaints, far more than my equivalent colleagues in other departments - in fact they seem to get on better by being rude and off-hand to people themselves.
Sometimes I also think I have a sign over my head saying "Soft Touch - Please Hassle"
For example, I generally get on OK with my staff at work, but if it comes to a question of doing things they don't like, they will invariably challenge my authority. This doesn't happen with other managers (like my boss is as soft as heck when it comes down to it, but I rarely see him being challenged like I am). For me, it's a constant battle to keep them in line.
Even students (I work at a university) seem to think that they can constantly undermine me. I can be as polite & helpful as anything, but I always get the back-biting and complaints, far more than my equivalent colleagues in other departments - in fact they seem to get on better by being rude and off-hand to people themselves.
Sometimes I also think I have a sign over my head saying "Soft Touch - Please Hassle"
Yes, that's it exactly! I get the same thing all the time, and can't figure out how to have things go differently. I don't know if it's possible to be treated respectfully.
Right now I have a student who thinks he's all that, and he's constantly arguing with me. His midterm evaluation is this Friday, and the first thing I'm going to tell him (I hope I have the guts) is that he needs to stop arguing with me. He's in danger of failing, so he'd better listen to me, but I have a feeling he won't. He'll probably be successful in railroading me. Sigh.
21 Mar 2007, 6:47 pm
LadyCass wrote:
Veresae wrote:
No, but I seem to attract sluts... >.<
I attract perverted old men. Does that count?
hey baby!
21 Mar 2007, 6:50 pm
calandale wrote:
LadyCass wrote:
Veresae wrote:
No, but I seem to attract sluts... >.<
I attract perverted old men. Does that count?
hey baby!
I cannot believe they made YOU a moderator. Jeesh.
(JK, BTW)
21 Mar 2007, 6:51 pm
21 Mar 2007, 7:24 pm
calandale wrote:
LadyCass wrote:
Veresae wrote:
No, but I seem to attract sluts... >.<
I attract perverted old men. Does that count?
hey baby!
Been there, done that, ran from the t-shirt.
And I don't think you're old enough to fall into that category. I attract 45+ years. No idea why, but I do.
aylissa wrote:
I cannot believe they made YOU a moderator. Jeesh.
(JK, BTW)
(JK, BTW)
I noticed that there have been lots of new moderators lately.
21 Mar 2007, 7:34 pm
21 Mar 2007, 7:39 pm
21 Mar 2007, 7:39 pm
calandale wrote:
Damn! Just a little too young. Ah well.
No, no, that's a good thing.
I'm comfortable not being hit on, thanks.
21 Mar 2007, 7:47 pm
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