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Other people don't get rejected this much. It's not normal. I'm 34. Most people find someone by now.

each rejection is worse, like a confirmation that there's definitely something really wrong with me.

I get rejected all the time.
Lots of never had a relationship older people on here too. We aspies have a hard time with love.

When do I get stop crying? I'm sick of this. I don't want to feel this bad.

The weekends can be more difficult than the busy workdays, I'm more aware of the things that I dont have when I can compare myself to others ((hugs)).

Yeah, weekends are the worst because I'm by myself. It just seems like unending nothingness.

Feelings are rubbish. I was starting to feel happy. Things seemed like they were going somewhere, but nothing happened and it's hard to readjust to being alone again even though nothing much really happened.

I liked the hugs and I liked the attention, but it was little bits of attention every so often. I thought it would turn into more. I'm disappointed.

At first I wasn't that fussed, I didn't care if it was just silly flirting, but then we seemed to get along so well and I started to like him.

I wish this hadn't happened.

Ugh, I don't think this is helping. A problem shared is a problem halved, so they say. But I don't feel any better. I think I need a break from the forum for a while. I'm going to stop complaining about how I feel. Maybe if I stop thinking about it I'll stop crying all the time.

I think it's best to tell your intentions as soon as possible. It will save you time and you won't have your hopes so high if he rejects you.

Bear in mind that we see other relationships from the outside, where they probably always look happier. We tend to think most people have found someone by now, and I suppose that's true, but that doesn't even mean most coupled people are happy.

Does it bother you more that this individual isn't into you because of who they really are, or because of how you imagine you'd be together? Too often I've fallen for my idea of a person, felt hurt when they didn't like me, and later understood that once I really looked at who they are they were someone I'd never be happy with as a couple. In other words, a great person, but not great for me.

Things are hard now, but if we didn't feel so bad at times then we couldn't feel so good at others. When you find the right person, these hard feelings will feel very distant.

I am the same age as you and it sounds like your dating life has been fairly similar to mine. But you should feel good that you have as much going for you as you do. I feel good about myself that I have a job and a car, and despite being shy I still manage to join in group activities and do some volunteer work. Sometimes when I am dating I enjoy it but it can be very draining. Anyways, the point is that you shouldn't beat yourself up just because you don't have a successful relationship. Some people aren't successful at a relationship these days until they are in their 40's or 50's.

Sometimes it doesn't help talking about something unfortunately But I think you shouldn't stress about it so much, been in a relationship isn't necessarily good as mentioned above and I know that for a fact I have never been completely happy in any of the relationships I have had

Big *hugs* from me, hope your having a better day today.

That's an interesting question. This person and I get on really well and we have a similar kind of outlook on life. If he doesn't want me and we are so alike, who is going to want me? That's what hurts. How am I going to find someone I get along with this well again?

Actually, what hurts is, if he does like me, why is this dragging on so long? I'm just assuming he isn't interested, but I still think there might be something there. It's frustrating. I'm having problems finding an appropriate moment to discuss it, I don't even know what I'd say if we did get a quiet moment.

Hey hurtloam you like problem solving?

I was thinking about you approachability thread, which I related to. Sometimes the problem need to be re-thought so you can look at from a new angle. If we have limitations, maybe it is best not to trying emulate what we don't have, instead find way that minimises the pitfalls put our best foot forward. Be smart about it.

I'm in much the same situation as you, though I need to care a bit more.

I would warn about getting to infatuated with someone too early, however I have gone too far that other way. It is good that you are passionate.

Do what you think is best and understand why you're making the choices you'll make. That's the best way to not feel like you've failed. I don't know him, so it's hard to say more. Like others have said, I'm a similar age and have had similar dating experience. Many times I've felt like I'm a "perfect" match with someone who isn't interested, because they don't see things the way I do (for whatever reason). I'm not saying that's how he feels, just that mutual attraction can feel so difficult, mysterious, and arbitrary. I hope things work out for you, but don't let this one experience define your entire love life if they don't.

Sometimes I do see happy couples who don't really seem to have anything in common. I have dated a girl recently who I had a lot in common with but just didn't like her well enough for a relationship. I didn't really enjoy talking to her, and she did annoying things that bothered me. So it isn't always about having things in common, sometimes it is more how well your personalities compliment each other.

Actually that's what I meant. We have a good rapport and a similar perspective on things, not so much a similarity in hobbies.

Maybe I am just annoying I guess.