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02 Oct 2007, 8:42 pm

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03 Oct 2007, 1:15 am

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Everyone has seen me as "Tim, the future geologist". Now, I am worried that people will think differently of me.

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No they won't. Your job doesn't define who you are, and the people who know you will respect and admire you for your good qualities and personality, job or no job.
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As for relationships, I still don't feel any better.

My search for a girlfriend may be permanently limited to other Aspies.

Tim

You are not alone in this department. You are an optimistic guy, and you try new things. I can't say that about some people who post here. I have hope that you will find a relationship that suits you one day.
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don't give up tim!

im walking a hard lonely road here too... i think about quitting every day.



just keep trying.... i know it sounds lame, but it's what i tell myself :oops:

hope you feel better soon

Agreed. I have so many sh***y days now, I've lost count. I often feel like I am losing my mind, and losing hope. Yes, I am also an AS man in his 20's in University. They say life is easier for people with AS as they get older and find their way, I am sure this will prove true for all of us.



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03 Oct 2007, 10:03 am

as long as you crave for friends or a girlfriend, you will suffer! The origin of suffering is the desire, kill the desire, and you will be relieved from your suffering. The best advice i can give you, still its barely worth typing.



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03 Oct 2007, 9:23 pm

Bodorus wrote:
as long as you crave for friends or a girlfriend, you will suffer! The origin of suffering is the desire, kill the desire, and you will be relieved from your suffering. The best advice i can give you, still its barely worth typing.


Until then, what should I do about my lack of companionship and intense sexual frustration?

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03 Oct 2007, 9:35 pm

Tim_Tex wrote:
My search for a girlfriend may be permanently limited to other Aspies.


That doesn't sound like such a bad thing to me. 8)



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03 Oct 2007, 9:40 pm

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Tim_Tex wrote:
My search for a girlfriend may be permanently limited to other Aspies.


That doesn't sound like such a bad thing to me. 8)


How so?

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03 Oct 2007, 9:40 pm

Because aspie girls rule! :)



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03 Oct 2007, 9:45 pm

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Because aspie girls rule! :)


Ah, I see! :D

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03 Oct 2007, 10:23 pm

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Tim, why did you move to an area full of people with such different attitudes? Sounds like you went to the beach, and now you're upset because there's sand everywhere.

And if you moved there because you couldn't learn what you wanted to in a more liberal area, do you think you can just say to hell with them all for three or four years or whatever it is, and then move after you graduate? Seems like if you can't, you may have to go back to Houston for a bit, and then try to start up again somewhere less backwards.


I went up there because it was the cheapest school I could find where I could take algebra and trig-based physics (as opposed to calculus-based) and only 2 semesters of calculus (as opposed to 3).

If I could have afforded it, I would have gone to the University of Washington.

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Don't you even think UW is a reasonable place to attend. Washington and Oregon are the most vile, corrupt, and blatantly Eastern Bloc states you'll find in the Union. You're talking about a state with a convicted sexual abuser who lied on his BAR exam as a state senator, and a woman who pulled a Gore 2000 election rigging to get the governor's seat. Not to mention the highest meth and identity theft crimes in the States are all concentrated up here.

Finally, like someone previously mentioned, the women here are just filthy animals that no one, no matter how crawling with STDs they were, would want to stick their fertility rod into.


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04 Oct 2007, 5:22 am

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juliekitty wrote:
Tim, why did you move to an area full of people with such different attitudes? Sounds like you went to the beach, and now you're upset because there's sand everywhere.

And if you moved there because you couldn't learn what you wanted to in a more liberal area, do you think you can just say to hell with them all for three or four years or whatever it is, and then move after you graduate? Seems like if you can't, you may have to go back to Houston for a bit, and then try to start up again somewhere less backwards.


I went up there because it was the cheapest school I could find where I could take algebra and trig-based physics (as opposed to calculus-based) and only 2 semesters of calculus (as opposed to 3).

If I could have afforded it, I would have gone to the University of Washington.

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Don't you even think UW is a reasonable place to attend. Washington and Oregon are the most vile, corrupt, and blatantly Eastern Bloc states you'll find in the Union. You're talking about a state with a convicted sexual abuser who lied on his BAR exam as a state senator, and a woman who pulled a Gore 2000 election rigging to get the governor's seat. Not to mention the highest meth and identity theft crimes in the States are all concentrated up here.

Finally, like someone previously mentioned, the women here are just filthy animals that no one, no matter how crawling with STDs they were, would want to stick their fertility rod into.


Still probably better than any place in Texas.

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04 Oct 2007, 5:49 am

juliekitty wrote:
Tim_Tex wrote:
My search for a girlfriend may be permanently limited to other Aspies.


That doesn't sound like such a bad thing to me. 8)



I was thinking something similar, but seeing as how I'm a married old fart on the other side of the world it probably doesn't help much! :wink:

Still, I'm glad you're feeling a bit better.



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04 Oct 2007, 9:41 am

opal wrote:
juliekitty wrote:
Tim_Tex wrote:
My search for a girlfriend may be permanently limited to other Aspies.


That doesn't sound like such a bad thing to me. 8)



I was thinking something similar, but seeing as how I'm a married old fart on the other side of the world it probably doesn't help much! :wink:

Still, I'm glad you're feeling a bit better.


There aren't any Aspie women anywhere near me, and no one is willing to travel to meet me.

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04 Oct 2007, 10:21 am

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I thought I knew what my true calling was, now I'm not so sure. I feel a greater sense of urgency because of my age (27). If I had been doing this when I was 18 or 19, I would be more relaxed.

Tim


I am 30 years old. I started college last fall with the dream of being a psychiatric nurse (ironic huh?). I just recently changed my major to psychology with a minor in communicative disorders due to the nursing courses. I could handle them...until I had to do things on REAL people....hehehe....guess I can't use dummies forever! At first I was devastated. I felt my life lost its calling. Now, thanks to a teacher this semester, it has been found again.
She and I have spoken at length about the research and treatments for autism and asperger's as well as the areas lacking in the DSM-IV diagnostics, particularly for adults. She began involving me in her research. My passion for it came out. Now I eagerly look forward to my psych. classes.
Don't give up. I know life is hard. You have time. I just married the love of my life last year (29). It was worth the wait. Rather than him just being able to "deal" with my disability, he fell in love with me BECAUSE of my aspie traits. If you give up, you will only be certain of one thing...you will never find your love or your calling.


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05 Oct 2007, 5:56 am

Hi Tim

It's been a couple of weeks since you first posted this thread - how are you feeling about things now? Have they improved at all?

I really hope they have - you're normally such a happy bloke :wink:

Lorna



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05 Oct 2007, 10:33 am

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Hi Tim

It's been a couple of weeks since you first posted this thread - how are you feeling about things now? Have they improved at all?

I really hope they have - you're normally such a happy bloke :wink:

Lorna


I am doing much better as far as the academics part goes. I took a career test last week, and it gave me a list of other fields of study that might be of interest to me.

As for the social/romantic part, I am still in a rut.

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05 Oct 2007, 11:43 am

About friends....imaginary are best, as a rule. As far as a GF for you, have you considered inflatable (anatomically correct)?

I take myself on dates and I'm good company too. Just ask me.





Tim, about academics/work: We all know you're smart. I guess the hard part is finding the channel for you that works.


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