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14 Mar 2011, 5:36 pm

emlion wrote:
he should be driven away.
he could have such a perfect girl.


I'd do anything to have a GF like you. Don't think that bad of yourself!

We all have problems and you've had it very rough in the past. You just had one of the last bad links to a bad past removed.. chris is behind bars and all that's left to overcome is the drinking issue.

baby steps lead to leaps. :)



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14 Mar 2011, 5:37 pm

and cutting.



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14 Mar 2011, 5:38 pm

emlion wrote:
irn bru would have been good.


:lol: I love how Irn Bru is everywhere in Scotland! Every pub - Irn Bru and Tennant's draught!

When all the Ranger's fans trashed Manchester after the UEFA Cup final all I saw were cans of both of them everywhere! :lol: But also: :evil:



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14 Mar 2011, 5:38 pm

it's because irn bru is awesome



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14 Mar 2011, 5:40 pm

emlion wrote:
and cutting.


I bet the reason for that is the same as for drinking. Either way, baby steps.



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14 Mar 2011, 5:42 pm

emlion wrote:
it's because irn bru is awesome


Don't like it all the time but it's SOOO nice when you've not had it for ages! :lol:



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14 Mar 2011, 5:43 pm

I guess you can't make everything go away instantly but keep trying. Yes, you slipped up. People on diets or giving up smoking normally slip up. It happens. The important thing is that you're trying and you keep at it. Baby steps is about right.

I don't think I've actually tried Irn Bru.



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14 Mar 2011, 5:44 pm

at least i didn't end up passed out this time.



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14 Mar 2011, 5:46 pm

emlion wrote:
at least i didn't end up passed out this time.

It shouldnt have to be this way. Of all the possible coping mechanisms out there you chose possibly 2 of the worse.



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14 Mar 2011, 5:47 pm

Gremmie wrote:
I don't think I've actually tried Irn Bru.


8O 8O Why not? It's a lovely British soft drink, just behind Vimto in goodness! :lol:



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14 Mar 2011, 5:47 pm

it's all i've ever known.
and i keep away from the drugs and casual sex now.



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14 Mar 2011, 5:49 pm

emlion wrote:
it's all i've ever known.
and i keep away from the drugs and casual sex now.


I've never been able to do the casual sex and cutting has never appealed to me but I've used drugs and drink to forget things and pass the time for years but it doesn't work. You need things in your life to take you're mind off them until you're past them.



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14 Mar 2011, 5:50 pm

i'm working on it.
slowly.
i was a lot worse a year ago.

i just wish he'd come home.



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14 Mar 2011, 5:56 pm

emlion wrote:
i'm working on it.
slowly.
i was a lot worse a year ago.

i just wish he'd come home.


Just try not to dwell on it too much, he'll be back in time. Alot's happened recently and I'm sure when he thinks about it all wherever he is he'll understand a little. But you really can't make commitments to him which you're unable to keep, that leads to distrust.

Maybe try an OU course on something, learn at your pace and keep yourself occupied. What you learn could lead to an interestin career that'd help you stay busy in the future.



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14 Mar 2011, 5:57 pm

i know.
it's the broken promises he hates.



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14 Mar 2011, 5:59 pm

emlion wrote:
i know.
it's the broken promises he hates.


Well stick to promises about cutting for now and slowly stop with the drink. Unless you have an addictive personality (which since you've given up other drugs I take it you don't?) if kept in reasonable check the drinking can be phased to mainly social.