Why do people on this forum always side with women?

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Just ignore the people who make those lists of demands. They aren't worth your time. Seriously. Nobody is "good enough" for them. They are on there year after year and never find anyone "worthy". That's a problem with dating sites. They are full of people like that. You just have to filter out the stuck-up people and look for others to actually message.

Problem is I've ran into some who don't list it but will ask about it then reject you in the first few messages.

I imagine most pretty women are like that. I don't want to date someone I find unattractive

First-of-all, Sly, I'm thinking you need to get off of that website----I echo the sentiments of those who have told you there aren't many good people on there. Secondly, I agree that most pretty women are like that. I used to be a pretty woman, and found-out guys would fall all over themselves to buy me stuff, for instance, and when I realized I could take advantage of that, I stopped it, immediately----but, most won't, and that is terribly UNattractive. Do you believe in God----consider yourself of the Christian faith? You could go to that Christian dating site. It's not guaranteed, of course, that some of the women won't be the same; but, I'm thinking your chances are better.

I dont see people always siding with women here though? But obviously a lot people will side with womens when some guy here act like women must be "mean" because they dont wanna date him

And about why you might not be able to get date.. The "childish" part in your post might explain some of it... If you are almost 30 and acting childish it aint cute anymore. Most will expect you to act like a grown up at that age, and the ones that like childish behavior would just date someone in his late teens because it might seem cute and fun at that age. (and yes i know every women has different taste, so obviously im not talking about EVERY women on the planet)

That might explain it even more.. Maybe you are just going after the ones out of your league?

Not sure if you are gonna tell me i'm siding with womens too, but im just telling you what might be the reason.. but i dont know you IRL so of course i might be wrong

That's actually not a bad idea Campin Cat came up with. Sly is a Christian.

Yes, Sly....do try the Christian sites.

I agree. When I was young and cute, I never behaved in that manner. I would never have made any list of demands no matter how hot I thought I was. I'm not like that, and not all attractive women are like that. It's usually just the superficial, snobby ones.

Although a woman who makes a lot of money and is successful might see a man that makes little as a warning sign. People often want to date those like themselves.

Just because a girl replied to ONE message doesn't mean she's gonna date you. A girl who exchanges a few messages with you and decides not to agree to go out with you might be doing it for any number of reasons that include, but are by no means limited to:

1. Two or three messages is enough to determine that there's not enough "spark" there.

2. Your spelling/grammar/self-loathing came across in two or three messages, so a date isn't in the cards.

3. The girl is so shallow that she doesn't want to date you because you're too poor.

4. Girl met somebody else she liked better and decided to date him exclusively.

5. Girl was hit by a passing semi and died after message 3.

its REALLY simple. here I will break it down without rapping.

1.men defend women, its in our very nature. unless we can logically conclude it was HER fault, the guy loses. the same is true on the girl side though. such as, it is known that girls will, AND HAVE on multiple occasions defended a man she thought was right against all odds.

2. to simplify this, at least from my perspective; defense before logic, is almost always biased. logic before defense is almost always wrong politically, so the flaw is there.

Seems like even us Aspies worship power. It's like every time a dude starts ranting about his struggles, it's like "No wonder you're single!" even though there are plenty of examples of a**holes who manage to be successful in dating. Don't get me wrong, I'm not trying to justify some of the dismissiveness and hateful BS that might come with these rants. But it isn't helping at all when we're justifying the a**holes who manage to do just fine.

I just wish us Aspies can acknowledge that we all face unique struggles as males and females. Seems like a lot of the men here resent the burden of initiating but lets not forget the burden women face being the ones that are pursued. How can we bridge this gap and achieve unity? I see that WP is divided enough by race and class and it seems the biggest divide is between the sexes which is not good at all since half the general population is men and the other half are women.

Or maybe I have the wrong idea with this unity s**t. Perhaps we're all on our own and we ought to just trust no one, not even other Aspies. I'm pretty much done with giving a f**k. What can I say? It's a dog eat dog world

Last edited by AceOfSpades on 19 Feb 2016, 11:28 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Young and cute? I don't believe it...oh wait my bad this wasn't your insult thread...

You might have to consider someone less physically attractive than your ideal if you want a relationship. It doesn't mean they have to be completely unattractive, but you have to consider more than just the super-attractive ones. Otherwise you're being superficial like the people you complain about. If companionship is extremely important to you, you have to compromise a little on superficial traits.

Nice catch-- that's precisely why the argument exists in such a virulent form, and not just with autistics, but the population as whole. There is no dominant power completely subjugating the other, both sides are roughly equal in power and thus the struggle for dominance is magnified because of that rough equality in numbers. And of course it's a joke of a power struggle since both parties need the other and the human population's natural design is for equal numbers and thus the power of the two groups will always be relatively equal.

Posts like this explain a lot of the phenomenon mentioned in the title of the thread. It's hard to side with someone like you when you write such nastiness.

Yes, I know it's hard to believe. It feels like it was centuries ago. Now I'm just old and cute. And my mother is a hamster.

I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but you're my age...that was literally a century ago when we were young, lol.

^That's ok, I'm still often mistaken for a teenager

I still feel about 16, and I'll probably feel the same when I'm 90. I'll be the only 90-year-old in my retirement community playing video games and watching cartoons.