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27 Aug 2008, 8:37 pm

I don't know how or if this pertains to your exact situation, slowmutant, but . . .

I think it's normal for people to have dreams in which they enjoy things they would not enjoy in real life. I had an erotic dream about a teacher I did not find at all attractive once; I woke up amused. I have also dreamt about having a baby during a time when I was sure I did not want one. In other dreams, I've been various kinds of criminals.

Dreams are not well-understood scientifically, to say the least. While scientists struggle to figure out their mechanisms and functions, I say relax and enjoy them as entertainment - like watching random weird TV shows while you sleep. :)



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27 Aug 2008, 9:20 pm

I change my orientation every other month.


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29 Aug 2008, 12:09 pm

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In the meantime, how do I process these feelings and thoughts?

Christianity views sex with anyone but your legally married spouse as sinful. It's a temptation to resist. A bisexual Christian may be exposed to more (and more varied) temptations, but otherwise, what's the difference? I always hear that Christianity only condemns the act, not the inclination. So if you resist a few more temptations, where is the problem?



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29 Aug 2008, 12:28 pm

slowmutant wrote:
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Priests marrying priests? Hmm, sounds like a homosexual fantasy to me.

it was the arcahic church, no fantasy but that was possible before the Vatican was established


Marriage between priests in "the archaic church" you say? And would this marriage imply sexually active homosexual priests engaged in buggery? No, no and no.

See, I tolerate homosexuality but I do not promote it.

yes and yes and yes, read some more about papal history, you would be surprised to know what goes on behind Vatican doors


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29 Aug 2008, 4:11 pm

Gromit wrote:
slowmutant wrote:
In the meantime, how do I process these feelings and thoughts?

Christianity views sex with anyone but your legally married spouse as sinful. It's a temptation to resist. A bisexual Christian may be exposed to more (and more varied) temptations, but otherwise, what's the difference? I always hear that Christianity only condemns the act, not the inclination. So if you resist a few more temptations, where is the problem?


Only some who wear sheep's clothing condemn the physical expression between two loving consenting same sex partners. Anyways what is in your mind is between you and god I suggest you got talk with god.


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29 Aug 2008, 4:24 pm

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Anyways what is in your mind is between you and god I suggest you got talk with god.


When you are religious you are bound to the authorities who tell how you should use your mind.
Freedom of thought is not a part of religion.



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29 Aug 2008, 5:18 pm

Daran wrote:
philosopherBoi wrote:
Anyways what is in your mind is between you and god I suggest you got talk with god.


When you are religious you are bound to the authorities who tell how you should use your mind.
Freedom of thought is not a part of religion.


... said the atheist to the Christian. :roll:



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29 Aug 2008, 6:11 pm

In Ancient Rome Christian was synonymous for whore. The first cristians indulged a lot in eucharisties whcih were basically orgies. They got such a reputation they had to go underground.

Controlling sex was one of the first priorities of the first Christian Church, which later went hand in hand with State conrtol.


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29 Aug 2008, 9:23 pm

release_the_bats wrote:
I don't know how or if this pertains to your exact situation, slowmutant, but . . .

I think it's normal for people to have dreams in which they enjoy things they would not enjoy in real life. I had an erotic dream about a teacher I did not find at all attractive once; I woke up amused. I have also dreamt about having a baby during a time when I was sure I did not want one. In other dreams, I've been various kinds of criminals.

Dreams are not well-understood scientifically, to say the least. While scientists struggle to figure out their mechanisms and functions, I say relax and enjoy them as entertainment - like watching random weird TV shows while you sleep. :)


Thakn you for being so level-headed. I don't think these dreams of mine are any big indicator. I regret naming the thread as I did. Misleading title.