he still won't leave it alone.

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05 Mar 2011, 6:39 pm

Let him. You two are in a relationship. You're supposed to help eachother.



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05 Mar 2011, 6:40 pm

i meant he wants to sort my face out.
i don't want to talk about that.

what am i supposed to say to him?
that i'm too stupid to sort my own problems out?
that i thought it'd be a good idea to go outside where i knew bad things would happen?
that it's my fault all these bad things are happening?

how will any of it help. it'll just make him sad.



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05 Mar 2011, 6:43 pm

emlion wrote:
i meant he wants to sort my face out.
i don't want to talk about that.

what am i supposed to say to him?
that i'm too stupid to sort my own problems out?
that i thought it'd be a good idea to go outside where i knew bad things would happen?
that it's my fault all these bad things are happening?

how will any of it help. it'll just make him sad.


If he knows what's going on then he's gonna be sad anyway. Especially if he can see that you're hurting but won't come to him. Let him help you

And it is not your fault at all. When people are in a relationship, aren't they supposed to be there for each other and help each other? If he had a problem, wouldn't you want him to talk to you about it instead of beign scared you'd think he was stupid? He's not gonna think that at all. Sit down and tell him how you feel.

What do you mean about him sorting your face out btw?



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05 Mar 2011, 6:43 pm

Just tell him everything that's bothering you. Let him comfort you. :\

Is it shame that makes not want him to touch you?

And I'm sorry but I don't understand what you mean by sort your face out.



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05 Mar 2011, 6:44 pm

he knows how to talk. when i talk it doesn't make sense.

nothing.



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05 Mar 2011, 6:44 pm

if he touches me, he'll feel everything, all the scars, everything.



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05 Mar 2011, 6:46 pm

Then ask for him to be patient while you sort out what you want to say, I'm sure he's okay with that. :\

So it is shame. That was the past. You are not in the past. You are here now. You think I like having some of the scars I have? Some of them are from terrible memories. But they are the past. They can't hurt me or anyone. Same goes for you.



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05 Mar 2011, 6:51 pm

tomorrow.
i'll let him then.
it'll be better then.
less noticable then.



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05 Mar 2011, 6:52 pm

emlion he's your bf - he loves you, and from your posts about him, he obviously fancies the f**k out of you! So scars aren't going to matter to him, especially as he already knows about them, right?

Also don't worry about not being able to explain yourself well or get the words right. Pretty much anyone in this situation would be the same, whether they usually have difficulty with talking or not

He's not gonna care about any of that - his main concern will be how you are feeling and whether or not you are safe



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05 Mar 2011, 6:54 pm

Well it's a start. For now just relax. Take a hot shower if it calms you. Just try and calm yourself. Try my music therapy suggestion if you need ideas. :P



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05 Mar 2011, 6:54 pm

emlion wrote:
tomorrow.
i'll let him then.
it'll be better then.
less noticable then.


OK. Try and get some sleep. And don't go out doing anything dangerous

Sorry I sound like I'm talking to you as if you're a kid or something. i don't mean it that way - I've just had friends in the past who've reacted to things in similar ways and I don't wanna see you get hurt



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05 Mar 2011, 6:55 pm

Or cuddle milli. Dogs don't judge 8)



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05 Mar 2011, 6:55 pm

i'm sick of lying to you.
when i went outside - chris was there.

i don't want Stefan to touch my face, because it hurts.
and my neck hurts.



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05 Mar 2011, 6:56 pm

what did chris do to you?



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05 Mar 2011, 6:56 pm

I'll make cupcakes for you. :D



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05 Mar 2011, 6:56 pm

same old.
maybe he'll leave me alone now.
got what he wanted.