Expecting a very lonely summer

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I am going through a very stressful time right now.

On Monday (the day after tomorrow), I go back to San Marcos after two weeks of visiting my family in Houston. I have some classes to take over the summer, so that I can graduate in December.

I have managed to make a few friends on campus, but they will be likely out for the summer. I had been abandoned by an online friend for no reason (she suddenly stopped answering my e-mails and blocked me from IM without an explanation), and I will be separated from a very good friend I have in Houston. And because of my school schedule, I may not get to go back to see my family and friend in Houston until Thanksgiving.

Even worse, I am going to end up missing my cousin giving birth to her first child, and missing another cousin getting married--the weekend before I graduate.

Right now, I just need some friends to talk to.

You know, I'm going through a similar thing. I just moved across the country to a new town in January. My AS BF is going to spend the summer (2 mos of it!) in NC while I am here alone in OR. I only have one friend here, and her attention is divided since she has so many other friends.

I could either mope and get depressed or change my perspective and think about what there is to get out and do. Clubs, churches, groups, etc. are good places to start, if you have a hobby, interest or area where you need support.

I actually had a dream about changing my perspective and then I started looking forward to the summer instead of dreading it.

I hope both of us have a good (and not lonely!) summer.

My last couple summers suck. This summer, if I donn't lose my social life, will be a good summer. Well, maybe you should just focus on your studies.

Im in for a very quiet winter, not summer though. So I will be cold and alone.

Yeah same for me, thats how summers typically are. Im back home to take summer school at the local college, pretty much most of my friends are out of state. Have barely talked to any people my age in person since I left school. Im trying to make this summer at least a little less lonely by trying to chat online with people, calling up a couple friends. I know some people but knowing from past experiances, its always so hard to get people to hangout with me.

My last summer of college I was completely alone at my college apartment (and without a car no less!) while my mom and sister got to leave the country for a family wedding. All of my close friends had already graduated from college or had no obligation to remain in town like I did so I was pretty alone. I did have one acquaintance who moved into the same apartment complex I did and so I would occasionally visit him.

I honestly don't know how I survived such sanity though. I went to the library alot because of my lack of internet access. Yeah that's right, not only was I stranded on campus but without Internet in my apartment! Augh! Imagine how much that sucked on the weekends when everything on campus shuts down early in the summer!

I would be grateful just to have full internet access where you are at (and a car if you're lucky). On a boring day you could just drive to somewhere just for exploration or boredom I do it now all the time.

Being a Republican-voting Christian at a college that is somewhat of a "Berkeley Lite" (in Texas, no less!) doesn't help.

And many of the people who have the same interests as me tend to fall into the "artsy hipster" category, and I wouldn't fit in with them because of my religious and political beliefs.

Yet my interests turn off fellow conservatives.

I'm not one of those gun-toting, Bible-thumping rednecks who has country music blaring out of a pickup truck at full blast. I like animated sitcoms, indie/foreign films, indie music, art, and being outdoors.

Besides the two friends at school, I know nobody here. My best friend lives in Houston, as does my family. Everybody else lives in areas as spread out as California, Minnesota, Connecticut, and other countries.

I am the most upset about the friend who cut me off. I didn't do or say anything that would knowingly offend her. No warning. No explanation. It just happened out of nowhere. And she was my favorite person to talk to.

Same here

Even here on WP, it's like that. If you're conservative, you are either ignored or verbally attacked.

Tim Tex, Im very sorry about your friend who abandoned you. I know that can hurt as h**l....

and I also expect a lonely summer. My husband hates the summer and escapes it with working all the time, leaving me alone at home dreaming about beeing outdoors and to see the ocean but I dont want to do that ALONE!! !!

It's like I have to pretend to be someone I'm not to impress even other Aspies. And I have done it before in the past.

Because of what my friend did to me, I had gone from being easy-going and laid-back to angry and high-strung all the time, and having several meltdowns a day.

^I know what you mean, I can and have surely felt the same in my past but for some reason I dont feel it here on WP. I dont know what happened to you but I wish you didnt have to feel that way towards aspies here

The only way I can get my friend back is to show up in her town unannounced, hoping I can find her and get some sort of explanation.

Basically, my only conservative friend abandoned me, and liberal ones want nothing to do with me because I'm Christian and conservative. And I am stuck in this town, and can't go anywhere else to meet people.

I'm gathering she is/was on WP at one point? Any chance of her seeing your posts?

I'm sorry things are so stressful right now, Tim. You really do have a lot to deal with at the moment.