Sick of getting hurt

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Ugh, that's the worst part. Just not knowing.

Sure, it might hurt, but we can learn from our mistakes.


...although I did have one girl who tore me up pretty harshly, saying that I didn't dress cool enough or listen to cool enough music, etc. I was really being brave and putting myself out there, and that kind of hurt...especially since it was all just "personal preference" stuff, and not something about me that could be "fixed".

Yup, at least you get to try it out, he did show interest in you and whatever it was that made him change his mind maybe it's exactly why you wouldn't have worked out. I'll flip it a bit and say "sometimes the trash takes itself out".

I have an issue with reading signals too. If it happens to a friend I can understand but if it happens to me I have no clue. This guy I liked a while ago (latest sort of crush) just got himself a new gf and I don't know why it hurt. It was like "great! just what I needed", anyway I thought he was interested in me at first but then it suddenly flipped back then so I let it go, but now since he's with this new girl he suddenly watches all my instagram stories. He used to do that a lot when we met but then stopped completely. I'm probably reading too much in to this, but everytime I want someone out of my life it seems like they're right there in my face. It's annoying.

That's the kind of thing tgat happens to men. Men are difficult

I feel.like all I ever get so with someone is a few hours of happiness and then it all fizzles out and I'm left alone and in the dark again.

It just hurts and I don't know how to make the pain go away.

I'm obviously just too stupid to make these things work. One of my friends was telling me I need to keep in touch with this guy, but I don't know what to say. We talk in person better than in text form and I don't know when I'll se him again. I don't want to invite him somewhere in case he really was trying to get rid of me and I'll end up looking like a pathetic loser bothering this guy who wants me to just go away and leave him alone.

Coz that's what single women are to blokes. Disgusting, ugly losers who want to tie them down.

Im just so angry and frustrated because i dont know what to do to get someone to actually want to be with me. Nothing i am is ever good enough and i feel like crap.

Text morning and stuff ask about his day, ask about books or movies or tv shows or food he likes etc.

You should ask him out. If he says no you know he didn’t like you, but if he says yes then you know he probably likes you. If you don’t ask he may like you and think you don’t like him.
People who want you to go away for most part will avoid and ignore you in person. Women do thst to me all the time at work.

Single women to men are potential mates or very least possible sex partners, most men certainly don’t want to date married or coupled women

I think you need to aim at a different demography, hurtloam, that what I did.

If he really wants to get rid of you, the worst that can happen is you'll invite him somewhere, and he'll ghost you.

Well Boo I've definitely got more opportunities in the city, so yeah you never know who I might meet here from who knows where!

I'm feeling a bit more cheerful now. Went and spent some time with some friends and did not talk about men at all.

Ok so general consensus is one last ditch attempt with guy in mid 30s to find out if he actually likes me or not. If not go for a younger dude from another culture.

Yeah sly that was a stupid rant of mine of course men want single women. Shrug. I was on a ranty rant.

I felt rubbish when I came home from work today. I had such a boring, demoralizing day that my mood just went downhill.

I'm still prone to bouts of depression even though I'm doing better than I used to. I find it very difficult not to spiral out of control into a hole of negative thinking if I'm upset.

Feeling bad again. I don't really ever want to see this person again. He's made me feel stupid. Why would someone actually like me back? How stupid of me to believe that.

I give up. I'll never be good enough for anyone.

I'd go out again tonight, but I'm too tired. I'm too tired to even cry.

I give up.

I don't ever want to feel like this again.

I'm done with men.

How many guys did you approach this year?

Yes it's all my fault.