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I hat when people say go with the flow, it is so annoying. I am just not that person. I do not want to be some wimp that jsut gives in all the time and does not care about other people just for the ake of going with the flow.

For me, getting annoyed over that would depend on the context. Most of the times that I have heard people use the expression, it has not been to say that one should do what everyone else does, like a flock of sheep. That, certainly, would annoy me too (although I have started learning at last to accept neurotypical people's conformity handicap a bit better, and not to hold it against them).

But mostly when I have heard "go with the flow", it has been to say that one should allow a natural process to run its course and to not fight it when fighting the impossible would produce only stress and yield no positive result.

This would not be a wimpish choice.

For example, if someone (such as a friend of a friend) really doesn't like you at all, and you see this person often and can't seem to do anything to change his attitude towards you, "going with the flow" would mean something like relaxing about the issue, trying not to end up in situations where you have to be together more often than required, not reacting angrily to provocations, but also making no special effort to fix the relathionship. Whether or not such advice is the best advice in every situation is not the issue; it's just that I don't think that it is evidence of a wholly invalid perspective.

I was just using it as an example of how the term "go with the flow" could indicate something which is a strategy rather than a default, sheeplike copycat behaviour. I used the "friend of a friend" example because I thought it would be a good example of having the choice to go with the flow because such a person would be hard to avoid completely due to being part of the same extended clique (or club, or society). I did not suggest that it would be the best or the only strategy for every situation, or even for every situation which first that description.